Going through a divorce and needs advice!?

A friend of mine is going through a bad divorce but she can't afford a lawyer. They were having trouble for the longest time and she's tried all she could to save the marriage. However, her husband just isn't committed anymore. He doesn't want to work things out and he's not willing to try at all. Two weeks ago, he told her that everything is a lie and he is no longer wearing his wedding ring. He said he just doesn't love her anymore. And so they broke up.

Right away, he started seeing other girls. And on Easter Sunday, he got himself a girlfriend and it's only been two weeks since they mutually decided to get a divorce. They still live together but lately, he hasn't come home at all. She came over to my place to hang out for a couple of hours yesterday. When she came home that night, her camera and their HDTV is gone.

The guy can be physically abusive but she felt like she has to stay home so he wouldn't take anything else. She barraged the door with the couch so he doesn't come in at night because she felt she is no longer safe there. However, today she took all the valuables out of their apartment and brought it to her mother's house. I suggested that she just change the lock.

She is planning to go to the police tomorrow to tell them he hasn't come home for a while. She doesn't have any money and rent is due in a few days.

She tried to work things out with him but he just refused it all. Now, he is taking things without telling her. I don't know what to tell her as I have no experience with this. She was completely dependent on her husband. She was going to school and going to work (part time) while he was paying all the bills. Recently, on his blog, it seems that he is spending money on his new girlfriend.

What should she do when he takes their things without telling her? Should she go to the police to tell them what's going on? Are there things she should do to have the law favor her in court? What would help guarantee that she won't be penniless after their divorce? Any more advice to help make things easier for her when they go to court for a divorce? What should be her next step now?

Al B

she needs to go to legal aid and get an attorney as soon as possible. The fact that he was physically abusive means she might get some help from a domestic violence shelter as well. There will probably be a division of assets perhaps as well. I will give you a site where she can get some help regarding the violence and they may be able to help with the legal aspects as well. If she has proof of the legal violence she may even be able to have him arrested for that but legal help is needed!!

Jery E

so. what you are saying is, HE went in and STOLE stuff that HE bought with HIS money. hmm.

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