Good wife does this ?

William Wallace

A good wife is a lady who loves her husband, does for him as he does for her. I do for my wife and she does for me. My wife works a fulltime job, she cooks, she cleans and she has an endless amount of energy, wow. But anyway, one shouldn't have to ask the other in my opinion they should want to help out the other. I really don't help with the food a whole lot, I make the sweet tea sometimes, I season the meat sometimes, I take out the garbage when I can remember, I try to make sure my clothes make it to the laundry basket, I help with our son, make him do as he is told when his mother tells him to do something, I never make the bed, which we came to an understanding years ago when I had made the bed and she came home one afternoon and remade it and I caught her and said thats the last time I will ever do it, just because the animals was not in the right position, anyway it is a give and take. I would expect more from her if she did not have a fulltime job, just like she would of me. It is not so much as obey him as it is to me to be asked before she done something that we both should be deciding about. You also have to take in account what he was around growing up, his dad might have ruled the house and he is being how he was raised. So there is compromise that will be needed from you. I do believe women make more compromises in a marriage than men do, it really all depends on the nature of a person. I hope I was some help, Good luck.

Mrs. Pickles the lunch lady

I hope you are joking.....Do these thingsonly if YOU want to. Slavery went out long ago, girl. You are a person, not a toy. Tell him to stuff it.

crysly1

a good wife is the same as a good husband
u both should work together as a team
not as a a unit as a team
try and talk to him and make him c for u to be a good wife he needs to be a good husband
good luck

Anthony F

He should create the mood so that you want to give it up, as you put it, when he wants. In the meantime, I'm of the old school, but just as I think it is the husband's responsibility to put food on the table, I think it is her responsibility to prepare it....not that he can't or shouldn't help, just as you might be required to help in the financial department as well.

Stephen K

Well, they he must do in return, for he also took a wedding vow to "obey"; otherwise, it's a slave-master relationship

Lemony

So he wants everything for nothing? No offence but he sounds like a ****.

ndnqt1966

I DON'T THINK SO!! What cave did he climb out of?

blonde n love

Ok so I wasn't going to answer this but I had too. You need to get out now! This is control. A good wife does clean and cook and take care of the children but a good husband will help. Never NEVER obey him for the love of God. That is stupid. You need to stand up and be a woman. Don't let him start now b/c he will never ever stop.

ocean's mommy

eh, not really. i suppose a perfect wife it makes, FOR HIM, but when you have to jump every time he wants you to, youll lose yourself real fast. dont let him bully you your his wife, not his slave

newtooocala

Absolutely not!
That is abuse! A relationship is supposed to be sharing, loving and kind. No one ever said that you get screwed only when he wants, cook and clean.

Either stand your ground or get out!

foosieboy1953

good for him. not u

charm_link

To love honor and obey is in the marriage vows, however he stated those same words to you. Food for thought. I think the obey doesnt mean give it up whenever he wants. Sounds like he wants a slave, not a wife!

Spring

LOL
Yeah right... That word was not even in my vows.

xXAlanaXx

If he is serious when he says that I would worry. It sounds like he can become obsessive and controlling.

wifes should not have to obey their husbands... they are not the mans property. but simply respect their wishes and feelings because they love him...

nor should men have to obey women for the same reason.

men and women should share equally in all housework since both are living there.

keep aware to make sure he doesn't become abusive and controlling.. it can often start from DEMANDING to be obeyed

thepainter

put it this way...do you bark too?? only a dog listens like that.

Arvind N

In 30 years we'll still be quoting the "stone age," as a guide line. This is the same argument they went fought back in the 50's. Its hard enough to make a marriage work, you don't need the advice of insecure ppl to work a web of distrust. Doing housework is not "servitude."

sam1230

Is he living in the Stone age?!? Saying something like that is not only disrespectful but ignorant. Sounds like he doesn't want a woman to spend the rest of his life with, he just needs a maid with benefits.

psycho magnet

Back in the day, OOH YEAH, that is the way it was. Not as much today. There are still a very few women that are that way. But, your hub is not being practical about this. He needs to understand that there are times in any ones life that they DO NOT FEEL LIKE "GIVING IT UP" as you put it. If you are tired, do not feel good / "have a headache", or just not in the mood, he should really understand that.

Sydney Greine

Whenever he wants it ? The clean and cook part yes,

Arthur W

Does he think he still lives next door to Fred and Wilma Flinestones and the Rubbles too? Tell him to wake up its 2007 and get a reality check

c s

FYI its 2007 tell him to wake up.

Colleen O

Tell your husband that your wedding vows did NOT include the word "obey" and that he's not your father but your husband. And no, you do not have to "give it up" whenever he wants, you have the right to say no.

zack

hahahhahahahahhahahaha the answers to this are gonna be hilarious

lost man

importantly.... is what do you think, not us!

it depends the type of life style 2 of you want. you 2 need to talk about this if you are not comfortable about his suggestion.

there is no wrong or right in a marriage, love come on top of logic. and it should be both way.

respect is another key factor to a happy relationship & family life.

follow your heart and stop thinking.

chileaug l

Nowadays both man and woman is equal. If the wife have the ability to do well in her career, why should she stay at home and become a full-time housewife?

Your husband should update his thinking, we are now in 2007 not in 1930's!

Brandi

Not so much

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