HELP...My boyfriend is lying to my face.?

Lauren

Just be honest with him. Tell him that you saw the emails and that you're really hurt that he would even take his time to chat with women. Tell him that you have no problem with all of his female friends that he has now, but to chat with women online is on another level. Ask him how he would feel if he was the one reading emails and they were convo's between you and some other guy. Don't break up with him over this but make sure you set him straight because if you don;'t, those conversations might turn into something else. Make sure he knows that you are aware of this and act as if slowly but surely you're losing trust in him. This way, he will try his best (if he really wants to get married to you and is in love with him) to make sure that he doesn't mess up!! =)

Kristin

Leave him, obvious answer. He is CHEATING on your and LIEING to you about it.

Ashley

um, leave him.

SimplyyAshh

If he's lying to you and sneaking behind your back he's not fiancee/husband material.

I'd leave him before you get even more hurt.
You deserve better than that.
Best of luck to you.

hawaii8998

leave him his lying thatsa no good

mrs_G

Dump him. Liars never wake up one day cured of their lying, they just get more adept at it. You'll have a future full of heartache if you stay with him.

well its up to you but dint be taken as a fool and investigate the matter thoroughly.

paranormal chicken geek

I'd find another one. if he flat out lied to you once, don't you think this kind of thing will be common in the future

mimzy

You don't trust him - never will. What's the use in marrying someone you don't or can't trust? Break it off and find someone that won't lie to you.

Cheyenne

break up with that gerk then he will be sorry!!!!

utep99

Take it from a guy that has been happily Married for 21 years. Your wife (or husband in your case) MUST be your best friend and you have to be able to talk about anything (and I do mean anything) If he is lying to you at this stage your relationship is in trouble and in all likeliness will only get worse. Find somebody who is your best friend and who you want to always be around no matter what ( I did) you will never be sorry. Good Luck and I wish you a very happy life.

Mel

If ur not comfortable confronting him about this, then there's no way in hell you should be looking at engagement rings!

You need to be able to talk to each other about everything when you're married.

StinginBtrfly

Hey, dude, he left the evidence on YOUR computer. You had right to read it simply by being the one who owned the thing he was messing around on.

Confront him. And, no, there isn't going to be an easy way to do it, but just know that you're not the one in the situation who should be feeling uncomfortable or ashamed. If you really want to move forward in this relationship, you can't have this hanging over your head.

benthere

one lie leads to another it always works that way and people only lie if they know what they are doing is wrong... do u really want a life time with this man who is already lying to u?

defianceuvscience

If the rest of the people {besides my wife} are as similar as everything else that needs a name to distinguish it from the other products with the exact same function,., tell him all woimen are so much the same their lives are what make them seem speciAl thats all!

MatthewF

if its the kind of email thats muah muah muah... then tell him to stop.. or else dot dot dot... if its the friendly hello... then its ok for him to have friends that are girls maybe hes just trying to one two three you... if hes upseting you to the point of sadness then dump him then find a new boyfriend...

littleblondevegan

It hurts..and that's for sure. The absolute truth is that if someone you LOVE is lying to your face...you have to let them go for your own health and sanity. I stayed with a guy who treated me horrrrrrrrrrrrrible beyond words for two years, woke up one day and was like wow, I'm THAT weak? I dumped him and MET THE MAN OF MY DREAMS shortly thereafter, a real lifesaver. You're worth not being lied to. And you know what, if someone's gonna go and sneak behind your back you're TOTALLY in the right going through their stuff, because obviously....they DO have something to hide. Be strong! :) LIVE YOUR LIFE!:)

tommysgirl

If he left them open on your computer, maybe he WANTED you to find & read them. Some men are strange like that. They get too close to a woman, and then screw up on purpose. Maybe he is having second thoughts, or is scared to commit. Or maybe he needs to BE committed,lol!

Steph

confront him and ask about it, dont jump into conclusions, i agree with the person that said there are two sides to every story,

just talk about it it may not be as bad as it seems :)

tally

Lying is never ok. But neither is snooping at someone else's stuff. Sounds to me like you guys both have some trust issues and DEFINITELY shouldn't get engaged or married until you have both done some growing up.

Cotton

You didn't respect his privacy, so you had to lie to get him to admit something you already knew - and you are mad at him for lying MAYBE to preserve a relationship with you....who set this in motion.
I think you should BOTH Come clean - and until then, forget the engagement rings.

mauirayne

A good relationship lasts because both people know what battles are worth fighting and what are not.

I guess it depends on what he is writing to these girls. Is it only girls he writes to? You have to have a relationship based on trust, and if there is no trust, don't get married, cause you will be the couple who at your wedding, people are placing bets on how long it will last. You do not want to be that couple.

I would confront him with what you saw.(if it seems that he is actually having on online relationship)..hey he left the page open. If he still lies, leave.

But if he is just making small talk emails, let him go, you do not want to be controlling cause you will chase him away.

Tommy T

Have a real talk with him... present your evidence and tell how you feel. Then leave him.

If you were a guy I'd tell you to be a man about it and have your mom break up with him for you... but you're a woman.

Good luck, sorry to hear it.

momof3

If you guys are thinking about getting married then he should respect your feelings. If you don't feel comfortable with him chatting with other women then he should stop without a fight. You could try just sitting him down and talking to him about it in a calm non accusatory way. Just ask him how he would feel about you talking to other guys. He needs to understand that you feel like he is still playing the field by talking to these other women. If you are going to be the person he is with for the rest of his life then those other women shouldn't be too hard to let go of. If he doesn't stop after you tell him how it makes you feel then you might want to consider giving it a little more time before making a life long commitment to him. If you don't trust him now then you need to develop trust before getting married or you could just end up disappointed. Best Wishes PS if you dont feel comfortable about telling him how you really feel now. Or if he gets mad when you do tell him then it probably will only get worse.

Xanadu

For your own good, just dump him. He wants to chat to other girls, he's not ready for marriage, he's ready to make you his mother (cook, clean, work, etc...)

I'm afraid it's just what needs to be done. Tell him you're not into playing these silly games and that you dont have time to fix all that's wrong with him, especially if he's going to deny it.

Kat

I would tell him you saw the emails he left on your computer and that you know he is lying and you don't believe him anymore because he so easily keeps lying to you..sometimes it has to be in your face approach so he knows you really know the truth..then he can't lie anymore..because he will know you really saw it .. I would NOT stay with someone who lies like this..you will be soooo sorry later on..you will never trust him or believe him...trust is something so important in a relationship..you don't deserve this..he is totally disrespecting you..I wouldn't put up with it..I wouldn't stay with someone like that..i would find someone who wanted to be with me..and only me..not someone who is a liar...Good luck !

spider

Maybe you should reconsider a long term relationship with this guy. If he lies now what will he do in the future?

unsung hero

Give him his walking papers. The guy is creepin around behind your back with other women, and he lies to your face.

That will only get worse after marriage.

*~*Iris C*~*

It depends on what he is saying to these women and what he is talking about, if it's perverted or disturbing stuff, then he might be playing you and IF thats the case, then you should leave him. But, like they say there's always two sides to every story and find out what is REALLY going on, you don't wanna regret anything. But, since he lied to you, you need to confront him.

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