HOW TELL MY HUSBAND THIS NICELY?

MummaKins

Sorry but it's time for some cold, hard facts.

Your husband needs to be told to get off his *** and get another job!!

He is not contributing to the household at all, now he wants you to pay for his child too?

Nope he needs to be told in no uncertain terms that it's long overdue, get out there, find a job and stop sitting around feeling sorry for himself!

MrsH

Sorry, but you married him knowing that he had a child. I'm fairly sure you've asked this question before, but if he needs to pay child support and they start going after him for back support, you are married and they can come after you whether you like it or not.

Perhaps get rid of his car.

candymom419

Please dont take this wrong. But, wow I wish we took home 5k a month.

try this. Men are better when they are showed. Get together with him, and show him everything you are telling us, but on paper. That way, he can see it for himself.

Sue B

Sell one of the cars, cut up the credit cards, send the kids to Public school. Tell him even if he just flips burgers he can afford his child support. You have to be very careful, because now that you are his wife and if he gets behind, they can legally withhold your wages to pay his debt..............I know this from experience!

Hit P.I.G AM

Its pretty simple, he either pays child support of he ends up in jail... whether or not he gets the money from you or from gainful employment is immaterial to the court,

He might be able to get it reduced if he can't find work..

Lulu 1 dtg2NY

tell him you will stop making his car payment to help his daughter... No wait he might like the idea...give him a list of all the payments and tell him its impossible...

orchard

Hey while we are all being asked so "nicely" to do things......
Ask him "nicely" if he would like to have the judge put him in jail for lack of support, or would he like to go get a job tomorrow?"
I don't care what the job is, just anything.
Or you can ask him nicely; "how do you feel about selling your vehicle to cover your child's support? seeing as you're not working, you don't need it"???

waiting for baby

he needs to make his child support payment
and pay for his own car you are helping like a good partner but it time he do his part

â™ˆGUMMYâœˆ BEARISH â™€â™€ [RIP KASEY]

Tell him that you are working a lot. Tell him that you are stressed. Honestly, tell him what you just told us. Communicating is so important when it comes to a relationship. Tell him that you feel bad for his daughter and you dont want to hurt his feelings or be rude but this is how you feel. Just one night bring it up.

Goodluck.

sweet_mocha_sista

He needs to pay his child support.In most states he can go to jail.Its hard to find a job now.The best thing that the two of you can do is cut back on your expenses.You might have to make do with out some things that you are used to having,but its no different then what every other American family is having to do.

Misty Blue

He can sell his car surely?

Katie P

tell your husband to get off his lazy a** and get a job and pay his own child support, can't you see he is milking you to the fullest, he could get a job if he really wanted to but he would rather mooch off you, he likes the lazy life, he figures you'll pay everything including his child support while he sits back and does nothing, I'm sorry but you have a lazy a** husband, he;s not a man he's a clown. stand up and make him get a job and tell him he can't mooch off you no more, good luck....

Irksome

If you make his child support payments he will never get a job.

Make it his incentive to get a job!!!

I don't think there's a nice way to say it, either way it's gonna come out "HELL NO"!!

2Westies

I don't think rudeness enters into this if you can't afford child support. Time for hubby to get a job, any job, to make his child support payments.

RedRabbit

First off, take care of yourself. If the cars are under your name, get rid of them. Go and buy a cheep car or take the bus. For your credit cards, pay one off at a time and then get rid of them except for one. You should also get rid of cable/dish, even sell the TV. Tell your husband to get a ******* job, or you are leaving for good. Do not put up with his BS. He is not a good husband or a father.

Lori

I think you should tell him everything you just told us.

Rosie

Tell him what you wrote, that it would be hard to make his child support payment. In my opinion don't make it harder on you for something your husband should be doing. Tell him nicely that he
needs to get a job because you can't do it all alone.

xoxoluvumaw

that's his kid he sould be the one 2 taking care of her.. say you cant afford it hun.... sorry but if you ask me hes being very selfish by asking you do something that's he could do but he wont make an effort to do so take care of yourself and dint feel guilty. IF YOU CANT DO IT YOU CANT DO IT. that's his RESPONSIBILITY

candyapplecat

You both need to figure out a way to do it. If he isn't looking for a job, then he needs to get out there and do his duty.

When you married him, he already had a kid and the child and if you can make car payments you can pay for the kid. My advice is to sell one of the cars.

mem11363

I am a 46 year old man, with a wife and 3 kids. Your husband is totally out of line asking you to do this. I mean totally, completely out of line.

He needs to get at least a good enough job to pay his support obligations. By the way, if he takes a low paying job, he can immediately go to court and get his payment obligations reduced.

ladyren

When you married him, you married the baggage. His daughter and his ex will be in your life foreevvvaaaaahhhhh , and if you didn't know that, uhhhh. How sad.

You and he don't have a choice in making child support payments unless you and he takes the ex to court.

Your problem is not the child support payments, hon, your problem is in a husband who feels no need to support a child he put on this planet, and that he would even ask YOU to pay for that child..... That that is another issue entirely.

How sad that he even feels it is YOUR financial responsibility to support HIS child.

And sadder still that you would even come close to accepting that!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What ARE you thinking?

I don't have adequate language to tell a a spineless jelly fish to get off his duff, and get a job...even if it is sweeping out the local hs gym at 2am, if that is all he can find.

tony

Tell him honey, donâ€™t want pay for your past mistakes. If you want pay a child support get a job yourself or your kid could live with us. Oh HIT you don't know what you talking about. If he doesn't have a job he won't have to pay it till he gets a job and than he pays what he owes. No one goes to jail unless they have a job and they wont' pay it.

Denver

Time to put the kids in public school and sell one car and replace it with a used car that is paid for. That will free up some cash for support. You are married. Your income is half his. Accept it. He will find a job. You need to just be patient and not so selfish.

Dani&Morgan

Get rid of one car, get rid of the credit cards, send the kids to public school and tell him to get a job or he can be out on his royal ***. His child support is his responsibility. He needs to get a job to cover it. Time to cut down what you can. Child support should be paid before credit cards though.

Clementine

What about him telling his daughter's mother to go without payments - it is her daughter after all, not yours. Maybe you can downsize things for a while, until he gets off his butt and finds work - anything! You gotta tell him that you had enough, and you will help him look, you can look together even sometimes, so he feels supported to look for a job.

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