HOW TO accept it as what it is and move onnnn!!!?

jude

all u have to do is think of what he did to u behind your back, and how much u cried over it, and everything happens for a reason, and we can't always see the reason right when it happens, but its usually because there is someone better for us down the road. when a man treats u like this it means he never really loved u like u loved him. and this wouldn't make for a very happy marriage. sometimes a person needs help to move on, like joining a therapy group that deals with relationship grief. sometimes u need a friend who won't judge u who will listen and u would find it there among people who knew what it was like to go through this. if he told u to find someone new, he means it and feels guilty he left u like he did, but he isn't coming back, and u need to focus on your future, not some man who loves someone else.

Wildflower

ugh.. that was mean!! You just need to look at the way he treated you and consider yourself lucky that he's not your problem anymore... focus on your life and making the most of it... you have plenty of time to find love.. and scrape him off your shoe like the scum he is.

Confused

Just move on. Guys are cruel whether they mean to be or not. They just think very simply and thats just what he felt so he told you. You are ONLY 27, you are not old at all. You are still young and you can still have a lot of fun. Just keep going out and enjoying yourself and meet new people. You have a life ahead of you, so enjoy it. Dont be in such a huge rush to try and settle down with someone. When your mr right comes, you will know it. Dont even worry or stress over the ex. He sounds like an idiot to me anyways.

happier days

Stop acting desperate and Start studying.
This guy's a joke.
You deserve better.
Now start to believe that you do.

sweetmama

success is the best revenge.. so put this on the back burner for now and study like crazy! YOU MUST DO GREAT on your medical exam!! After you finish with that -- take a good look at him and see him for what he is-- someone who is just not that into you-- immature and basically not on the same level as you. Believe me.. in a few years you will see that he did you a favor and you got lucky to get out of this when you did.

STUDY HARD

Sunshine

Screw him, he doesn't deserve you! What a punk! You deserve someone that adores you! You are suffering from low self-esteem, this is why you keep trying to win him back! He is a cheater and self centered, he doesn't care.

IndyGirl

After a YEAR of being apart you really have no business calling him cursing and crying, Honey.
If, after that much time has gone by... and yes, I DO get that you were with him for a long time, and yes, I DO get that he hurt you badly -- HOWEVER, you shouldn't still be that emotionally invested in him.
You sound like you've got TONS going for you with your budding medical career. You're just coming into your prime.
Go see a therapist if you're still this stuck, Sweetie.
Best to you!
xoxoxoxo

cool_cancerian

Yes, you are young.
Yes, you are smart.
Yes, you are likable.
You are already whole.
You, however, don't give yourself enough credit.

When you change your thoughts, you change your world.

I want to help you, okay? Here are two techniques which are particularly effective in discarding people (and things) from your thoughts.

Everything begins and ends in our thoughts.

The "X" technique: Visualize a huge red "X" and mentally superimpose it over the features of the person you are dismissing from your thoughts. You can use it even when he (she) is in your face talking to you and especially as you are drifting off to sleep. FOCUS ON the "X."

You are not doing anything to the person so he/she does not feel rejected, shamed or vengeful. You have to get rid of the thoughts of one person before you can ask your subconscious to bring the next "perfect for you" person into your life.

Each morning, pick 3 - 5 of these thoughts and run them through your mind all day. Put feeling into them. Make them you. You can create your own thoughts, just keep them short, in the present tense and avoid the word "NOT."

I like myself
I like being me
I am a good person
I am likable
people like me
I am intelligent
I am happy
I am happy being me
I exude confidence
I am independent
I am worthy of my respect
I respect myself
I solve problems quickly
my mantra is simplify, simplify, simplify
The "NO" word is my friend
"NO" works for me
I have a good memory
I retrieve detailed memories rapidly
I create my own reality
I am creating my destiny with each thought
I change my thoughts to suit my goals
I am never alone
God gave me my own Guardian Angel
I have my own Guardian Angel
my Guardian Angel is always with me
I call on my Guardian Angel when in crisis
I am kind
I am considerate
I am tolerant
I like people
I have good study habits
I get good grades
I enjoy studying
I am centred, poised and at peace within
I feel peaceful
I am diplomatic
I am tactful
I am astute
I am discerning
I have good self esteem
I am whole
I approve of myself
I am my own best conscience
I determine my actions

You can tell what sort of mental atmosphere a person has by listening to what he/she says. The thoughts in their inner script come out of their mouths.

A person can pull you down to his/her level, but you cannot elevate the person to yours, please don't make the mistake of thinking that you can.

Many people are just fillers in our life. They waltz in, dump their criticism (mostly criticism) worries and troubles on us then leave. They are not friends even though they may throw the word friend around like they think they know what one is. They are easy to spot. Lose them.

People orbit into and out of our lives constantly. The idea is to keep your ears open and a watchful eye for the person who treats you with respect and kindness.

Don't make excuses (even if just in your own mind) for people. You are not responsible for someone else's behaviour. If someone doesn't value your point of view or treat you kindly and respectfully, lose that person. Don't answer his/her calls, etc.

It takes 21 days to create a habit

Run most of these thoughts through your mind- until you are about 60 years old. You have a lot more control over your reality than you realize.

Incidentally, as a result of working on your inner script you deal with the public easily and come across as confident and poised. It also works in your favour, when you are interviewing for employment.

Change your thoughts (inner script) and you change your reality.

Enable yourself.

Good luck.

remember to vote.

goddess

Sounds like he's a loser, girl you are still young, you are considered old when you are 50 years old. Forget him there are plenty of men out there looking for someone just like you, he was not the one.

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