HUSBAND, being a ******.. please help?

2cool4you

You should go to a marriage counselor to figure out why he is mad at you. Don't try to fix things on your own, it will make the situation worse.

NoClue

If you are unhappy and it sounds like he is also, you should get a divorce. Don't stay together for this kids if you have any because they will hate both of you when they grow up... just don't stay in something you aren't happy, it's a waste of both of your lives!!!

Orion

If you want things to improve with your relationship then try looking for other people (friends) who you can talk to. Give him some space for a while. If you're a SAHM it's hard because often we become secluded and have little adult contact with anyone other than our spouses. This isn't healthy for you or your relationship. He is more likely to be receptive to conversation if it's not always about something important or a complaint. Try engaging him in some small talk. Find something he's interested in and talk about that. I know it doesn't seem fair and you probably feel it should be up to him and you're right. Sometimes when a relationship gets off track it just takes one person to put their pride aside and make the effort in the right direction to change it around. If he's not responsive to any of this you always have a choice to leave.

cwilsonhappylife

Honey i just went through this if he wont leave than you leave you dont have to do it now you can plan it out save up and before he knows its your gone and he is screwed you dont have to put up with that stuff there are womans shelters out there for people just like you if your not happy dont stay

Ida Crawford

Stop trying to get him to talk. We cannot control other people even if we are married to them. Just find yourself. Find your own truth & love within yourself. We cannot get that true love from anyone, until we love ourself. Just be still & quiet.

capt_tapes

kind of a catch 22. you want to talk and he's mad at you for talking too much. He won't leave and it sounds like you don't want to, you want him too. Once you are sure of what you want, I guess you'll probably do it.!

See_em

He may not have to respond to you, but he'll have to respond to a motion for divorce. If you're serious, file the paperwork.

#1 Lucy Fan

The obvious thing to do is leave. Why would you want to stay with someone knowing you're not happy?

DitziD

Leave. If he wont, you can. You have a right to be happy. You can always start from scratch. It might not be the best time in your life but it WILL be better then this. Good luck.

andrea_bazile

get a divorce and leave him and make him move out and does yall have kids and if so u and ur kids be wiht u instead of him cause he sounds like a looser and he sounds like he is up 2 osmething.

greenbaypackers1920

I think that he is bored with you and he said that you talk to much that making him mad?? why didn't he say something before??? I mean If something made me mad I always let my wife know... she knows from there...

For person like him and he said he will not leaving you??? but he ignores you and you have tried to apologized but he refused to listen... Seems that both of you already burned out of this relationship... Also I think you should leave because you said it been hard for you to talk to you to solve this plm.. End it now and You will find a better guy who listen and tell you if something you said made him mad would tell you.. smiling.. but you know for him he needs to grow up... and THings he doing to you not being very nice... and You had done nothing wrong since he keep it himself too long to fix the plm... that guy sure is A HOLE 1,110 percent.

tender loving dyke

Well if he doesn't want to leave then you leave. If you really don't want to be with him stop torturing yourself. He sounds like he is playing mind games with him. Go home pack yourself a bag and head off to a friends house. Let him know your not playing his dumb games anymore!!

*LuNa*

if it's your choice and you don't want to make it work, then file for divorce or leave him.. He can't force you to stay in a relationship were none of you are happy.

guesswhonotme7

Can you go stay with someone for a while? My sister in law wanted a divorce and her husband said he won't give her one and he would not move out of the house. So she packed up and left and found herself an apartment. If your unhappy, don't make him leave, just leave. You may feel better once you do. I don't know your situation, but if you tried and your still together then a part of you doesn't want him to leave either. You need to sit down and really talk things over or find out some counseling before you make a big drastic change that you might regret later on.

âˆ‚Î¹Î±Ð¸Î± â€ Matisyahuâ€

communication in something really important everywhere, if you don't have it, forget it

if you're not happy and he won't leave then you need to leave. you have to do what's right for you! best of luck :-)

Merrill L

If you don't want this marriage end it. Get a lawyer. Leave him. You don't have to stay in the relationship just because he doesn't want to leave.

Stefka

Stop trying to force him to be the man you want him to be and to act the way you want him to act. Focus instead on what you do have in common or what you can compliment and praise him about. Let him know that you respect him and he will start treating you in a loving manner. No one likes to be forced into doing anything and he certainly won't act lovingly toward you when you are complaining and accusing and telling him he NEVER does this, or NEVER does that, or ALWAYS acts like -- - -

Those 2 words have to go, by the way. They are ridiculous words as they are rarely ever true when used.

Focus on your own life and how you can make others feel good about themselves - when you start doing that for him and for others, you will get it back. If you are not able to give what you want to someone else then you won't receive it, either.

Free-Lance

Walk away or get help your choice and his!

John Timothy

The name you have chosen for yourself speaks volumes about your personality. He wants to continue the marriage. Is that not enough for you? Why don't you try not talking to him for a week. Not one word. If that doesn't bring him out of his shell, walk out the door.

Lydia

Stop calling him names, for starters.
Change your attitude, and be a truly positive force in your marriage.

flywho

There are people who rather talk about things and people who rather do something about things.
It is often difficult for them to understand each other as one cannot imagine finding solutions without talking and the other considers action the only solution.
If you truly want to end this relationship, the only way you will communicate this to your husband at this stage is by filing for a divorce. He will then have to reply, and this is an example of 'action'.
On the other hand, you may try marriage counseling.
Talkers and Doers CAN learn to understand each other and cooperate with each other - but usually only with a third-party counselor.
You might also find some friends to talk to in order to satisfy your need to talk and then come up with some sort of action that your husband can understand and react to.
Consider that neither of you is 'right' or 'wrong', or 'better' or 'worse'.
You just have different temperaments that are hard to reconcile.
From his perspective, you are probably as annoying to him as he is to you, and more than likely, you are both frustrated.
You can really only control what YOU do, and so I would suggest that you find ways to make your life meaningful and get your needs met. If he is unable to meet you in conversation, find friends to talk to.
First get yourself taken care of and then consider whether or not you want to continue the marriage.

hwolf007

do what you feel down in you heart what will be good for you fore about him

Move on. Is he also abusive to you? His behavior is very abusive. There are more men in this world. Go get them.

...huh...

When was the last time he talked to you? Hell, stop talking to him. When he asks what for dinner?... Where's his socks?... What did you buy?... And go out with some friends. Talk to them.

Teclis98

Well, have you guys tried counseling? If not I suggest it but if he won't leave and you have determined to end the relationship then you have to leave it is as simple as that.

Pack your things and go to a friend or relatives house.

Good luck and I hope this helps.

Nicki

Hit that door because silence is the worst thing you have to
contend with, he is trying to drive you nuts. Pack that bag and leave find someone that isn't mute when you talk to them, you can find them. Stop apologizing he likes that where he can be a total smart a**, don't waste anymore words on him. He is a hateful man and he will get worst , stop trying to kiss his a**, tell him to kiss yours and walk out that door and stay gone.

panamacityplaygroups

You have tried and that is the best you can do with someone who will not carry his end of the relationship. You are unhappy and he is not paying attention to that it is time to go. I hope you find someone out there who deserves someone like you who is willing to work on the relationship.

*AntA mAriA*

What you guys need is couples counseling. If you still want to be with him. Try it, it will help. Especially him that it seems that is communication skills aren't good. Or if you don't want to be with him then you should still talk to him about the decisions (divorce) that you guys need to make.

love2talk

Hey girl i think that you should have some patients and let him know how you feel about him ignoring you. He needs to respect the way you feel.

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