Had an affair...?

Sarahsmama

It was eight years ago. Your mother has long forgiven him. Let it go.

crazylegs

I'm certain that your mom is probably aware of this also and forgiven your dad for his indiscretions. Best if you just put it to rest and trust that your dad and mom are happy again and trying their best to make their marriage a happy one. It was eight years ago and sometimes people do things that they regret later and hopefully this is where you dad is on the subject. Do not blow it out of proportion as you don't need to open up old scars.

rtanys

While his actions at the time were certainly not honorable, eight years is a long time and what it all boils down to is that in this matter he is accountable to your mom only. She's the one who was betrayed, so it should be her decision, and hers alone, over what to do about it.
Marital dynamics are very, very complex. You have to be in them to understand the delicate nature of the bond, so for anyone to say that so and so should be doing this better or that better is way out of line.
Has he been a good father to you? That's the only thing for which he should be accountable to you.

Juicy

Uh tell your mom. That's soooooo nasty. Actually tell your dad that you know and see what he says. After he finds out that you know he more than likely will tell your mom.

bevalou

Why do you have to do anything? In time you may feel the need to tell your dad(discreetly!) that you know about the affair, but there is no point in bringing it up itherwise(only to make your feelings known and for your peace of mind) It is possable that your mum knows(or always knew) about it anyway and has chosen to forgive and stay together for whatever reason.From what ive heard the wife often does know and chooses to put it to the back of her mind and try and get on with the marriage.

lilac.

let him know u know...........or just tell ur mom cos thats just trifling'

Closed Down

Just keep on loving your mom and dad. They love you and what happened was not your fault. If your parents are happy then its fine

naomi b

keep it to yourself, your mum may already know and you may stir up old feelings that have already been dealt with, kids should never get involve in parents business it only ever ends in tears xx

dani_girl57

Keep your mouth shut before you cause a dangerous chain reaction.

peter o

don't drag up the past.when its got nothing to do with you.

rhonda y

Nothing. They got through it and continued on to have a good relationship. Relationships are complicated. Just keep loving them.

let it go

lynn a

Nothing at the end of the day your parents are grown ups and not answerable to you for their actions. As long as you were never asked to cover up this affair, then you have to let it go. Your mum has forgiven him. You don't have to, but you do have to move on from the situation.

Irish

depends. I would not tell ur mom---ur parents are still together so I would leave this alone----if this is really bothering you then sit down with your dad and tell him how this affected you ! I am sorry----good luck

rhonda h

Don't do anything ,forget about it . I'm sure your dad feels horrible enough without knowing one of his children know about the whole situation.

frogsandweeniedogs

Best to mind your own business...

Joel

Nothing, if your parents have sorted things out why do you need to do anything .

Deede

There is nothing you can really do, however, honestly it will always haunt you a little but it's something you just push aside and realize that your father is human just like everyone else and will make mistakes.

I suggest you just let it go and try your best to forget about it.

teeth hoover

Just try to forget about it if i was you - it was a long time ago.

gardenia33_99

let it go if she has forgiven him its none of your business..

robert w

KEEP QUIET
EIGHT YEARS IS A LONG TIME

teenie

You do nothing it would make your dad feel so ashamed of himself.Remember dads are suppose to be every-ones protector Now the auntie on the other hand she needs to be put in her place.I have always put most of the blame on the women because she gives off signals that she wants him. If you tell a man to get lost he won't waste his time he will just move on to the next one.I would let her no how much she has hurt this family and you are ashamed of her.

Elvis

nothing
the past is the past
why stir up trouble

juju

Realize one major thing; our parents are human, and make mistakes. Talk to your father, and let him know that you know. Let him know that you are profoundly disappointed in him, and your trust in men has been badly shaken. And then do the most difficult thing in this whole situation: forgive him. I suspect that your mother may know, and has forgiven--but not forgotten--the incident. You may need counseling to deal with this, as well. Good luck and God bless.

D B

Nothing. it is over and your parents are still together. it is their business not yours.

srracvuee

you do nothing unless you want to see your parents break up so its something you erase from your mind and although your father was out of order if you don't suppress the idea of confrontation it will destroy all your lives, as the years pass it will seem less important Good Luck

kinkybootsno1

There's nothing you can do I'm afraid, it's your parents business honey, not yours....although I can understand that this situation of knowing must be really quite hard for you to handle....you have to leave it alone though. don't drag up what your mother has left alone now...she'll deal with it the way she feels fit if she hasn't already that is.
But! when you get married don't put up with sh*t like that in your life.

raythecat

That's a tidy bit of info to be party to. But keep it to yourself and my reasoning for this is follows.
1. What good would it do do bring it out in the open - probably none whatsoever at this time.
2.Save it for a rainy day is another way to look it - you never know it could save your skin someday - don't know how but !
3. Think very hard before you say anything to anyone because once it comes out there will be no going back.

Good luck RTC

Don't dwell on it. Never talk about it to anyone in your family. Nothing can change the past. There's no use making anyone feel bad or digging up something up that has been buried.

Lone Wolf

Stay quiet..it was a long time ago...do you need to cause bad feeling by bringing it up....we are all only human and therefore prone to weaknesses...dont judge..it could happen to you. I said it would never happen to me but it did..sometimes we cant help how we feel or what we do.

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