Have you ever been so destroyed...?

Blonds Rock

well i am re-writing this. all i can say is that you should do whatever you can to stay in contact with your kids. try and see them if you can, or always make sure they have a way to contact you if they want to. and just answer thier questions to the best of what you feel they should know at that time. good luck, i wish you the best.

Poopsie the Embarassed Kitten

I've been there. Please don't do anything drastic. I am certainly glad I didn't. It does end. There WILL be life again.

It all seemed so permanent for so long, but it isn't. In fact, now I am happier than I've been all my life.

The same will occur for you.

antisocialsweetheart

I have been like that and felt like that for a lot longer than a year. I do not know your situation, but, I think it will only make it worse to isolate yourself and hold yourself back. It is going to hard but try to do a turn around. If you are not one to really seek help, slowly do things like go out or find a hobby or keep talking to people like this. Don't be afraid to open yourself and let people in. You may have been destroyed once and it may happen again but a lot of good is going to come with it and you will never experiance it if you dont try. I am not completed better and have my very bad days, but no matter how weak and unmotivated you feel, pick yourself up and look around because it you open yourself up enough, there is going to be someone there to help you through it.

ALPHAOMEGA

THATS THE WAY I FEEL ALOT. BUT I TRY TO GET INTO A GAME OR SOMETHING TO TAKE MY MIND OFF OF WHATEVER IS MAKING ME DEPRESSED.
WHAT ARE YOU DESTROYED OVER?

Ninja CK

don't let it.. bad things pile up.. you've got to fight and find yourself again.. find a friend or a person who'd make a difference in your life... make it all worth it to be here.. but don't ever give up.. talk .. let it out.. watch children play.. their innocent smiles.. the beauty of nature.. anything.. just Don't Give Up!! hang in ther! .. i've been there so many times but i never ever let it last long because i have people who love me and i can never let them worry!

I think...

Lucky for me, I haven't. You may want to seek councling.

( Don't laugh, I know I spelled that wrong)

billgutsky

Stick with it. Thinks are bound to eventually get better.

I think 8 mo. is the longest for me.

billy g

It's called anhedonia. Go see a doctor.

I suffered with cancer for 9 months. I was in and out of hospitals and underwent full body radiation twice. I had no reason to live until I met my wife. She pulled me from the brink and now I am a loving, self respecting father and husband with a lot to live for. You need to get a companion. If you don't want to live for yourself, live for someone else. Good luck and god bless bro.

St. Anthony of Y!Answers

you are done for.

Stephanie J

yes, i'm destroyed right now. i have nothing. i have huge problems i have to deal with everyday but i haven't so much as smiled in 6 monthes. You think you have it rough when only it gets worst.

lydialogan_17

yes 2 years and it does go away.

lcamel2000

OH YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Most people have or WILL BE at some point in their lives. Do not think that you are the only one. But, you MUST believe that you are worthy of love. Once you believe that the BEST is still out there, then you will always have a reason to get up tomorrow. Do not grow discouraged. Talk to someone who will really listen. Talk to God, too. He wants the best for you. Don't do anything that will hurt anyone, or yourself. Start thinking of others, and doing kind deeds for people who have needs, and that will make you feel worthwhile and needed. And then, you will begin to feel loveable, and LOVE will come your way. You are never alone in these feelings.

FieryAngel

I WOULD KILL TO MEET A MAN LIKE YOU. UR WIFE WAS A VERY PATHETIC DUMB *****!

Big Jay 7

you must be young..
it will past just focus on something good...

sundancer332003

After this long you ought to go and see your gp and ask to be referred to a councillor sometimes just talking about things helps you to sort them in your own head and get through them

Ã¢?Â¥ Va~Va Depp Ã¢?Â¥

Yes, I have been there, where you are. I felt I had come to the brink of insanity. I will never let anyone or anything become more important to me than myself, ever again. I will fall in love every chance I get, but not at that level or extent. Just remember that this too....shall pass. You'll be fine.

tnmtngirl

yeah, I went through a rough patch about 6 years ago facing one of the hardest trials of my life. I'm very religious and faith and prayer got me through a lot of it. I also tried not to get preoccupied with my problems. Knowing that there are others who have went through worse and came out OK helped me to have strength to overcome. Hang in there - things will get better!

Nancy Kay

I'm so sorry to hear that...I learned a long time ago not to let anything get to me that deeply as to destroy me.

After losing both my parents 3-1/2 months apart when I was only 36, I decided that NOTHING could ever hurt that much...so nothing else does...and certainly nothing on the romantic front!

Mr nice guy 2U

yeah 5 or 6 years for me
just keep pushin on and maybe one day your ship will come in
I saw mine on the horizon
it sank

BLULINR

I've had...rather, am having...my hopes, dreams and desires dashed to bits. And it isn't getting worse, but certainly not any better.

mimismom

oh my god what a ***** i am so sorry you should seek counseling to work through this she used you and messed with your emotions you will need help to get through this one, maybe even some medication to get past the depression, i myself am on lexapro and it has changed my life (Depression runs in my family I have relapsed twice into depressive states each one worse) but by talking to someone and getting on the medication my life is going in a direction i never thought it could and it doesn't happen overnight it will take time but it is possible. Good luck

you know me..

you may need anti depresents ... go see a dr. also u may be bi-polar.. best wishes..

Dazed and Condused

Do whatever you have to do to be part of your kids' lives. If your wife has taken them away, get the best attorney that you can afford, and fight for your right to raise them. They need a positive role model in their life. (What their mother did was unexceptable and will only have a negative influence on them.)

It will take time, but you WILL get over your wife. Lean on your friends and family during this time. Getting extra help from meds and therapy isn't a bad idea either.

Bottom line: Focus on your kids, not your (ex)wife, and do what's best for them. When all is said and done, you will find joy in your children and hopefully, your new life.

Blue_Girl

Buddy, I feel your pain, going on for 5 yrs. on and off for me, I tell ya, I try not to lose hope but sometimes you just think "what the heck" I'm never going to find anyone......
Try going to counseling (I did for awhile) and I also got on antidepressents (which I'm still on ) try to associate with people that bring you UP and not DOWN.....and hopefully with people that can just "listen" to you...sometimes that's the best therapy.
It just sounds like you need and honest friend to talk to once in awhile and believe me those aren't easy to find either.
Try not to give up on hope, hopefully someday you will be rewarded for all your misery!!
Good Luck to you!

Sassy OLD Broad

OH MAN! Dude....get some MEDICATION, for Christ's sake! I can understand why you don't even want to be with YOURSELF! Take your "destroyed" victim-as$ self to the mental health clinic NOW and get your life back. OH...and stop that whining...it's irritating.

Debra B

I'm sorry you are so down. Things will get better for you I just know it! I am married but know how it is to be lonely and feel unloved. Maybe you could join a church or some single clubs and try to meet someone to talk to or keep company with occasionally. Good luck.

BUTCH

Time to pick yourself up & move on.You can only feel sorry for yourself for so long ,then you need to dust yourself off & move on.I went through it for about 6 yrs. but finally got over it. I suddently realized I was not hurting anyone but me. I also was draging everyone near me down also.So start living again & good luck.

grgyssf

yeah but i got over it, lasted for a while couple years got really bad towards the end.

gonetotallymad

yes. been there. done that. hang in there. it does get better. maybe you need to go and see a doctor. see if the link below can help. take care

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