Having an emotional affair?

Rich

KEep ignoring it. This could only turn out bad. real bad

Darla

I think you should take a vaca away from the job. Go out with your spouse and try to amp up the relationship. Theres reason your straying from your spouse, find out what it is your lacking. Once you know what you need you can work it out with your spouse. Do not act on the relationship. That is just bad on so many levels.

â„¢ILikeShinyThings

You need to apply for other jobs to see if you can get another one, until then your going to have to deal with it. Dont talk about it, because then you two will be tempted and might do something you both regret.

amyhpete

Actually if you're avoiding him and avoiding acting on your impulse, I think you're doing well. I think you should continue doing what you're doing, politely as you can. So far this is a mutual attraction, fascination, etc. An emotional affair is when you spend hours talking and sharing, spend time together at the expense of your marriage, confide in each other about your marriage, say I love you and lament the fact that you're married and are star crossed lovers.

You're dealing with this crush, fascination, whatever (I am not so sure it's in love, maybe puppy love -- not to diminish your feelings but love is more than a feeling. It's a choice) the best way you can. It's human to have longings and feelings, and it's noble to do what's right anyway. That's what you're doing.

shadjfl

Time to find another job elsewhere.

Its typical in a workplace affair that one or the other gets miffed when they get dumped. Problem is he is your direct Supervisor and can make things very unpleasant for you should he decide to. Office politics is bad enough, its even worse when your having an affair with the boss and he wants to boink you and you decide to break it off.

You both lacked the professionalism to avoid the pitfalls and now you cant deal with the results. Not to mention what will happen if either spouse discovers the link.

anap

It is very normal to develop feelings for someone you work with. It is a lot of time that you spend together and there is chemistry involved also. A lot of it is fantasy.You dont really know this person. It takes a lot of willpower to say no to temptation but in the end it will be worth it because once you cheat you cant take it back. It will get easier with time. Just think of the cconsequences of having an affair. Think of your child and his children. If he complains about his wife dont believe everything he says.I once had a coworker who i thought had a bad marriage because of the way he complained about his wife and imagine my surprise when I saw them one day at the grocery store laughing and playing like children,you could tell by the way they were acting that they got along real good. The best thing you can do is try to get past this attraction.Focus on your work and family.l know its hard but you sound like a strong woman and it can be done

Douglas B

It's always easy to have those crushes at work, everybody is so nice and they are supposed to all be working together. Does that mean that's what he is like in real life? Maybe not. Do you want to take that chance with the family you already have? But if you are flirting with the idea, it seems that you have already made the decision and it's only the work thing that is holding you back. Best to get out of your marriage first or other things can get ugly. But does he just want a fling or will he leave his wife too? You are putting a lot out on the line with this one.

do you love your husband ? you took an oath and you need to stand by that oath if not then you need to get out of your marriage i mean i you just interested in a new piece of meat or what ? i know being a married man im not about to leave my wife for another woman that is married and into me and ready to leave her husband for me b/c later down the line whats going to happen when that woman finds something else be in the same situation so you took that oath and need to stand by it and drop this other guy leave the flirting or eye language alone . try spicing things up in the bedroom with your husband but if you dont love him get out of the marriage and move on cause your not going to do anything but ruin lives staying in it and messing with this other guy

nichole

dont take this personal but i would seek counseling so someone can guide u and help u on a more personal private base/level. but i think the real problem isn't u having an emotional affair its something lacking in your real marriage. thats y u r seeking interest with another man. in my opinion @ least. when u r lacking something in your relationship u tend to drift off and find it with another person to get the attention u r missing. i wish that helps! dont feel bad i been there too!
good luck!

Rayne Preisley

Do you love your husband?

Janet W

Why did you allow yourself to have these feelings for this man. You are married and he is married and their are children that expect their parents to act like adults on both sides. This is so sad to me. Why don't you just start acting like a married woman and stop worrying about what to do.

Dig Daddy

Decide where you want your current relationship to go
Talk to your partner about your feelings/emotional affair.
Allow your partner time to respond.
See a counselor. Both individual and marriage
Get your s*it together and figure out yourself: How many lives do you want to mess up?

Alex

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