He feels Ripped Off?

maddass

I dont think he should feel you ripped him off, i think he should be grateful, and thank full he has you as a girlfriend..........................

dirttrackgirl_77

Well I dont feel like you should take credit for taking him to Tunisia for his birthday. It sounds like he had to pay for his own trip!!

Scooter Girl

You sort of did rip him off. It was supposed to be GIFT to take him on this trip right. How can you ask for payment from the person you gave the gift to?? By the way, does he not have any money in the joint account because he is always paying bills, entertainment etc???

xyz

I kind of think so since you were taking HIM out for his b-day. That seems kind of weird.

Slim Whitman

"He never had no"?? (you may want to grammar check before you post..

Seems to me, a joint account is that. Couples need to make "joint" decisions as to the disposition of the content. Money in a joint account generally goes to pay bills not to pay off vacation debt. "You took him to Tunisia on the money in a joint account" Did he agree to the vacation and it expense prior to leaving?

Lack of communication about finances is the #1 reason couples become singles.

I agree with Mandy, if you took him to Tunisia with the intent it was to be a gift and you took money out of a joint account to pay for it, at very least it shows poor judgement on your part.

CHos3n

You "took" him on holiday and then you "took" his money to repay your account/pay for it all? He has every right to feel ripped off.

gary_westoz

Are you serious?? ever heard of the term 'Indian giver' ? lol this is a classic example of such a thing. I cannot believe you did that, pretty nasty. So technically YOU didn't take him your intention was for both of you to pay for it without his consent. You wanted a straight up answer, you got one.

nite_angelica

If you took the entire amount that the entire trip cost and put it back into your private account? Yeah, I'd me mad about that too.

Why take it out of the joint account and put it all into yours? At the most, why not take 1/2 of the amount and put it in yours to cover the cost of 1/2 for them?

LOL...Wow, YOU took HIM on a trip and then took the money back when you returned. How much of the money in the joint account was from your paycheck? If it was none of it, then you took someone on a trip and made them pay it sounds like.

And all the stuff you bought for him, did you take the money out for that too? If so, then you didn't buy him anything.

You didn't do anything for your partner for his birthday other than plan. Did you ask first?

Angie

Well, if "you took him", that implies that you were going to foot the bill, taking the money from the joint account and putting it in you private account does seem a little sketchy. Did he agree to pay for any of the trip?

lifescircle

Yes you ripped him off, this was a gift from you not a gift from him self. What if every time he bought you something but took the money out of the joint account and put it in his account, is that really a gift from him? No!

Mandy43110

If it was truly your gift to him then it should have been paid for out of your own money. While I don't doubt the trip was nice I would be willing to be that if he had known you would take it from your joint account then he wouldn't have gone.

Judge Judy of Y/A

Well, if the trip were intended to be a gift, and any of the money you took from the joint account was his, it does seem like he paid for his own trip, or at least part of it. If he didn't know beforehand that his money would be going towards the trip, I don't think it's right that you take his money.

tjnstlouismo

You made him pay for his own birthday. Nice. Next time just give him what you can afford to.

greg w

I think you ripped him off. It doesn't sound like there's money trouble so what it seems to me is that you had him pay for his own birthday trip.

The amount doesn't matter, but taking the money back does. If you feel he doesn't spend his share, then call him cheap, or ask for more, but taking back is sticking him with the bill.

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Well you did buy all that stuff for him so no not really. Why don't you ask him how he feels about it if he knows otherwose you can talk it through with a friend or family member!

pennylane

you may not have ripped him off but he paid for half his gift if its a joint account!

gypsy g

You said "You" took him on holiday. That means "You" pay for it! You ripped him off. Its not a gift if you want $$ for it.

makemathieu

you did ripped him off,what an idiot...

akristel2003

well if the understanding is that you were going to pay for the trip and some of the money came out of his wages, then I could see him feeling a little ripped off.

They might go a little further than he wants to admit though, with insecurities about his money making potential and his level of power in the household.

mars

He may feel that buying someone a birthday present would have come from your own money and not the joint account. It may not feel genuine. Imagine if he bought himself a really nice expensive Gibson guitar and he took the money from the joint account

bayoubelle24

No! Not if it's a joint account.

In my opinion, you should NEVER have a joint account with a person unless you are married and legally bound to that person.

Even HB and I have joint accounts, but we also have two different banks. I have my primary bank and he has his. They are joint in case funds are needed, but are rarely used.

It sounds like he is being selfish and ungreatful.

I definately would have discussed returning the money to my personal account first before just doing it or maybe just have taken half. Anything taken out of the joint account should be a joint decision. Who was this trip really for you or him?

Maria

If you paid it back into the account (NO).

Southern Comfort

well sorta if you made him feel like you were treating but if you acted like this was a getaway for both of you I'd give him back half the money

GiGi!

I have a pretty simple question- if your name is on the joint account, why did you feel the need to take the money out and put it where only you have access to? Did you discuss with him that you were going to take the money back, or did he think that the holiday and gifts were actually just that- gifts? If he was under the impression that it was a gift, I feel like he has a right to be angry, especially if only his wages go in the account.

Monsieur Kermit

You sound like one of the nastiest people I've ever ran into on this forum.

I need to take a shower now.

Thanks lady

Good luck

just nate

Well... did you borrow the money from the join account and then return it? Or did you use the money in your sccount to pay for the trip, and then pay yourself back for it from the joint account. If you did the later of the two... then yes, he should feel ripped off. It was his birthday. It was your gift to him... it cost money. Your money. Not his money... that negates the giving of the gift.

Valerie X

a weeks holiday for a BIRTHDAY??????

Geez, don't you think thats a little overboard??!

Tactical Medic

I suggest you at least half it, he isn't supposed to pay for his birthday from you!

Well, I wouldn't say that you "took him on a weeks holiday" if you took the money back. That would be more like you "went on a weeks holiday together". While I'm not sure if "ripped off" is a phrase I would use when talking about it with my girl, I wouldn't feel right about at all. At least if she didn't tell me that she was going to do that before we went on the trip. If you made him aware of it ahead of time, he may have chosen not to go. Perhaps he was really counting on his wages when he returned. I think you should have discussed it with him first.

RedRabbit

You took money from a joint account. You should have left it alone. Of course he does feel ripped off because you decided to take the money that you spent back. It's almost like the event never happened.

Animal-luva4242

I think it's fair if you give him some money scince he never had any and you are buying all the stuff for him so i guess it's ok if he don't have any because your buying all his stuff, but if you don't wanna always buy his stuff then give him some money and let him buy himself some stuff and maybe even you stuff and you can buy stuff for him whenever you want to along with buying stuff for yourself.

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