He suspected that I have another man and he is right, but why didn't he try to find out?

Stick

What I do not know, cannot hurt me. Well, it can't hurt me until I find out about it. Am I naive? Possibly. However, if I am constantly searching for ways to prove she is cheating, then wouldn't I only be searching for the negative? His heart more than likely cannot bear the thought of knowing you are cheating. It is easier for him to just suspect it.

Shadow

Uh, yeah. Your finding fault in him when you are the married one? You sound like an effin idiot.

Chakra

He's afraid to uncover the truth about someone he's been loving all these while. Shame on you.

abc

he doesn't want or need to find out; because he goes home to his wife every evening.......

Mel

He probably don't care as long as you put out. Most single men rather have married lover because if he slips up and fires a live round she is already got a man to fall back on.
Before I got married I dated a lot of married women for that very reason.

jojo

Well since you "love" each other he is probably assuming that you would be honest with him. Im wondering if you love anyone but yourself. Why would you do this to your husband and to your "boyfriend"?

KingDavid

"he is a very intelligent man" No he is not!
You have a lot of cojones to come here to ask such a stupid question. Be a women and tell your husband about this. Then also tell your "true love"..Come on,,,you are women enough to be lying all this time,,,let's see if you have enough gall,,,come on,,,tell your men what you are! Let them see the real you! You will end up without eighter one of them,,,,and guess what!? I hope it was worth it!

pitchingcoach

He didn't care dear. He's getting what he wants pretty much with no strings attached. He already knows you're a cheat. Why would he want more to do with you. I sure hope you are a good lay.

olderwiser100

he knows. my god how could he not??? and since he knows where you work, and where you live, you are in an incredibly vunerable position. a lesser man might take advantage of that. let's hope he isn't one of them.

Colleen O

He probably hasn't tried to find out is because he doesn't care as much about you as you think he does. He's not as interested in YOU as he is in what he can get FROM you...and you're giving it willingly.

Barb Outhere

Lady you have no respect for either your husband or this man you say you love. How do I know this? Because you are not prepared to offer either honesty.
Why should your lover have to "find out" for himself that you are married? Why wouldn't you just tell him when things became serious? What do you think he's going to do when he finds out you have been lying to him this whole time? How do you think he's going to feel about it?
You will probably lose both of them, and its nothing less than what you deserve. You are cheating both you husband and your lover.

middyiv

He loves you. He knows whats happening and hope you stop it. If don't you will be for rude awaking,

the_morris_bears

I'm not sure if you understand the concept of being married! It means that you are faithful to him (you husband) til death do you part! Or did you miss that part of your vows? If you don't love your husband anymore then end that relationship before you do any more damage! As for your other man (boyfriend) he obviously doesn't want to know what he suspects because he truly cares and it would devestate him to find out from any other source than you that you were not honest with him. How would you feel if all of this was reversed? Would you want to hear it from anyone other than the person you love? Look it is time to step up to the plate and take on the responsibilities of being an adult and the consequeses of you actions. You need to be honest with you husband and your other man.
Momma_Bear

JESUSBEAUTIFULLDOLLY

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8.Love never fails

That's is true Love not a relationship built in Lies, and no solid ground...No Man or Women deserves to be cheated on, if they were cheating on u you wouldn't like it.....Ur boy friend knows u have someone else but he himself probably has someone else too that's is why he docent try to find out!...just remember what goes up has to come down and it hurts more when u fall.....i don't know how is Ur marriage but consider a divorce if u want to full around or in love with this other person....much luck God Bless u

tallcowboy0614

WTF? You need to be more specific about who HE and HIM are in your story. Is it the same man? Is it your pretend playmate? Your Husband? Your husband's friend's cousin's sister's second dog?

Please. Take time and spell it out for us, or ideally post links to the videos.

linz

maybe because he's friends with your husband or doing "buisness" with him to find out how you really are....thats sick how could you do that?

James S

We love each other but I am being completely dishonest with him, essentially cheating on my husband and him, and this is only going to end up terribly for the three of us.

There's this thing called TRUST, apparently, for some reason, he trusts you.

You need to look up honesty and start with yourself, then on to your husband, and finally your boyfriend. You all deserve better.

Good luck.

Angel

Wow, that's amazing. How did you keep up the facade for that long? That's pretty smooth. I think he didn't try to find out because he trusted you to be telling the truth. And now that you haven't been, I hope you don't lose them both.

Jake

It is hard to search for something that will rip your heart out.

theoretical

like the saying goes 'out of sight out of mind!' he knows and because he knows he doesnt want to be certain. the truth is your married and no mater what the husband usually has more power than the lover, if he didnt then you would have left your husband before getting involved with another man. right? He doesnt want to be another bump in the road and is probobly waiting for you to make a decition. A smart man thinks of time as a virtue so the longer your with him the better his chances are of winning the game. that, or he just doesnt give a damb and is just letting himself be taken along for the ride and doesnt care that your married as long as he doesnt see it once again "out of sight out of mind"

joyh

He is a fool, because he trusts you. You do not deserve his trust.

Why stayed married? Your not honoring anyone.

Mindy S

maybe he isnt as intelligent as you think...how could he actually think that there might be someone out there that was honest and dependable? did you ever think that he didnt think that he needed to "find out for himself"

how very selfish of you! you should be ashamed!

pussycat

Think he doesn't want to know the truth, so he is not asking.

melissa

decide which man you want, hopefully they both ditch you, because you sound like a lying,deceitful woman, you are married lady, dont ruin everybodys life

lonewolf

Jenny, Make sure you say goodbye to those you love everytime you part. If they are going to heaven you will never see them again ! Adultry is a forever seperation from God ! For you and your boyfriend !

~Divine Mrs. P~

Do you have a screw loose?

nobody you know

Maybe he does know, but you think he doesn't know. And maybe he has someone else too.

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