He tried to cheat on me over a year ago but didnt...how should I feel?

carol

When you found that a year ago it was unexpected and his behavior devastated you.Whatever he was going through at that time hopefully he is past that.
I would sit him down calmly and tell him that if he ever thinks like that again to have the respect to talk to you about his feelings instead of acting out against you in such a way that could destroy everything.
All marriages go through down times and he needs to understand that a commitment is through the bad and the good.
No matter what his personal misunderstandings are where the two of you are concerned does not make it right for him to betray everything.
His answer to his own issues cannot be found on the outside of your relationship and because of his action it is now up to him to make you feel safe and comfortable with him again.
It is going to take some time as long as he tells you what his preventative measures are going to be in never making that mistake with you ever again.

Brad V

He had the desire to. I would say its a big deal. Eventually he will.

Jessica

i would be pissed and dont know if i could continue being with him because that would stay in the back of my mind at all times you know? i dont think i could handle it.. trust would be SOOO gone.. sorry :( good luck! but just remember i agree with you

jude

it can throw u a punch when u find out that your spouse is thinking about cheating on you. but now is the time to become closer to him, and begin focusing on what u have. he could have cheated but he didn't, meaning there is still a chance to work on whats wrong. u feel hurt its understandable, but u should realiaze its a wake up call, to either get the problems worked out of be divorced, and when divorce does happen, your never happy about it, when your looking at that final day before u go to divorce court u may look back on it and wonder if there was something that could have been done to stop it, because no one ever wins in a divorce.

Douglas B

Trust is what we give freely when we meet somebody. It's after they do something that breaks that trust that they must earn that trust back. I think that is where you might be, willing to let him earn it back but yet you aren't sure of the steps to do it with or when it might be earned back. Those are different for different people. But several months of watching, of him being open about everything, are the first steps. There is the part of not over doing it so that you can push him away in the process. He has to have a way to know that he is getting closer to being where he was, that's up to you to figure out how to handle it.

i'M FaKe

he might get successful this year ....precaution is better than cure

Logana

Don't underrate this, it is a huge betrayal.

sunshine

The trust will come back over time. But it is a big deal that he did something behind your back. Nevertheless you should feel relieved that he did not do anything with someone else. But counseling might help your trust issues and more importantly communication issues especially if that is the reason why he did it (because he thought you were unhappy)

jenreydav

Sometimes people do things like that because they think the other person is moserable. It was a mistake at least he was honest with you, finally. It will take time.

angelbaby

i would be hurt too but take it as it is.You saw nobody hit him up and he didn't even complete the profile.Try to trust him until he gives you a real reason not to.

tincan62

help him find another girl , pack ur bags and go,and dont go back

Larz Aluphe

Get over it. Most things women get mad and think that their boyfriend/husband is cheating on them just turns out to be what men do.

huckleberrymoe

Most men will cheat at least once in their marriage... your marriage and your husband is no different from all the others. What should you do? That's up to you to decide, I'm not going to answer that for you.

Sunshine is right by the way.

Pyar

NO!! He never even finished the profile ... If he really wanted to cheat he would have . You lost your trust in him over nothing .
Either forget it (since it's all in your head anyway) or be kind enough to divorce him so he can find someone who won't nit pick him to death . You say he thought leaving would make you happy .... What man who feels loved would think that way ... look at yourself ... I believe that is where your problems really lie. Don't blame him for how you made him feel.

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