Help! Am i being played.?

Elliot Kane

It sounds to me like your ex doesn't want you but doesn't want anyone else to have you, either.

Would I be right in thinking that you are still strongly supporting her, and not just with the kids? Emotional rock and all that?

Right now, she has the best of both worlds: all the support and help she needs without having you around when she doesn't want you there. She doesn't want to lose that and any time you find a new partner she feels her position threatened because she knows you should put any new partner before her.

You have two choices: try to rekindle things with your ex or admit to yourself that your ex really is your EX and act accordingly.

I think that, deep down, you are really hoping for a reconciliation. There's certainly no harm in trying for that and if you do, I wish you luck.

Tell her you want to win her back and offer to help her get through the issues she has. If she refuses, you have a choice: continue to play her game and hope one day she will take you back, or make a firm decision to move on.

That will mean putting the interests of any new partner before those of your ex, regardless of her howls or protestations.

I wish you luck :)

Kezza

It seems like she doesn't want you to move on until she does. Concentrate on your kids, it sounds like they have an awesome dad.

Bs Girl

Yes sounds to me like she is playing you. You know the old saying I don't want you but I don't want anyone else to have you either. Sounds to me like she is doing that to you. Maybe you can get a parent or friend to do the child exchange instead of you having to see her until you can get past it so that when she says "i miss you and love you" you won't fall for it. Good luck!

Jimmy P

She may play or want you back. But think about what you want, its all about you when it comes to love . So think long term brother.

BILL h

have you talked with her?maybe she has second thoughts about divorcing you.she also could just be friendly and would still enjoy your company.

Fiyah! Canadian Beauty

Sounds like she just wants you to keep hanging on until SHE'S ready to move on...yep, your being played.
If she loved you and missed you, she'd try to actually be with you.

lotsbull

maybe she does have these feelings for you still, after all you have two great kids together and you are there father, that aside I hope she is not messing with you .

junkman

Keeping you on a string just in case the other guys do not work out. Plus keeping you from liking someone else too.

turtle_lover

yes she is just jealous when you try & get with another woman. she probably is seeing other men. women do that, they try & make men jealous.

wilderthanme

You are definitely being played. She probably does still love you but it obviously wasn't enough to keep you together. She said it herself, she has "issues".

It is up to you to draw firm boundaries. Please be sure you have a legal custody arrangement so that if you do decide to move on with your life, she won't be able to use you children to get back at you.

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