Help!!! My husband and I are in the middle of a seperation. We have a three year old little girl and our preg?

Gypsy

He can't sign his rights away because law states that he is the father due to marriage. The only way he could sign the rights away is if another man steps up and declares paternity.

Neither one of your kids deserves this guy in their life, unless you cheated and that is his reason for not wanting anything to do with the baby you are pregnant with. If that is the case, get a paternity test.

Miss Lady

Wow, that's a toughy. He really sounds confused. It doesn't make any sense at all. So he wants to be the dad to the first girl. I guess that means he wants to spend time with her. So what is he going to do when he comes to pick up the oldest and the baby sees him? Does he plan on just ignoring the baby?

Just because he signs his parental rights over doesn't mean that he is not the baby's father. He always will be. Have you tried counseling? Try to get him to see that what he's trying to do makes no sense whatsoever. It's not the baby's fault. The baby didn't ask to be here.

If he still decides to ignore/ disown the baby, then there is not much you can do. However, just love your children and introduce them to strong male roll models like uncles, cousins, brothers, etc. You and your children will be fine.

Not as long as moms home !!!!!

Big queation... Is the new baby his ???If so then he is a d**k,if not, can you blame him ?

(WOMAN)

Obviously there's a part of the story that you have left out. There's no reason for a man to want one child and not the other. No man give his parental rights away unless that man thinks it's not his, which would make A LOT of sense. So, how about you tell us why is he doubting? have you cheated? if you have, then i support him 100%, if not then he is an a**hole.

EDIT: you should've told us that since the beginning because all of us thought something else. Well, i don't understand him and i don't know what to tell you, sorry. That's a weird situation.

jcatguy

You gottta a rough one there.
But, you just got communicate to him, that in a cup of water, you can't single out particular drops that fill the cup and ignore them...as you drink the glass of water, you get the full family of water molecules...huh?
But you know what I'm saying. I"m serious...he wants his glass of water (first girl) but not the incoming child, but it's part of the same glass of water...you tell him, "can't be done".
Your the mother, he's the father and that's forever...even w/a seperation and or divorce. He can't pick and choose.
Also you can play the same game...Ah "Bob" (whatever his name is) "I've decided I only want you to have contact w/the unborn child once I give birth,but in no way shape or form can you have contact w/our three year old. Maybe then he'll get "how ridiculus and out-of-the-question" his wants are!

Also, he may just be trying to zing you and in actuallity, he may have no intention of not playing in a role in the unborn childs life, and for some reason is just "pullling your chain". Either way, "he doesn't make the rules...YOU BOTH DO!
Good Luck, Jay

i8pikachu

What were his reasons? Any advice anyone here gives would have to consider that.

About signing rights, Gypsy is wrong. He can sign away his parental rights. You can too.

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convince your husband about how you want things to be and do not let things go out of your hand. silly mistakes can be very harmful to your marriage.
http://www.socyberty.com/Relationships/Ten-Tips-on-How-to-Prevent-a-Divorce.582859

dubious

Good question from the first asker...is the baby his? Does he doubt it isn't? If the answer is yes, the baby is his, then he needs to grow up and stop acting like such a child or relinquish his rights to BOTH of the children. I'll be damned if I'd let this guy get his mits on an impressionable 3 year old but ignore the baby. If the baby isn't his, or he has doubts that it is, a simple DNA test will resolve the matter and you can move on from there.

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