Help! My married boss told me he's completely fallen for me. I am so confused and don't know what to do.

I've worked for him for a year and a half. We mistakingly kissed one night and since then it's all he can think about. I've told him time after time to ignore it, forget about it, it was a mistake, and that the entire idea is just stupid. He doesn't agree. He put it all on the table and told me that this has never happened to him, he's completely fallen for me, I drive him crazy, and that he feels as though life has thrown him a curve ball. He asked me if I'm interested. Although I somewhat am, I over and over and confidently told him that this is just stupid and to get over it.

Since then, I cannot get his words out of my head. He's the first thought of mine when I wake up and the last at night. I do like him, but I can't tell whether I like him now because he likes me or because of his authoritative role as my boss. This is so hard since i see him every day. I told him this will all go away, but I'm now starting to think it may not.

Please help.
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FYI - We "mistakingly" kissed when I was very very drunk. I would not have even known it had happened had he not told me.

Secondly, the question here is not whether I'm going to pursue this, because there is NO question I am NOT doing that. I am more interested in getting advice as to how I should act every day. I am not quitting my job, that is completely unncecessary. He and I are firends and I am going to make sure we get past this; and not by running away from it. Tha'ts weak.

Any advice? Just go back to normal and pretend it never happened, right?

sniffydogs

You're playing with fire. He's not leaving his wife and you better start looking for another job.

She finds out, you're toast. If he's cheating on her, he'll cheat on you too. The wife probably owns the business.

Mary O

He will say anything to get you in bed and he is married and he will not leave his wife for you and you most likely will lose your job if you sleep with him because his wife will eventually find out and it is wrong very wrong. shame on your boss

Greg

You "mistakingly kissed"? How do you do that? You tripped, you fell, your mouths accidentally met, and you accidentally stuck your tongue in his mouth?

Next, he's married. That's not a little problem. That's a HUGE problem. Neither one of you have any integrity, and you have no self-respect.

Tiffany

What you and him are feeling right now is lust and that giddy feeling. Remember that that feeling does go away after some point AND you will be left to deal with the problems of being with a man that broke of his marriage for you- a person that he might FEEL he wants to be with but doesn't really know you (while he had love and support from the woman he married and his life would be hell going through a divorce and telling his wife and maybe kids?)... He will never forgive you for that and that's why the relationship could never be.

INDUSTRYkurt

BREAK
IT OFF!

never fool around with anyone you work with
its NEVER a good idea.

reddevilbloodymary

He's married, he's committed to another. Does he have children? You need to quit your job or transfer to another position, all this closeness is not helping for either of you to have a clear head. Of course you find it stimulating and exciting that this man has fallen for you, and of course you can't forget it because you work with him all day every day. Get some space to clear your head.

Sprinkles C

He wont leave her. He will just use you until you catch on that its never going to happen. Save your self years of heart pain and find a new job.. cut all ties..

â™¥Ti Amoâ™¥

play with fire and u get burned better hope the wife is not psychotic~

westfield47130

Grow up...walk away and get a new job... nothing good can come from this if you stay....

presleygirl

Can you single women ever respect ANYONE'S marraige?

redladynj

People should NEVER, EVER get involved with people they work with. Having any other relationship than a working relationship, especially with your boss, is a NO NO.

j_mang

don't get your paycheck and your lovin from the same place. bad bad bad idean.

lilly

Please don't disrespect yourself this way. You need to run not walk. This guy is not taking no for an answer, and is married. If he was that serious, he would show you the divorce papers. This type of guy wants the cake and to eat it too! Start looking for another job, and remember, to go any further with this man is a sign of you disrespecting yourself. You deserve better. Most of your interest is the excitement of the kind words, don't be fooled. Find a new job, and show him you have more respect for yourself, he obviously doesn't understand words, remember actions speak louder than words. Good luck to you, I hope your next job pays more, and I'm sure the benefits will be better than the one your looking at now.

panda bear

Finding a new job is not weak, it's the smartest thing you could. Don't be stupid(sorry by the way it sounds like your close to stupid), He has a WIFE. Get Out Now while you can. PLEASE

Girl Next Door

oh man, this is a hard one... Honesty? Don't do it... as hard as it may seem, you need to move on... I'm thinking the reason why you cannot get his words out of your head is because you do seem flattered... I mean, who wouldn't be flattered when someone tells you they've fallen for you? But you have to get back to reality and remember that this guy is married... not to mention your boss... keep it professional... If you can't, and you think you may want to pursue this man, I suggest getting a different job.... Either way, I honestly think you should NOT do this...

Dms

you are asking for trouble, look for another job

warthog

Don't get drunk with married men.
Find a better job.
Develop moral character.

ree ree

RUN!!! Run as fast as you can gurl!

48Special

Well!! If you have been there for a year and a half you must have holidays that are owed to you. Maybe you should take a weeks holiday and really give it alot of thought, maybe the little bit of distance will help you make better decisions!! Just think when he takes holidays who will he be spending them with??

LOVE EYES

ITS VERY MUCH WRONG TO HAVE AN AFFAIR WITH YOUR BOSS, BECAUSE AT THE END OF THE DAY IF THINGS DIDNT TURN OUT THE WAY HE WANT HE WILL START TO BE VERY BAD WITH YOU.

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