Help me I cheated last night?

Very happily married.

Too right you should feel bad, your husband will come round but you have to convince him it was just a kiss. You can work it out but you have to get is trust back.

Zeke

Grovel and keep groveling. That was stupid.

InForm

What on earth were you thinking??

Get down on your knees and beg.

charley s

Think it is now out of your hands hun ....we all do stupid things I think best thing you can do is leave hubby to calm down and get in touch with you am sure he will ...hope turns out ok for you ...x

jdiddley

The damage is done. It's going to take some time for him to heal from this devastation. The best you can do is let him know how you feel and then back off and give him time to cool off and think.

meena

apologize-and talk it out-admit fault-give him space-and tell him you luv him

x-kat-x

Okay, remember im not good with men and these are only GUESSES:

What can he give her i can't? Did she ever love me? How long has this been going on for? Does she think she can sweet talk me back round? Why doesnt she want me, did i do something wrong? Aren't i enough for her?

I cant say for definate what to do, but if you have any idea where he could be then get down there. Phone calls arent the same as a human being, you can ignore a little box but a person requires an answer or an ear. If you find him, talk about everything that happened and why. And keep saying how sorry you are - remember he may need time to cool off. Let him take the lead, but explain how much more he means to you than your mate.

Assuming you want your husband, not your friend. If you dont want the relationship, this is probably the time to end it.

Good luck
xxx

jet-set

Naughty girl! You have to expect him to feel bad, you would in his shoes!
Give him time to cool down, then talk about why things haven't been great with each other.
Something positive can come out of this if you try.

Joe

I think you should leave him. you obviously dont love him enough to talk to him through the bad times your having. he is probably feeling very betrayed and he probably wont trust you again. and without trust you dont have a relationship. its over. even if he does forgive you - your indescretion will ALWAYS be in his mind when you go out or look nicer to go out than you used to do - i think you get the point - shame really.

leslie c

my girlfriend made the same mistake once,and thats all it was,one big mistake,we all make them at least once in our lifes,he will get over it honest,but he will never forget it,he has proberbly done it himself over the years,but was lucky not to get cought,i know you will work it out,i bet he loves you very much,and when you love somebody with all your heart it hurts 100 times more,give him some space and remind him how much you care for him,he really needs to know that right now, good luck for the future,

bluebrancall

i don,t think you will make him believe that you where just kissing

crispy

was he a good kisser?

Rachael H

your husband feels humiliated, give him time to cool down and hopefully you can talk it through,
be aware how easy it is to take the next step though

gordon m

it looks to me like ur done, he caught u kissing the other guy and he seen what kind of passion u were putting into it, did the guy have wood when he was kissing u and was he grinding it up against u. its going to be real hard for him to erase that from his mind. he will probably even add more to this image he has of the two of u in this heated kiss. it will be hard for him to ever kiss u again now because he will be thinking about this guys tongue deep in ur throat and his throbbing member rubbing up against ur stomach or leg. ur going to have to get some serious therapy and maybe even try to talk to a minister about this and have the minister try to call him and let him know whats going on with u. i wish u luck in this situation but it looks like urs may have run out. i will keep u in my prayers.

Kissed by a Prince !

It was just a kiss?

no dear, that is not a good enough excuse. That is terribly hurtful and an insult to your husbands intelligence.

You husband is probably feeling, rejected, unattractive, useless, upset, not eating, worrying where he went wrong, and cursing you.

Leave him alone for a day. Stop bombarding him for the rest of the night. Text him again in the morning and BEG him to speak to you.

micky c

You could also offer to do anything he wants for one night to help make it up to him......AND I MEAN ANYTHING!!!!!

What did you do exactly, just kissed!!!! or you went ahead and opened your legs?????????

~*tigger*~ **

Leave well alone till he simmers down and then wait for him to contact you
all he can do is realise that you were reacting to the hurt thats in your relationship
Deeds have consequences and he hasnt been there for you and has to realise that
Forgive your self first

jimmy_00r0pq

If u are sorry from the bottom of yur heart then give it time....if u just feeling guilty but do not regret it then u need to think over more.....if u really love yur husband then give him time to heal....dont just stop leaving him mesages, doing things that will make him smile......time shall heal as always......u have to decide

In some counrtys you get killed for cheating. I think to be even he should kiss a hot girl in your face.

498A_Crusader

its a breach of trust and cheating; you deserv punishment; being sorry for your mistake will not work. may be u will get D notice soon.
you did it even knowing the result.
what u will do if u r in his shoes...?

Pottie

I would say he isn't thinking much, he is just plain hurt.. so hurt it is blinding.
With this much confusion, passion, hurt and blame floating about I think he may need a little while to get his feelings straight.
If it were me I would write him a letter, sometimes we are far more articulate in what we write when you can take your time and explain exactly what is on your mind and how things are/were.
It gives him a chance to take it in over time too, in a calmer setting without the confronting issue of seeing you just yet.. while the hurt is so raw.
Don't beg and grovel, he has lost respect as it is, apologize and explain yourself.. thats what he needs to make sense of it.
If he can forgive you you'll hear from him, if he can't then you have done what you can...
NO ONE in this life is perfect we all slip up... I am sure although for different reasons he has hurt you in the past too...
Don't beat yourself up, everyone makes mistakes..
I wish you all the very best.

pussyfuzzypussy

do u want to go further tonight?

jude

it will take him time to forgive u be patient with him, he is hurt, and his ego is bruised. treat him as if he is the most important thing in your life, talk it out, communicate, and show genuine remorse.

ong.kar

Respect his need to deal with this by giving him space, but more importantly find out what is going on with you. Why did you cross this boundary? Get clear and be who you are with no guilt. You will need to forgive yourself it is to move forward.

princess

he is probably either thinking of leaving you or whether he will be able to forgive and forget. this kind of situation is hard to get over and the pain stays sore for a very long time. if he decided to forgive you dont be suprised that from time to time he will remind you of how much you hurt him and if thats the case you must never turn around and say yes so what, or get over it they are the worst things you could say to anyone especially the loved ones.

what you need to know is, call him, leave messages when ever you can but dont be too harrassal and dont stop calling him because if you were constantly at him he will get even more annoyed if you stop he will think you dont care and give up and thats not what you want. he sounds liek he loves you i mean he married you for gods sake so hopefully this still has a chnace to recorrect, but take these steps.. make sure he hears and sees how sorry you are, offer to talk about and if it happens be as honest as you can, make sure he understands your love for him and it wasnt intentional, also hold ur hands up to it, regret it. you must not have contact with this person again because i dont think ur husband will be very impressed knowing ur still in touch with this person- ull have to chose between them.

other than that you know him bestand only you will know the right things to say. i hope to god it works and dont ever repeat this mistake again. take care x

marylou

you need to prove to him that it was a mistake,or was it. if you were having problems with your husband ask yourself why and what you can do to get back on track ,he will feel hurt and betrayed and you will have to show him how much you regret doing what you did all the best i hope everything works out for you both

starcp76

wow this is a tough one first why did the kiss happen and do you still want to be married if the answer is you still want your husband , you were wrong to do what you did but if you dont love your husband you probobly are realising it isnt the life you want and you wanted to kiss the person and move on with your life , you cant run a way from your feelings and you cant stay with someone caus you think its right ?

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