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Yulia
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If you want to save your marriage (!) I would go, because if not than per sure he'll remind you about it all the time. I will go to the wedding (that way you can say to him that you DID go to the wedding, even hi told you such a thing) but I will sleep separate and not talk to him until hi will sorry. |
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Tricia P
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Yes you should go! That is his bf wedding and you 2 are married... fights happen and people say things they do not mean in the heat of the moment. |
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Err
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The wedding is not for you right? So go do your part and deal with your husband later. |
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melouofs
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That's exceedingly harsh. I think you are obligated to go to teh wedding, though. I would be so hurt by that statement though. |
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BradsBaby
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i would still go. im sure he didnt mean what he said, he was just mad and was blowing off some steam... you dont have to be all friendly and nice to him, but i would still go.. |
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Otis F
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What he said is very hurtful. I'm sure that you don't feel like going.
However, it could be an opportunity to spend time in a social setting and reconnect with him a little.
After the wedding, you two have to see a marriage counselor and work on why this fight occurred. Otherwise, it's over. |
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Kim S
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I guess it depends on whether or not you want to get divorced. It could be petty and mean not to go--so, you could be gracious and go (heck you can get drunk right?). OR, you could be catty like a previous poster said, if you don't bring anything to the table and won't BE at the table (LOL!)....it just depends on what significance you want this moment to have in your relationship.
BTW, what was this big fight about?!? If it was something stupid, then you might want to forgive and forget, if it was major, it's obviously indicative of bigger, worse problems to come.
Good luck honey! Ultimately you should be happy with your situation and if you aren't, something needs to change. |
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chief8166
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There must be a lot more to it than that. You two better set and have a long talk. I said TALK not argue. |
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orionsgirl76
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If you plan to stay with him you'll only regret not going. Go, have fun, and discuss the previous nights drama later. |
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The last Mrs. "B"
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all depends if you are willing to sit next to a man that says you bring nothing to the table. If he had any respect for you, he would explain himself. If you two can't sit down and discuss what is going on then...He can go by himself,he is a big boy. Let him explain why you aren't there.
Fighting doesn't solve anything... if you two can't discuss stuff like adults... time to get some counselling. |
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myheartisjames
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go to the wedding and then rethink your life....... |
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sscott12414
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I would go cause it might of been said in anger. I have said worse. That and I think that I sould be there for him.
Both me and my husband have said worse in fights and we are still together and happy. |
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souljagirpart2
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I would tell him If I bring nothing to the table why are you with me? Then I would let him know, you don't try to maliciously shatter my self confidence because one mans trash is another mans treasure then I would make sure I acknowledge every guy who is interested in me. Now, might I add to let his comments be motivation for you to get yourself together and leave him. What is he that over confident that he's some trophy his damn self. Girl, I would make sure I blasted all his insecurities and short comings in front of anyone around when he tries to humiliate you! |
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Mit
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Hell yes. I would go and have a good time with or without him/her. Show him the ***** can party if he is happy or not.
Have fun |
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Adam G
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Ask him if he wants to talk about his feelings without being angry, so if something you're doing is wrong, or something he is doing is wrong (please don't point fingers and blame) you could try to fix things.
I wouldn't be happy to go if I were you though. |
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basketcase88
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Did your husband say this in the heat of anger? My husband and I have said horrible things to each other in the past when we're really good and angry at each other, but after we calm down, we both realize we didn't really mean what we said. But I've spent sleepless nights crying my eyes out over stuff we've said before. See if your hubby's calmed down a bit, he probably has, and try to make up with him--which can usually be quite fun! ;-) And yes, I would probably attend the wedding and rehearsal dinner with my husband, even after a fight. Couples fight, it's a fact of life, it's how you resolve the differences that will make a good marriage. Best of luck to you, I hope you can get it worked out. |
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baby_bling1091
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don't give up on him. keep trying to make things better. tell me the results after. |
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help me
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YOU JUST HAD WORDS GO TO THE WEDDING AND YOU BOTH WILL FORGET THE FIGHT AND IF YOU LOVE HIM OR CARE FOR HIM GO AND HAVE FUN |
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Kitty
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As you were fighting, you both have probably said some hurtful things. He may really be fed up with certain things you do, and he may be trying to send you an s.o.s. message. Don't over-analyze the hurtful comment - unless you have a reason to believe he really meant what he said. I would try to concentrate on a problem itself; what was it that you guys were fighting about? He feels that you b*tch too much; this actually is a common complaint in marriage - perhaps it would be wise for you to curb it somewhat? (I do it too, and my fiancé brought it up a few times, now I'm really trying to watch myself; even when I do feel like complaining sometimes, I bite my tongue when the issue isn't that important - this way, when I do bring something up, he will be more likely to listen.)
I feel that you shouldn't compound a problem by refusing to go to this wedding. If you don't want to do it for your husband, do it for the couple - your absence will be noticed. I would certainly go to the rehearsal dinner and the wedding; you can sort things out with your husband later. |
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fox69
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I would go, let ur husband know that u r not doing it for him but to support his bf. Have a good time and live a little. Don't exspect ur husband to change, even though it may of been the heat of the moment he still knows what he said hurt u.... I don't exactly know the situation u r in but if u don't work I would try and find a job to show him that u can and would if u have to live without him. GOOD LUCK! |
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kja63
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How do you "break up" with your spouse? You're married -- there's no breaking up! Tell your husband to grow up! If he wants a divorce then he needs to say so.
And if he is so unhappy with you then go to the wedding and rehearsal dinner as planned. Have a wonderful time by yourself and ignore your husband until he learns to act his age and work on your marriage together. |
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greenbaypackers1920
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If he knew that you bi%ch all the time then he should get over it and not talk about this... so I am confused because about If we broke up it would not matter to him because I bring nothing to table. that is true but because he has to hold on to it and then bring it up at home before he go BFF at the table.???? that stupid... and he don't even care what you have to say or anything.
That kind of immure of him to think that... he need to be man enought to talk to you better than that.
The best input you going to do is fine what ever you say. go and act like nothing happen and then if he bring up talked about you bad things what you did and don't say nothing bad about him and then they will looked at him huh??? she is a bi%ch?? how can it be?? ummmm. So now on don't complain any plm to him or say just nob your head yes and no that all. then he wills ay wil you pls talk to me not doing that damn nob thing. tell him oh well, you always bring something up before we go places don't know why. but you said it and now i just keep it to myself.
that will look good. smiling. |
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justmemimi
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Don't go to the wedding. Go to someone who can help you figure out how to start over again. Maybe back to your parents for now? Home is where you can relax and see clearly what has gone wrong in your life (I hope you had that kind of home).....it's never too late to start over again, if you are unhappy with your current situation. Gosh...I hope you don't have kids...if yes- forget what I said....in that case....
.... go to that party- fake good spirits....and the next day go to the library and fetch "Living The 7 Habits" by Stephen R. Covey. If reading was never your thing....for the kids' sake read this book and you will get some ideas on how to better coexist with someone you think seems to have fallen out of love with you.. |
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Elizabeth S
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Try to be in his shoes. Please don't get mad, but see if he's right. I know that I have a tendency to nag and that will cause people to blow up. Maybe you could talk to him adult to adult. Just sit down and use 'I' statements, such as 'I don't like it when you...', or 'I feel this way when you', instead of ripping into each other and get him to also do this! If you really love each other then you both will take the time to really listen. |
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Baby Jack born 4/5/09
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HE said "if we broke up it would not matter to him cause i bring nothing to table" thats a girls line! No dont go. Tell him that you bring nothing to the table. NOTHING. (not even your company) |
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oh wow my husband and I have had some fights like that but we are past it now.
Most guys know that the "b" word makes females even more pissed and thats why they say it. How long have you been married?
DOes his saying what he said have anything to do with his best friends wedding? guys like to show off when they know they are about to se their friends. if you want you can email me at beckmack at gmail.com |
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old_woman_84
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Maybe have a talk?? Ask him if he wants you to go with him?? If he is embarrassed by you?? Is that why he married you-to bring something to the table?? Did he really mean this or was it said in the heat of the moment?? Just a thought. Good Luck |
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Tyler Durdin
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Move one, he obviously doesn't respect you and any contributions to the relationship you bring. You deserve better. |
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seadew22
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Sounds like he doesnt appreciate your relationship with him.....He is thinking he brings everything to it and you dont...which is not a very nice thing to be doing in a relationship......Money isnt everything.....I think I would move on with my life..... |
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