Help my ex daniel emailed me and called me to meet him i did should i tell my husband?

ZCT

Well you have two choices:

1) You tell your husband the truth and hope that he forgives you.

2) You never tell your husband and hope he never finds out.

What you did was really dumb, on several levels. It's pretty dumb to marry someone when you still have feelings for someone else. It's pretty dumb to meet a person like this in a bar and then kiss him. And it's pretty dumb to love two people at the same time because this is never going to end happily.

ShellBellzGee

I truly despice women like you! or anyone whom cheats on their spouse. There is no forgiveness for people like you and no excuse for the shameless act you do behind your supposed loved one. I would say, confess to your husband, but of course you won't...I would say you are trash, but what for, you don't care, I mean, who am I for you to give a ratz azz about...I would say, never see this daniel again, but what for, you probably did him like 4x's by now...i would say you are taking your husband for granted, but again, you cheated and seems like you had no remorse. There is nothing to say to someone like you...your a shame to us faithful, honest decent women.

Boy did you manage to put yourself in a spot! You weren't showing love or respect for your husband when you were kissing that other guy. I have an ex that could be trouble for me. That's why I chose not to have contact with him. What you did was a choice. It didn't "just" happen.

400lbtwins

Cheater Cheater

dazednconfused

If it is something you couldn't do with your husband there, then you are WAY in the wrong. And I feel sorry for your husband that you snuck behind his back.

Selvaggio

Angela, shame on your girl. You knew better. Yes you should fess up and sit down with your husband and let him know.

HH6

Anything you do without telling your husband is cheating, had you realized this you may have never gone. You need to talk to your husband, and realize that he may not trust you for a while. You need to honestly work on your marriage, and put this other guy on the back seat, wayyyyyyyyyyyy back. Anyone that can't respect that you're married isn't worth it anyway.

Ruby

you should NOT have went first of all... and second of all you should really sort out your priorities and figure out who you wanna be with... its YOUR decision entirely, but which ever one you chose... STICK TO IT! dont cheat on your husband, if you wanna divorce him, thats fair... but DONT cheat on him!

onlinetherapist.com

The reason you feel ashamed is because you know you did something wrong. You have to make up you mind, and set priorities. Do you want to show respect for your husband and work on your marriage or do you want to turn your back on him and venture off into something that already has a bad start? If you keep this up, you will not only continue to hurt yourself, but your husband will suffer too. Do something before it's too late and more people get hurt. Best of luck!

JadeyOz

I hope your husband doesnt read QnA's or you just told him what you did without even opening your mouth.

You did wrong admit it , he'll be hurt but at least you can face the truth and both decide what to do .Lying will only eat you and in the end you'll end up with nobody and nothing.

RedRabbit

If you loved your husband, you would have told your ex to f off. You knew very well what meeting up with your ex could lead to. Tell your husband so he can divorce you and find a better woman.

dillutedjuice

Please almighty Lord , i hope there are no children in this marriage bound to end cause of a self centered , thinking only of myself woman, damn i can't stand cheaters in fact if you can't even trust your own spouse who can you trust....burn in H*ll lady.....Tell your man to call me after you break his heart at least he will have a buddy to count on and buy him a beer and talk about just how evil you really are. I'd say take care but how bout you drop dead...cheater
Oh and by the way everyone check out Angela's answers and see what she tells a woman when her man cheated......hypocrisy

sonyvet2002

The mere fact that you met with your ex says that things aren't right between you and your husband. If you really want to stick with your marriage, then cut off all ties with the ex. Change your phone number for one. Don't tell your husband, because it will only cause him pain, unless you feel you want to or might be tempted to meet up with your ex again, then yes, tell your husband, because subconsciously you may wanting your husband to know so that you can reek havoc, then you will have a 'reason' to get out of the marriage.

racer 51

are you nuts? get daniel out of your head and chalk this up to experience. you only think you have feelings b/c he said those things and it made you feel desirable. i think daniel is an *sshole for doing this. he had no right. don't tell your husband about this. why put him through that just to ease your conscious?

debbie d

my dear, you cant have it both ways,you were unfaithful and liar,you should be ashamed. you must decide whats more important to you, and be very careful lies and liars are always found out, what would you do then??i wouldn't tell him yet, id make up my mind to what i want and never cheat again, ask god for forgiveness and be good to your husband. good luck and god bless you!!!

girl

what if your husband did that to you how would you feel..think of that

Kelly RIch

your married, don't be running off w/ other men

The Naked Truth

You screwed up big time. You need to tell Kory. And you need to stop all communication with your ex.

sheloves_dablues

Nice.. Not only did you cheat on your husband, you named him publicly so he could be humiliated on Y/A.

Should you tell him? Oh yeah.. He deserves better that this.

Suburban Mom

Tell your husband the truth. You don't sound as though you regret going or regret having feelings for someone else. You should consider getting a divorce- it's not fair to your husband, if you have feelings for someone else.

shotindustries

Tell him as soon as possible. This is a good example why you don't 'flirt' with such ideas even when they start out innocent.

You need to put yourself in the bad situation of making it up to him. And you make it up by telling him, loving him, and apologizing!

Now.. he will be angry and leave for abit.. but keep loving him.

If he comes back, then great! He's a good man and loves you.

If he doesn't,.. well you have yourself to blame.

And lastly, If you don't feel like making it up to him by telling him and apologizing then you shouldn't be with him anyway.

...But not telling him only makes it worse.. would you want to know if he cheated on you?

gitargal

I believe that you should never hide anything from your partner. Just put yourself in his place. How would it feel to have that done to you? It may already be too late to repair the damage you have done, but you can't go wrong with living your life by this rule,"Treat others as you would like to be treated". Also remember that Karma is some powerful stuff. Time has a way of making you forget why they were your ex in the first place!

country angel

you didnt love your husband enough to not go out with your ex and then you didnt think of his feelings when you kissed your ex and whtever the something that happened was, you should tell your husband becuase he desserves to know the truth and if you realy want your marriage to work you need to be honest with one another besides imagine the tables turned wouldnt you want him to tell you if he had done some of the things you have? You shouldve told him about the hole thing before you meet your ex then maybe you wouldnt be in this possition! remeber honesty is the best policy

James

you should tell him. If you dont then your lying. Because if he knows you probly wont do it again, and you dont want to cheat you will feel very bad about yourself. But leave out the part about the kiss, that could really hurt him.

Madikam

Wow...I have a LOT to say about this but to keep it short - how would you feel if your husband did this to you?

You know it's wrong...otherwise you wouldn't be asking for help. You screwed up - now you either have to face the music and deal with it....or live with your guilt.

For the record, perhaps you should contemplate what it means to LOVE someone, because I think you may not quite understand that particular feeling/emotion. And while you're at it, look up the word LUST, it might help you understand those "feelings" you're having for Daniel.

julianna

first, block your ex on your email...it seems you can't resist temptation, and you may make a mistake again and see him. if your husband is the forgiving kind, and you can promise him (and mean it) that it will never happen again, you should tell him...and beg for forgiveness if you want to keep your marriage. on the other hand, would you be telling your husband just to have someone to confess your guilt to? he would be sure to feel terrible. would telling him make him leave you? only you can answer those questions. what's done is done...but don't make the same mistake again!

love_inc2000

You only CARE about YOU. Dont use YA to cover for your selfishness.

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