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verrico98
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YOu have a problem. If he is not willing to compromise you will be a slave to your house, child and husband forever. You have to think this one over, he has to be willing to change. |
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i work hard too...and i would never leave my wife to care for our 5 daughters and do all the house work also....that's a shame. |
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Wow!guitar
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If you love him so much how hard is it to take the dog out for 30 min. while he bonds with the baby so you can get out of the house and get some exercise with the dog and a little time away from the baby ? I don't see a problem myself. This gives you a little free time and him time with his kid. |
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oklatom
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You have issues that go way beyond animal ownership. I'd suggest seeing a good psychologist to discuss your issues. |
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Karla
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Look, the dog has to be taken out just like the baby has to be fed. Someone has to do it, so what's the problem if he wants to?
You can't neglect your animals just because you don't like them. They deserve care just as much as you do. |
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john d
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ok first of all are you a house wife? This does not make you look stupid. it makes you a house wife trying your best to make your husband happy, and I am not sure where you got your info about working people not having pets. It is my opinion that you are whining about things. do not get me wrong taking care of the baby is not easy, but neither is working full time either. I also noticed that he spends his time sleeping instead of watching tv, playing video games and just totaly ignoring you when he is home. Grow up a little.
Ps, if you are so tired from taking care of the kid all day and the child demands so much from you why are you on the pc asking yahoo questions? |
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jerzyson29
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Take care of the baby and stop with the house work let him see what it's like without your efforts. |
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tacka....
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Playing with a pet has been shown to be a huge stress reliever. Maybe you should try it. |
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kool dude
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well your husband looks like an animal freak and he has to understand what is your problem as he is your hubby. But you must be a good wife too. You know what can women do when a man tries not to listen to them just ... Dont sleep together with him somedays and askhim to sleep with his animals instead ... Hope he might understand ur value.... If he doesnt understand even that way seduce him first then use the above method ..... Be more good to your husband and love him if he doesnt listen do it .. dont sleep with him sleep in the same room but somewhere else. |
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Geezer
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well i think you need to make time for yourself and your husband needs to make time for you and the baby.
and you should ask a close friend or relative to look after the baby for a few hours a day so you can get some sleep
as for the animals he shouldn't have a dog if he isn't there to look after it, a cat that's not so bad they take themselves for walks
hope this helps. |
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paige_laine
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In a relationship everything should be 50/50 rather it be helping take care of the baby, cleaning, laundry whatever. Sounds like he just wants someone who will wait on him hand and foot, he should help you no matter what even if he works, when I was married I helped her even after I came home from work just to give her a break too. He sounds like a *** to me sorry |
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nickelbabe89
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if he wanted the animals he should take care of them n if he doesnt have the time then he doesnt need them that could be extra time to spend wit u n da baby. u by ur children pets to keep them somewat occupied but i think u should get rid of them while hes gone if he wont voluntarily. hell get over it n if he dont say i wish u would put up as much of a fight to work on our marriage n family time than fighting for animals that dont serve contribution to the family it just pleases u n thats selfish. |
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john u
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i know it's wrong but it works make up a story about the baby being sick one evening and say you are going to the doctor tomorrow the next day when he comes home from work say the doctor sad it's most likely a reaction to something probaily animals and surgest he might want to get rid of them for the baby's sake. |
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Iris R
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Make a list of things which need doing and give it to your dh or better yet hang it on the refrigerator for him to see every day.
My dh is not much better. I always have to remind him that he is not just a guest in the house he has work to do as well. Now that you have a baby it is even more important he pulls his weight. Perhaps stop making him dinner and say you just don't have the time to spare. |
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Lala M
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yes that is true
it is not fair that you have to do everything in the house and take care of the baby
he is the father and he need to start acting like it
tell him that instread of takeing the dog for a walk
to spend time with his FAMILY
like mabey watch a movie to relax
family is more important then pets i think |
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the_hedda_lettuce
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You don't have to have the entire house cleaned everyday.
Just pick a room or two a day that need to be cleaned. Do a load of laundry daily.
Let the dog outside once every couple of hours.
Buy those Clorox bathroom wipes to wipe down the sink and toilet. Takes less than 5 minutes.
The most time consuming chore you probably have is the floors. Get them out of the way first. Those Swiffer floor wipes do a great job.....they sweep and clean the floor at the same time. Only vacuum the rooms that get the most foot traffic. |
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Sunshine
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Sounds like you two need a good sit down talk about your marriage and its future. |
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867-5309 "Jenny"
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Get rid of the animal's or at least put them out side were they belong,, I hate walking in someones house and smelling cat urine or dog sh*t how gross!! animal's belong out side it's not healthy for the baby's smelling that either and the baby can get ring worm from the cat.. Your hubby needs to grow the F*** up. I feel sorry for you good luck... |
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Nikko-Shonin
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hang on a moment!....are you whining about your husband taking the dog out for a pee??
Give the guy a break.....he works all day to pay for you AND your child to live so get off his case....after all SOMEONE has to do it....and it soundl like you aint gonna do it... |
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drankurbhardwaj
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this is a relaxation for your husband give him his space. |
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Joanne A. W
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Hon, I know life is hard for you at the moment because you are so tired. A new baby is always a draw on the mother's time and health.
But you must realize that working in public is no picnic either. Your sweet husband is not out there having fun. He has to put up with a lot of things that you never hear about.
Remember.....the house and children are the woman's work; and bringing home money for food, clothing, rent is the man's work.
The only alternative is divorce. Do you really want a divorce? You will then be expected to work AND raise the baby on your own. |
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-Tequila9+
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Yes, you both have full time jobs and being a parent means you are on call 24 hours a day.
Get some rest the best you can. This too shall pass.
As for the argument, I'd fore go the bickering. Some men just don't get it. If you can't live with it leave, but try to accept the situation, the resulting resentments just aren't worth the headache.
Been there, done that. I left, but more because of the physical violence than him not doing his fair share of parenting duties. I also held a part-time job outside of the home along with raising 2 infants and a pre-school-er.
"Acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed it is because I find some person, place or thing, some fact of my life unacceptable to me. I can have no serenity until I accept that person, place or thing as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing, happens in "Gods" world by mistake. Unless I accept life completely on life's terms I cannot be happy. I need to concentrate not so much as what needs to be changed in the world as what needs to be changed in ME and MY attitudes."
This is not to say you CAN'T change situations, this is to say accept it or move on.
I wish you the best, I truly do.
Good luck.
Peace. |
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GraWolfe
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he makes you feel stupid and treats you like a slave, but you're not good enough to walk his dog? THAT'S ABUSE!
try talking to him and tell him how you feel -- if that doesnt work, you need to get out! |
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susan h
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it sounds that your not an animal lover and he is. this could be a problem. Relax, if things dont get done right away so what. Realize the most important thing is your family. Start doing things together at night when he comes home. If your husband walks the dog put your baby in a stroller and go together. You are spending quality time together and the baby gets fresh air. You will se without asking he will be more willing to help when need be. Believe it or not it works |
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Juan Carlos J
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why dont u consider getting a job consider couples therapy also consider getting a baby sitter to take care of the animals and the baby while ur at work. |
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podolak6
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sounds like someone is hittin the slopes, becarefule and dont hit the divorce tree... ouch |
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sasi
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He can be a real animal lover too.If so what he does is normal.He should be made to realise his responsiblity in the home ,,explain politely and firmly,,by telling it when both of you were in good mood,,how he fail to share his responsiblty,in the house hold responsiblities |
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sammy3256
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Not all men are good with babies. Did he want to be a father right now? Sometimes they are not sure what to do or just get better when the kids get older and they can do something with them.
This time period will pass with the baby. If he wants the animals let him take care of them. As the baby gets older, you will have more time.
Focus on you and the baby. Let everything else wait until you are ready and when you are ready. If he doesnt like the house work isnt being kept up tell him to do the housework himself then or shut up.
No more discussions on baby, animals - men dont like to talk so actions speak louder than words. Just do. |
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pebblespro
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I don't think that your husband makes you look "stupid" that's NOT really relevant to the question... I think that your husband loves his animals and does NOT want to part with them even though the two of you have a baby. While I will agree that pets are NOT children and should NOT be treated like children on the other hand to simply get rid of them because "you don't like living with animals" is not acceptable if he had the animals BEFORE you and you still married him than they are part of the package. It's your husband's choice on spending the free time taking care of the pets.
As for people that don't work keeping pets- well, that's not an accurate statement... I have 2 children that I care for during the day a 5 yr. old Rottweiler AND I work at night... While I'm working my husband cares for the children and the dog.. We seem to do just fine... So, maybe it's time to stop whining about all the work that goes into having a family/children/pets and just get on with it already..... Let him care for the animals and you take care of the baby... Maybe meet somewhere down the middle and share some responsibilities..
Good luck |
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