Her marriage is going to fail as they are too much in love and young! Advice, MATURE ANSWERS!?

My sister is 22 and engaged to marry her 23yr old Scottish fiance who she has been dating since he moved to the US 5yrs ago. He is a musician in a traveling band and he takes her everywhere with him and you can tell they are crazy about one another, but im terrified that she is moving too fast and it will end disastrous. When they are angry with one another they are really angry and when their happy they are madly in love. I have been married 3 times and they have all ended, none of the marriages in our family last and she has vowed to be nothing like us but im convinced she will be just as jinxed as us and i don't wont them going through that pain so young. When they aren't traveling we almost never see them as they spend almost all day at home in bed together or if they go to our family party's they are all over each other, cant keep there hands off one another or he dedicates songs to her. There are two of our brothers friends who have had feelings for her for years and they will never get a chance as she is trowing her life away on a marriage so young. She is the youngest of 7 siblings and she is absolutely beautiful and has many opportunity's in life and because of him she is more interested in just living her life with him. I don't want to see my baby sister get hurt. Any advice?

Libby

Your baby sister is a grown woman, and she's actually been with the guy for quite a while. Yes, they might get really angry with each other now and then, but they might also be really good at working out their problems, too.

Usually the kind if euphoric love they are in only lasts a year or two, but they've got 5 years into their relationship. Some couples really do remain affectionate and adoring their entire married lives. Maybe your sister WILL break the family curse. Have some faith in her.

geri

Mind your own business lady.

sheloves_dablues

They've been together for FIVE years. That's hardly rushing.

Just because you've been married three times doesn't mean her relationship will fail.

Be supportive of her as a sister and after that, butt out.

Really Billy

With all due respect, you don't strike me as an expert on what makes a marriage work.

Leave them alone. They're adults.

Common sense isn't anymore..

My advice? Mind your own d@mn business. You've been divorced 3 times, obviously you know nothing about how a good marriage looks. Stay out of it. Families aren't "jinxed", that is a cop out for people who get married like they change clothes.

Katie M

Your sister is an adult. She may end up being very happy so don't butt in. On the other hand she may have to learn the hard way. Either way, it's her life.

Shannon

Don't project your failings onto her.
Focus on your own life and fixing it, don't try to fix her life.

STFU

on the contrary, I don't think you want to see her happy.

MYOB.

My daughter and her hubby got married when she was just out of high school. They've been married 11 years. I have 2 gorgeous grandchildren and one on the way. They were married 4 years before they had the first. They still adore each other.

it's not up to you to decide what will or won't make her happy.

Jess

your sister is an adult...she has been with him for 5 years. There isnt anyhting she can do..just stay out of it and let her live her life...if there marriage does end..then she will leanr from that on her own. No one can tell the future and just because you and ut family has had failed marriage's doesnt mean she will. Maybe this is the guy for her. Who knows...no one can tell the future and every relationhip/marriage is a risk. Just stay out her her business, if you try to push this on her she will only end up hating you..just support her ike a sister should.

Bonnie

Your sister is not that young, and she and her fiance have been dating five years. It is NOT moving too fast. You are behaving like a typical overprotective older sister, who may even be a little jealous of her little sisters very affectionate loving relationship. They sound like a great couple, give them a chance. Just because you are a three time loser doesn't mean she will be, too.

Ellie

This is your sisters life and she is ole enough to get married. Things might be great for her, but no one can ever tell what the future holds. so let her be happy for today and just be there for her if it fails.

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She's been with this guy for 5 Years. How is that moving too fast?

Visualize Whirled Peas

Given your experiences, you certainly have reason to pause in anticipation of disaster. But, she's not you. And he's not one of your three ex's.

I'mbout2breakbad!

She is an adult, so let her make her own decisions. She isn't that young for marriage. Seems by your post they really love one another. Besides, just because you had 3 failed marriages doesn't automatically make you a marriage expert or give you the right to inpose your views on their relationship. Let her be happy in love, if it's meant to be, it's mean't to be and if it isn't, she will eventually find out.

Dan =]

Okay, firstly I'd just like to preface this by apoligizing for my harshness.

Your sister's 22? She's an adult, and free to do whatever she wants with her life. She's also been seeing him for 5 years, that's hardly rushing, plus they're clearly in love, so why don't you just butt out of it? Just because you're so jaded from your 3 failed marriages doesn't mean you should drag her down with you! Just let her live her life and make mistakes even! Your job is just to be there to support her no matter what, regardless of your own personal feelings.

I'm sorry, that might have come across as really horrible, but to be quite honest it's what you need to hear. I am sorry though. Good luck =]

Ashes

i got married at 19 and my husband was 27 at time time, we are still very happy and very much in love, with two little girls, she could end up happy you dont know that she wont. support her in her descision to get married and if for some reason things dont work then be there for her afterward :)

lost in hope

i think you should stop thinking about your sister and think about yourself. it seems you have a problem, if the relationship fails then whatever if it doesn't then god bless, but please leave it alone and get therapy, it worked for me. leave your sister and her man alone!!!

Drae

I don't believe there needs to be such harsh answers here. There is no such thing as being TOO in love, only too gullible or vulnerable, which is, what I think what you are confusing here. My in-laws went on their first date in March, then were married in May. My mother-in-law was 18. They have been married for twenty-five years, and THAT is rushing it but they are still madly in love. Five years is plenty of time to figure someone out and decide whether or not it is possible to tolerate living with them for the rest of your life. Just stop worrying. Maybe the reality is that you don't like how much space and time he is taking up in her life? Another idea is that maybe you just expect her to be like you, and there may not be just cause to think that. Just evaluate what your problem really is, because maybe you are not being honest with yourself.

jnjmommy

Leave it alone. You may think you are just trying to "save her" but your only keeping her from experiencing life. Let her make mistakes and learn on HER time...not yours.

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