Hey guys I have just found out my hubby is on a friendship and dating site called my space .com?

Shaun A

myspace isnt just for dating and meeting people i use it just to talk to friends sometimes so maybe hes just being friendly

FluffyPinkThing

Myspace is not a dating site. I have one and am happily married. Even my teenage kids have them. Chill!

Wingin It

ask him about her - lots and lots of questions. then tell him thats imnppropriate and to stop immediately. use his money to go back to school so you can get a job to support yourself when you divorce his cheating a@@ !!

heavymetalbitch

confront him. you must have access to his computor to have found out. if may be innocent. but you must sort this out. i divorced without money or anywhere to live. i made it. so can you.

just me

I also have a myspace account, and am very happily married. I keep in touch with some high school and work friends. It may be something your husband does just to keep in touch with people too. You should set up an account (it's free!) and send him messages too! It's fun. If you think there is something to be worried about, you should be straight up with him. Don't worry yourself sick about this. If it is something he's doing wrong, concider yourself lucky for knowing sooner rather than later. Good luck, Sweetie!

tiffany

i think you need to talk to him and tell him how you feel then keep a closer eye on him to see whats really going on.

teeth hoover

Hey calm down - myspace isn't a dating site at all. There's lots of things on it. Have a look for yourself. Don't worry about this friendship thing if i was you. Talk to him about it and say you're not happy about him being friendly with another woman. Honestly though, if they're just exchanging messages and everything is above board, don't worry. I really don't think you need to be considering divorce either. Talk to him and stay calm.

texts_lyrics

Myspace, as the people above have mentioned, is not just for dating. It's for keeping in touch with old friends, allowing you to have your own customizable space without the hassle of upkeep one would find with a personal website, and allowing old and new friends see what you're up to, with blog options, picture showcase capabilities, etc. However, if you are concerned, I would suggest looking at his page with a scrutinizing eye. Usually on the right-hand side, near the bottom of the page, there's an area that says "*generic username*'s Details", and inside that table, there will be something that says "Status". That is marital status. Under that, it will also say "Here For". Most people who are just looking for old friends with just say "Friends". Some people will put "Networking", which just means they are trying to find people to collaborate in their work field, but "Dating" is also an option, and you can have more than one. Any of these options can also be over-ridden, so say he doesn't want people to know he's married, but doesn't want to put single, either. He can choose "No Answer", and then these options will not show up in the box. You can also look at this "About Me" section (usually top right on the page), and see if there's any mention about you, or about him being married. As far as the person he's keeping in contact with, you can usually look at the page of said person and see where they're from, at least, even if they have a private profile. I'm not encouraging you to snoop, but if you'd like to set your mind at ease a bit, this may be the way to do it. If, however you find anything questionable, I would explain your concern to your husband and see what he has to say. Marriage, as they say, is 50/50. I hope this helps a bit. Good luck!

Ginny Jin

He could just be chatting with a friend. Don't worry. I have male friends online but also have a partner. x

Edit - I agree with Emmie.

my space.com is not a dating site it is a friendship site. but your husband might be using the site to do the wrong thing. try to talk to hhim in an understanding manner.

Sparklepop

EDIT -

I had written an answer to this question, but I've just read your other questions. Aren't you talking to guys online and meeting up with guys behind your husband's back?

If so, it sounds like you both need to have a big, long chat....

Like the poster said before, myspace isn't just for dating. yes, it can be used for that, but many people keep it just to stay in touch with friends. i have many, many Friends and former HS classmates on myspace. Maybe you should look into this further before you jump to any conclusions. If there are inappropriate things being said or if you just aren't comfortable with him talking to this girl, just talk to him about it. good luck! :)

mimi

Sounds like you have access to his my space account. If I were you I would not mention this to your husband right now, make him feel really comfortable, and monitor his conversations with her. Find out what they are saying to each other, then you will know if he is just friends with her or if there is something more. Also you should be able to access her account and look for messages that he has sent to her, unless she has her profile set to private. Just play it cool until you get some proof, and then confront him.

whereRyou?

My husband did the same thing, but much farther over the top than myspace. Myspace didn't worry me. The singles sites where he was meeting women did. Many, many people have myspace accounts who are married and it means nothing. Get the facts before you let your head split.

For us, the romantic letter in his email from a woman he was chatting with from a real dating site was a heart-stopper. I knew we had some distance between us, but never dreamed he'd go outside the marriage.

When faced with the reality that he was about to lose his marriage, he halted all contact with the other woman. He wrote her that night and aplogized and cut it off. It was no fun, but it was the open door we needed to get real honest real fast and start negotiating our life.

When you realize it is over, you have nothing left to lose. It all gets laid out on the table. We stopped the blame, both took 100% responsibility and started working together to find strategies for our problems. Turns out we were better at it than we knew. Sit hubby down and find out why he is unhappy and what the two of you can do about it. You need your best friend and partner back and so does he. You can do it. Good luck. Drop me a line and let me know how it is going.

Take a break. Fight it out. Talk it out. Work it out. You can't make him do anything. He either decides you and your marriage is where he is putting his efforts or he walks.

In the meantime, do not get pregnant. Do get educated or trained so you have financial options, choices, etc. Live your life for you and for your marriage. What makes you happy? What do you want? How do you get there with or without him? Letting his actions dictate how your life pans out is not a good plan. You need to get on equal footing.

I wish you the best.

cris

I have a myspace, so does my husband. Check his profile, Where is says details, it also says "here for" if it says friends or networking there is nothing to worry about. But if it says dating or serious relationship, then that is a problem. Under here for, it also has "status" if it says single, then again that would be a problem.
But if all he is doing is talking to people don't worry about, read what he says and what she says. If it is just normal chatting, then don't worry about it. And get your own myspace add him, and then see if he puts you as his #1 friend.

flo-pickle

me and my husand have my space profiles its just chatting with people.you make yourself a profile and you will see

annie

anways........how do u know its anything more than a friendship? i mean, dont u have male friends?

lady_bella

Whoa, before you think of divorce, find out the facts first. First of all, talk with your hubby and without attacking him, ask him what his purpose is having an account on MySpace. Second, don't assume who Kendal is to him. Could be a long lost friend from school.
I have a MySpace account as well. My husband knows this and he knows everyone I talk to. I don't keep nothing from him. There's no reason to because I have nothing to hide. I even reunited with an old friend of mine from 17 years ago. And it's a male, and my husband knows too. I keep him in the loop so he is not made to feel like he can't trust me. I hope when you talk with your husband about this, he can come straight out and tell you about it. Don't get angry with him because you don't know exactly what's going on. Tell him that you would like for him to be honest with you about his MySpace and the people he talks to on there. There's nothing wrong in having cyber friends. As long as they're not underage!!! Hopefully he will show you his account and profile that he put up there on MySpace. If he doesn't, and is apprehensive about showing you, then something isn't right. He's hiding something. Then the red flag should come up. And tell him that you don't feel comfortable with him having a secret account on MySpace because it makes you feel as though he's being dishonest with it.
I hope it all works out.

Mr&MrsDizzle

Dont over analyze it... Myspace.com is a great way to keep in touch with old friends, and make new ones. Unless you found something to prove to you that he's cheating, I'd stay level headed about it. and make yourself a Myspace page. Almost everyone has one- it isnt always a bad thing.

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wow im not dating any one and i have a myspace its fun too have one and its a such a kewl site maybe hes just friends with that person thier is nuthin wrong with that unless thier thier doin dirty pictures on the internet then i guess thats evidence myspace is a website where anyone loves too hangout at its like the kewlest thing out thier but if your hubby is cheating on you then no thier is nothin kewl about that if he is im sorry i hope you get sumone better then that

Alex B

i have myspace, and so does about 90% of people i know. it's not a dating site per se, albeit, it is often used as one. i wouldn't jump the gun, but i wouldn't let it slide without a thorough investigation either. just check it out and see what he's doing on there.

I'm a fruitbooter... So what

calm down! i have lots of friends on it that i talk to and i have no idea who they are! you have nothing to worry about

Isabella S

get your own myspace account. add him. then add every single female on his friend list and announce yourself as his wife. be friendly.....if they aren't trying ot mess around with your hubby, they will accept your add. if not....you know who to beat the crap out of.

3dom

Me and my boyfriend have a my.space site. We have both put that we are in a relationship, as far as I am concern that needs that I am only on that site to make friends with other people to chat about everything and anything, so if I was speaking to a man it would go no further than that.
But I do know how you feel, have you had a look at the site, your husband can out on there what he is on the site for, i.e friendship, relationship etc. Or just speak to him about it, tell him how you feel, ask him why he has gone the site.
I joined in the hope that some of my family who have computers would be on it, also old school friends. But none of them seem to be, so he could have joined for this reason.

rrrrkat

Ok, keep your cool. The exact same thing happened to me with my ex - firstly, MySpace is a networking site so he may not neccessarily be playin around
The sly girl in me says set up an anonymous profile & try to chat to him & see how he reacts... you can catch him redhanded if he is playing around!
On a more serious note, that is what ended my relationship so before you make any moves you need to decide how you would react if he really is cheating on you or if there are some issues in you relationship you need to work on that can be overcome
If it comes to the worst, you will get through it although it seems like an impossible option right now - the main thing is to value yourself & be 100% sure before you make any moves
Good luck m'dear
x

Miss Understood

it shouldn't be anything to worry about. MySpace isn't a dating site, it's just a way to meet and communicate with people from all over the world. I have over 150 MySpace friends and only 5 are people i actually know, the others are celebrities and other random people i thought were interesting or who thought i was. we just leave comments on each other's pages and wish each other a "happy Birthday", stuff like that. It's completely casual. In your case,though, i guess it depends. If she's just a casual penpal from another state or country, you shouldn't worry. if she lives close by and they seem like more than just penpals, then i don't know. But most likely,it's nothing to worry about. Maybe you could get a profile and meet people too.

Worth the chase

put prayer on him. If he is in the wrong then God will get vengeance and he will not be able to enjoy what he's doing for long. Also talk to him, let him know how you are feeling about what he's doing and try getting some income of your own. When you became dependent on him, you basically gave him the power to treat you the way that he does, and if he knows that you are dependent on him then he will do as he pleases because he doesn't have to answer to you. I don't know why you don't have money but everyone should have money whether it's coming from working, receiving disability, or some type of aid. Get up and do something to help yourself.

wonderful

My space is a place for fun, for meeting friends. I'd rather not call it a dating site since many of their users are teens with 18- yrs.

JAMES A

bloody tell him

Red Rose

If you want to catch him cheating go to this site they will help you. http://www.cheaters.com

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