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john b
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Well my dear, i am a man, and I am a very happy man. I can honestly tell you that I do not flirt, or have wondering eyes. That would be the rudest thing I could ever do to my wife....Thats what devotion is all about. |
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tabby
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are you actually looking for a way out for yourself, by getting a divorce and to put the blame on him so you would feel at ease on yourself. it seems this has been going on for quite a few years--so, why all of a sudden this upsets you, you should have talked to him years ago on how you felt at this instead of letting it lead to this now. just remember it is your decision in whatever you decide to do.......hope you make the right one.. |
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AVA
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On the one hand you say you don't care but on the other you want to divorce him? It seems to me that instead of building a marriage based on trust you have breeded the results with constant accusations. The proverbial forbidden fruit. I gather he hasn't acted on any of his glances. This alone is an indication that he likes your jealous reactions. Sometimes just a little dose of his own medicine can be enough to cure what ails him. |
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scotty
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wow he's just looking has he ever touched |
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Jo Jo Gunn
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If, he's not looking at other women ~ then I'd be worried if, I were you ! |
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flagger
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Get over yourself. He's probably tired of your lame jealousy. If it is just a wandering eye it may be a bit loutish but you act like he's doing them. This is not cheating. There is nothing wrong with reading the menu if you are not ordering the entree. Are you really most upset that he does not look at you that way anymore?Come up with a good reason then divorce him. It appears that is what you really want.
Sweet Love Chops?, really? |
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chaotique_79
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don't threaten to leav him. since you won't. couple therapy. |
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anonymourati
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Well you know what? I was born in the mountains, and I love the views there, but sometimes the beach is also very nice to gaze upon. The Lord put an abundance of beauty in this world for each of us to marvel upon and I think your proclivity toward jeaoulsy is perhaps a little too well-developed and is clouding your own vision. Relax a little. Looking at a woman, or if you are a woman, looking at another man is hardly the crime of the century--and certainly not something over which to break up a marriage. |
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bond girl
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I think there is more going on than with just his wandering eye. It sounds like you need to get some confidence about yourself. Even if you divorce him.. you will run into the same problems with the next fellow.. |
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C live
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sounds like you just want a divorce that is not always the answer to every problem in a marriage, sounds like you are looking for an excuse to be free. But talk to him tell him exactly how you feel he should be understanding and respect your wishes. But me personally I think all men have a wondering eye married or not there is a difference between looking, flirting, and cheating do you trust him? I tend to look at other women as well and I am married but I know my limit and will not cheat on my wife and did he actually flirt in front of you or was it your insecurities and jealousy |
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SKG R
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All men are like one single tree with many branches,you cant see a tree in 360 degrees.
The point I am making is some are doing things behind their wife's
back.
Do not think men will leave the urge till they have EDF sets in.
So it is up to you to take a decision but consult a marriage consular. |
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rosie
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do what you feel is right..... sorry about your situation |
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♥2323vsb
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the wandering eye is a huge indicator of his private life that he's been trying to keep from you. the young women.....the staring.......your gut feelings......please. do not buy into the whole 'men will be men' belief. it's a distorted stereotype that has become acceptable in our dysfunctional society. a real man does NOT do this to his wife...period! sounds like he's hiding some major issues....and not very well. you'll probably get responses here from other men....saying, oh get over it, it's harmless. but you know better. and it's not harmless. it's degrading and wrong. be strong and trust your intuition. it's trying to tell you something. guy's like this are so lame. so sorry about your situation. |
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miataman042
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First of all marriage is about trust, if you don't have that you have nothing. Now if you trust him what is wrong with him looking? As the old saying goes: Just because you are on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the menu. At the end of the day at least you know he is coning home to you! Relax and go with the flow! |
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swingorstrikeout
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email me we can talk :) |
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sophia_of_light
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I am surrounded by men and honestly I don't know a man that doesn't look. Right down to my dad, my step dad, my brother, my uncle, to my husband! They are men and boys will be boys... There is no harm in looking but when it gets to the hand and touching is involved then and only then do you have something to worry about! Start looking at the guys not that this matters but it does help and do it infront of your husband. In a marriage there is no room for jealousy it is childish and does more harm then good, it effects the person who is jealous more then any other person. Talk to him and let him know how you feel and tell him it bothers you. There are ceratin times I am o.k. with it and other times I am not and it is his responsibility to know what my moods are and when he can look and when he can't if he's going to all! There are times I laugh at him what else can you do and why would you want to do anything else it is not means for divorce and it is not means for arguing. Have unconditional love with no limits you'll be much happier and a new found relationship between you and your husband will flower... Relax and trust that all is well, he can look all he wants but it really means nothing! It is not direspect unless he is doing it purposly to piss you off and/or he is doing it when others, other then you are noticing. How much disrespect are you showing him by not letting him "look" and by causing a sceen and arguing about it, let him be himslef, he is not afraid to show you that he is looking so why be afraid to let him look? Communicate and let the indivduals as you are combined with your marriage at a level of trust and acceptance have fun with this don't let it ruin things... Good luck! |
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cazzi_g
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You should turn the tables on him. Next time you are out together try flirting with a couple of guys and see how he reacts.
If you've really had enough just leave and divorce him. Find a nice guy who only has eyes for you. |
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thattori66
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I think it's ok to look, but staring crosses the line. Flirting is cheating's ugly cousin. The fact that he does both in front of you is disrespectful. I don't cheat, but I've checked other people out when a partner wasn't around and if they happen to notice me doing it with them there, then I owe an apology. I would say he's already cheated when he shows more attention to a stranger than to his wife. Desparate times call for desparate measures, but tell him how his actions make you feel and if he disregards your feelings well, that's a bad relationship any day of the week. |
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Angela
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Most of the time women who get mad when their husband looks at other women are very insecure with themselves, and most of the time the man does this to the woman without even realizing it. If your over it then leave because you will not be happy until you do. |
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sweets
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Well for one all men are going to check out the young girls because there are so many pretty YOUNG girls But They also need to remember that those young girls will grow old. It seems like your self esteem is very low. I am one of those low self esteem people and i am always being told I'm beautiful but I never believe it because in my mind I'm not. Don't let it bother you so much he's looking as long as he isn't touching etc. he maybe doing it also for his own self esteem problems. You cant tell me you haven't checked out a younger guy :) its a natural thing as long as it stays that way and doesn't go any further. But divorcing over him checking out younger girls seems a little extreme don't ya think?? Maybe you should start checking out the young guys in front of him and if he gets upset ask him how does it feel for it to be on the other foot. I hope i helped you some I know its hard and hurtful when your man checks out younger girls just let it go or it can cause you to get sick from stressing about it. |
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Java Jive
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first of all i dont like the idea that you no longer care. you are a woman and a woman should feel beautiful. i think the first thing you need is some confidence, go out with your girlfriends, get your hair done (a mani and pedi always works for me) second tell your husband how you feel cause you never know, he could be hurt at the fact that he is hurting you and try to change. but otherwise, you are a human being like the rest of us and you should be secure in your relationship. SIT YOUR MAN DOWN AND TALK TO HIM.
besides he is a grown *** man, what the hell is he doin messing around with young girls? tell him only pedophiles do that and those who like older men are only after their money, and the money that they get they give it to their boyfriends who are there age with the same energy, |
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Penguin Crusade aka Sid the Kid
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threaten to leave him and see what happens. |
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Kitty
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Why not just divorce him? |
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Spoiled
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You have already answered your own question - you say you want a divorce so that you can be free - there is your answer. Your husband has no respect for you if he is constantly flirting right in front of you. Why would you want to stay with someone who has so little respect for you and your feelings? There are plenty of other guys out there who will treat you much better. DUMP THE CHUMP. Best of luck to you. |
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sasha
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Why do you want to get over it? Keep you anger and kick him the hell out of your house!!! Then go buy some new duds, get your hair done and start living your life for you , not him. |
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Jane W
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tell him how you feel. be totally honest, it sounds like you don't have much to lose at this point. if he's not willing to make any chages then perhaps yoiu should leave. good luck |
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is420legal
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do the same thing and tell him what you thing of the guy you are eyeing........ |
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