How can I make my wife understand that its my job to mow the lawn & change oil. And hers is to cook & clean?

Poppet

Anyone else think one day this male is going to get a cast iron skillet up side his head?

kokopelli

So then, as I understand it, when you get home from work you run out and mow the grass and change the oil? Or do you flop down on the couch and watch "The Family Guy" and scream for your dinner?

vaiogirl

standing at the cash register is not that simple. i mean, it's not hard, but it's not that simple. you still DO get tired from that. she's STANDING all day & deals with idiots.. you should be more considerate & help her out. if she didn't have work, it would be another story.

marriage doesn't mean you get a wife to do all your house work. marriage is a commitment between two people & both need to work to keep the household up.

Pixie311

i think that is very pig headed of u to think like that. She works as well and then u expect her to come home an d work some more so u can sit on your @*# and watch baseball....when do u think she will get a break...times have changed buddy...it's time to split household chores 50/50.

Lost In a World of Hurt

Wow...see i am strictly against that. a womens place in the world is to be where she wants to be.not in the kitchen. or in the house...iv beaten men in sports and games...rly anything...so a women has every right to do wat u want to do.

Miss Answers 2007

Your both wrong............a marriage is a patnership. Who are you to say your wife's job is less important or stressful as yours.

Maybe you should think about helping her She probably cares for the 2 children throughout the day too. Getting them ready for school, preparing a bath, etc.

Plus, yes.....maybe your wife can make the dinner. But, then you do the dishes. While you do the dishes, she can walk the dog.

That way, things get done faster and everyone does their fair share. You'll have extra time to spend with your kids, together as a family.

It's NOT your wife's job to do everything.

Wake up...an smart, educated and classy kind of guy would help his wife and not demean her.

C22

I imagine you will get plenty of answers to this question. I don't suppose you ever offer to help her with "girl stuff" like wash dishes on the weekends, take kids to the park, cook supper on occasion, do laundry. I could go on, but maybe she is so busy with ever thing else she doesn't have the time to cater to your every need. You need to learn to take care of yourself.

hoppykit

Do you have any idea how standing on your feet in one spot can be killer? Besides mowing and changing oil what else do you do? Do you play with the kids? Do you give them baths? Vacuum, dust, clean windows, take out the trash, laundry, and any of the dozens of things taking care of a house and children entails? If you want her to do the "girl stuff" then why is she out working instead of being at home taking care of the children and the house?

kleo

You can't convince her to do anything. It might help if you valued what she did for work a little more...despite what you think I bet your wife works pretty hard and is tired when she comes home, too. You guys should sit down together and have a discussion about what is important to each of you. Maybe you could trade off on certain chores, maybe you could also offer to help her out around the house a little and encourage her. There is no such thing as men's work and women's work anymore...the times are a changing...it's up to you guys to be adults and determine how to share the burden...having 2 kids has sure got to take its toll...

Jaye

You didn't actually say what your job was. But it is extremely tiring to be on your feet all day working as a cashier. I think that once you both get home you should share the responsibility equally. How often does the grass need to be cut. Or the oil changed? Less frequently than the dishes need to be done, and dinner being made. Tell your wife that you love her and will help her in any way you can. Tomorrow you can start by taking her and the kids out for dinner.

xosimplysundayox

shut up and be happy she is still with you

becauseIsaidso

Are you asking for a war? I don't think you should tell her that ALL she has to do is stand at a cash register all day. I'm sure she works hard then comes home to 2 children and 1 big baby! Anyway on the serious side, compliment her when she does cook, make sure you go out of your way to brag about how hard she work then comes home to cook. And make sure you tell her that she shouldn't cook after a hard day at work.

kitKat

That is so wrong you should feel sorry for your wife and help her.

Jeffsgal

You really wanna know what I think? Your wife has 2jobs, she takes care of the kids and works. And another thing, it's not easy being a cashier, you're on your feet all day, plus having to put up with the public. What would make you think she has it so much easire than you?

lucidwillow

You poor thing you really don't get it. That idea of mens work or womens work went out with the dinosaurs. Your very condescending too with this talk about how all she has to do is stand at a register, I really want to know are you my ex cuz he thought the same way and I feel so sorry for your wife. I send my prayers out to her and you too I hope you get a clue.

NetWoman

It is absolutely unfortunate the way you think. Standing in the cash register all day would hurt her inside out. You should help her in every way possible.

Kim

Welcome to the 21st century with a two income family. You may not believe her job is a lot of work....but don't trivialize her job....it may be harder than you think and just as tiring for her as your job is for you. There are no set rules anymore when it comes to who does what. Come to a happy medium, both of you work hard and I am sure you can find a place where you are both equally responsible, yet not overworked when it comes to household chores.

Granny 1

Let her quit her job, or treat her as your equal. Share everything, she works too so take turns cooking and take turns mowing the lawn.

haunted_13x

wow wow wow dude hold up first things first i know you think that your wifes job is easy but i am a casheir to at wal mart so it is actually kind of hard but just talk to her and share the responsibilities and as for the kids do you deal with the screaming and the coloring on the walls or her, just somethin to think about

SAM

I am glad that i am not married to you!!!!!

Jai

You can never get her to understand something so STUPID LIKE THAT!

Elindriel

Dude, I realize that the work you do is hard, but you have to realize that being a cashier is no picnic either. you have nothing to do but stand there all day with a big smile on your face and being polite and civil and listening to people *****, moan, and groan to you about your work, and anything else they are dealing with in their lives.

And pushing that many grocieries around a day deosn't get any lighter either. She is probably just as tired as you when she gets home. Instead of screaming at her, offer to help her with dinner. She may even appreciate just ordering take out once in a while.

In this day and age, those old fashioned gender roles dont' exsist. women work too, and its hard just standing there for eight or ten hours. Have you ever done it? Don't say its a cake walk until you've felt like your legs turn to jelly and your arms start to burn from the constant repition.

get over yourself, and realize that now that we work and earn part of the money, we expect you to get off your *** and help with part of the housework. You should consider yourself fortunate if all she asks for is help with the dishes and the dog. And your setting a horrible example for those children.

I lost all respect for my father for treating my mother the same way that you treat your wife. Just once, I'd have loved to come home from school, and see him helping or even making dinner and not arguing with my mom about who's turn it was to do the housework.

navywife_2001

I'm a stay-at-home-mom, and I have a business that I run out of my home. We also have children. Your wife works outside of the home 5 days a week and you have 2 kids? IF you have never been a cashier it's tiring work standing there for hours at a time. I was a hairstylist for over 10 years before I started this business, and I worked 10 hours a day 6 days a week (with my children in daycare), and IF you don't think that's NOT back breaking work, THINK again.Your wife should NOT be expected to do everything that you deem as "wifely". My hubby is in the NAVY. He works 12 hours a day (working on aircraft), sometimes for weeks at a time, He helps me with the kids, doing dishes, laundry, and does NOT complain about it, because I work just as hard as he does. I cook, clean, do laundry, run errands, take care of our children, plan menus, and do the grocery shopping ALL BY MYSELf. So IF you want her to do what you deem is "wifely" then don't make her work outside the home. It's that simple.

ben t

Do not call them girl things just ask if she would help you out a little by doing some things around the house.

lil momma

if both of you are working the chores should be shared and alot of women like to mow the lawn like i do and she may not have a hard job but standing on youre feet all day is hard on youre back and legs and feet and im sure you have a hard job but you have to understand how she feels too both of you should share house hold chores

Dfirefox

Reverse job roles for a week and see how it goes..let her mow the lawn ,take the garbage out,get gas and oil for the car and change the oil. That's all you will have to do is throw in a burrito in the microwave for dinner and buy salsa and chips lol.
Be a kitchen b*tch for a week and see how it goes ..good luck :)

i had an EX husband just like you ask him how the divorce is going!

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