How can I reward my wife for putting up with my long hours at work?

tdybear

Put aside some time JUST for her, it dosn't have to cost anything, a walk in the park, a backrub. Some times just a conversation about her day, how she feels, not your job. She knows that your doing this for both of you, she just needs to feel like she is as important at your job is.

Joy

Pick up dinner and candles for the table for the two of you one night and have a romantic evening, and don't forget to tell her how much she means to you and how you appreciate everything she does for you. Then you wash the dishes. That should do it, I know it would work for me!!!!!!

Good luck with what ever you decide to do.

r2d2

forget the flowers....too many occasions for those already! Do these things....go to the store and pick up some grapes, crackers, cheese, maybe some wine, or champagne...don't forget the glasses, and some napkins, take her on a picnic!
Do this also... make a budget with her and put aside money to
vacation...even short ones are great opportunities to take a break from the reality we live in day to day! Another inexpensive way to spend time together is after dinner take a walk...fresh air and exercise will help any relationship!

C K Platypus

Get her a Massage Therapist gift certificate. Usual cost is about $50 for an hour where I am.

purple_roses48

My husband works crazy hard all the time. And once in awhile he'll plan a night without the kids. He'll take me to a movie of my choice and dinner. Or He''l make me dinner and do the dishes. Sometimes all we really need is to know is your mind does think about us. So get her a card that tells her how much you appreciate her, and take her out. But let her choose where. Because believe it or not, the wife needs a break as well. And all we really need is to hear that we're appreciated. Sometimes in all the confusion of our daily lives we start to question if what we do every day really compares to what the men do. I am a stay at home mom and i feel like my job is nothing compared to what my husband does everyday. We appreciate your hard work, and a loving word and recognition can go a long way.

floridaman39us

Take her out to dinner. Spend time with her. Hold her hand. Give her sweet kisses.

Gucci Girl

spend sometime at home

pat z

Write her a love letter. Tell her what you appreciate about her, why she is so special and dear to you, how lucky you are to be with such an understanding, supportive person, and, yes, as crazy busy as you are, you really miss her too.
If you have any time, there are lots of inexpensive things you can do for her: give her a massage; fill the bathroom with candles and draw a warm bubble bath for her; bring her breakfast in bed (on the weekend).
Don't dismiss the "usual flowers". If you get her her favorite blossoms, it shows that you're thinking of her, not just grabbing the first bunch you see to bring home.
And when you get that raise, find a chunk of time to share the wealth: get away for a weekend or go out to a favorite restaurant.
My husband has to travel A LOT for his work. What I appreciate the most is that when he is here, he IS HERE, he's "present" as "they" say in psychobabble. He's attentive, really listens and shares what has been going on for him (and NOT just or all about WORK). In in these situations, it's the QUALITY not the quantity of the time that's important.
Good luck!

rianscoot

show her your love, flowers won't alawys work you gotta get her in the mode, the mode for love.

sureno

Rent a nice motel room, have a nice dinner and just pleasure her by any means possible.

oh. you are a sweet man to be so sensitive. My husband usually get me flowers and once he made reservations for a weekend at the le meridian. That was really nice.

How about stay in the city (downtown) go to the theatre, see a play or a show and then also go out to a really nice restaruant for dinner?

or make her dinner at home, with a romantic setting, watch a romantic movie or something hot...it might turn her on and maybe you'll make passionate love to her?

How about treat her to a manicure and pedicure?

star_gazer

WELL start with a single rose and a love note with a poem you made up. OR you can use mine i just made up.***********************TO THE woman i adore^^^^^^^^^^^^^ I am secretly waiting to give you more^^^^^^^^^^^^Honey your my hearts desire^^^^^^^^^^^^^ BABY thinking of you, sets me on fire******** love XXXX********** followed by a nice romantic dinner out and love making later. best wishes star

my_lil_buttercups

Surprise her by cooking dinner and set the mood with low lighting or candles. Turn the phone off and enjoy a romantic movie together afterward. Maybe you'll earn some brownie points and get "some" later on!! ;o)

That always gets me at least!!

Good Luck

JenaMarie

When you do finally take a whole weekend off spend every second you can with her. Maybe take her away for a romantic weekend or just make a whole weekend of plans to do things she likes to do with you.

Christy W

How about a weekend away somewhere. Or how about a spending a day with her, have her pick out something to do-a show, dinner, brunch, apple picking.

You could also leave little love notes around your house where she can find them. Maybe have little clues for the weekend in the notes.

Cook her dinner, hire a maid to clean the house - when work slows down, plan a weekend away together - camping, hiking, something

Or get her a gift certificate to go to the spa and get a massage or a manicure or something. And tell her that you love her every day.

caddosec1985

Hire a housekeeper to clean the house, get someone to do the ironing, etc.
Then take her to a remantic spot, fine dining, etc. At the end of the evening, tell her how important she is to you; how much you appreciate her, and that you'd marry her again. A woman will work for hours and hours to have her man just say, "Thank you".

lotsalovetanya

Treat her to a dinner you make and a massage you give,or reminisce about your last vacation,and promise to start a new adventure when money and time allow....
You could also rent her favorite movie and get her favorite wine...
Have fun no matter what you decide!

copita

Just come back one day with a note saying "IÂ´m yours for the whole weekend" " And let her decide what to do that weekend, ANYTHING she woul like. And after that give her a candle saying thank you for putting up with my long hours at work.

I'm Gonna Tell You

Men who work long hours perpetually for low pay with little promise usually get cheated on. She's already looking for something better.

I'm sorry this sounds harsh, but you need to reprioritize. A good thing to do for her is cut down your hours and look for a better paying job.

srluv2chat

take her away for the weekend just the to of you somewhere by the sea so you can both relax together.

mwa

If I were her, I'd swoon over something like a gesture.

A package of sented candles and bath stuff with a hand written note that says, enjoy your evening and pamper yourself tonight.

Emerilla

One way would be to award her by giving her an evening off, time permiting. Make dinner for the two of you, clean up the dishes when you're done, and make sure dinner gets put away.

Then/Or, buy some lotion or massage oil and give her a nice back/shoulder/foot/body massage. It's sweet, because it shows that you care for all the work and stress she goes through, plus it's physically rewarding. And, if you end it on a more sensual note, perhaps it will lead to a fun night for the both of you.

Good luck! I hope you get the raise and some more time off with your wife.

Rachel

Simply make time for her. Just be together. Eat dinner, give back rubs - it doesn't have to be much - just TV together. Simple things earn huge rewards - you sound like a very sweet husband!!

Amy M

Cook her a nice dinner then make love to her for hours will mean more then anything you can buy

blazegirl

Take her out and treat her like you were on a date-open doors for her -ask how she has been doing etc-.give her a massage when you get home and let her know how much you have missed her also!!

pandora the cat

SINCE YOU ARE GONE FOR LONG HOURS, SHE HAS TO TAKE CARE OF THE REST OF YOUR COLLECTIVE RESPONSIBILITIES. DECOMPRESS HER DAY AND GIVE HER SOME "TIME OFF". DO SOME CHORES FOR HER. TRUST ME, WOMEN SEE THIS AS ROMANTIC, AND A SHOW IF LOVE. FLOWERS ARE NICE, BUT A RATHER CHEAP WAY TO APOLOGIZE. SHOW SOME EFFORT.
ADDITIONALLY, YOUR TIME IS DEVOTED TO SOMETHING OTHER THAN HER, OR YOUR MARRIAGE. I AM SUR WHATEVER IT IS IS IMPORTANT TO YOU, BUT TO YOU ALONE, AND AT THE EXPENSE OF YOUR MARRIAGE.
STOP BEING SO SELFISH AND MAKE TIME FOR HER. YOUR TIME IS SO VALUABLE.....YOUR TIME PLUS YOUR EFFORT SHOWS YOUR COMMITTMENT TO YOUR MARRIAGE, AND YOUR VALUE FOR YOUR PARTNER.
YOUR BEHAVIOR IS GUIDED BY YOUR FEELINGS. IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT YOU SAY, OR HOW YOU EXPLAIN.RATIONALIZE IT. REMEMBER THAT. BEHAVIOR IS THE BIGGEST "TELL"......

chance_ghost

Sincerely Romance Her!!
Use sweet simple things... Start with a simple card saying how she makes you feel leading to an all night lovemaking session (does wonders!)... soft music, kisses, hugs and just making her feel special and the center of your undivided attention. Be charming. If you have kids include a date invitation in the card to a back rub on your bed at an hour after your children go to sleep. It gives her something to think about while you make dinner with her... have a sense of humor and flirt with her. Remember how you feel when she does things for you... the way she looks at you... the way she touches you and holds onto you one minute longer than you have to give in the morning. If she misses you it's "quality" time she is missing... let her know that you love her and that you understand the sacrifices she's made to let you do your job... but that tonight you want to give something back to her and that you will do whatever it takes to accomplish this...one kiss at a time.

LittleLady

run her a hot bath and rub her feet after you bathe her.

duoak

Try redenvelope.com. They have these gift cards that say "I O U" (I owe you) a dinner, a backrub, etc. You can give these cards to your wife, and you can agree that she can "cash them in" and use them anytime. For example, I O U a backrub, I O U a romantic dinner, I O U a movie night, etc.

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