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Crabboy4
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Don't get him back, get back at him. |
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Mopar Muscle Gal
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he is not worth it
once a cheater.. always a cheater
AND she is Not your best friend.. best friends do not do that to their friends |
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Olivia B
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You want to get revenge on both of them? I have the perfect plan for you. Let them stay with one another without trying to break it up. They're both lousy individuals and they'll cause enough pain for one another without you even having to so much as lift a finger. I'm sorry that you're not over him, but please please please don't go running back to him. I know your heart is telling you different, but you 'know' he is no good. Use will power and just leave him in your past and move on. That's the best thing you can do for you and the best way to get back at him. |
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Shelly
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let him go |
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rayray23_m_es_indy2005
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you don't need it...he cheats on you? wow...what if 1 time he cheats on you w/ a girl w/ aids? 10 minutes of pleasure..lifetime for YOU think |
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aveeybabeey <3
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If he is in an affair then you should get divorced. |
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littleflower_57
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A lot of what you are feeling is grief and pain over a very big betrayal in your life. Do not allow anyone to minimize your feelings. And know that the feelings you are experiencing are very normal. It is easy for people to tell you to lose him...he isn't worth it, and so on. But it is far harder to actually do this. But I do believe that what happens in our lives actually does happen for a reason. You may not realize, or want to see it that way right now, and that is very understandable.
I think the first thing you might want to think about doing is finding a very good therapist or clergy person to help you sort out your feelings about this. Ask your family for their support and their shoulders to cry on....you will need that more than you know.
Finally, cry buckets if you have to. Wail, and scream and feel like absolute do-do for a while. Really wallow in it. But don't wallow for a long time. Pick your self up and move forward, with or without your husband.
I wish you the best, and peace and light. |
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newyorkgal71
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You can't get back someone not interested in being with you. Move on! |
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princess11600
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Whoop her a**, "give him another chance", then go about and do the same to his ***!!!
revenge is sweet :) |
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bicheeeened30
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y would u want him back? He won't change. |
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eternity
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move on
don't seek revenge |
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txcowgirl
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he got over on you ....the one who got away....that sorta thing
you dont want him back. you will just be miserable. you wont be able to trust him. its a huge waste of your time. you deserve better. the best revenge is letting her keep him...trust me! |
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Ontheotherhand
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You aired all your marital complaints to somebody. Did YOU talk to her about breaking up? Or about an affair? Do you want to fix your marriage, or put a stop to him seeing her? You broke up. What he does after that, isn't your business. It doesn't seem like SHE wrecked your marriage, you two seem to have done that all on your own. Why should you "pay them back"? |
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Ron S
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Is this true? If it is you need a to do a couple of things. Firstly pray. Ask God to help you (He will) and then forgive both of these people for the way that have deceived you and betrayed you. Then find a good church where the pastor preaches from the Bible, and attend it regularly.
Having done that tell your husband that you want him back (if you still do) on the condition that he not see this woman (or any other woman) again.
There are worse things than being alone, being constantly betrayed is one of them.
I hope it all sorts out for you... |
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mik055
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you don't want this guy, even if you have kids, dump him and make it a surprise, it will hurt him more. also dump your friend, hall him into court and stick it to him... and i'm sorry no one deserve that, you too good for him and so is your son. |
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Tony
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This situation is sooo messed up....and you can thank your loser husband for that. I really don't think he is worth keeping or even fighting for. Let him go and eventually he'll make your ex best friend unhappy too.
Are you and your ex-g/f competing for him. Is it a contest about who is he gonna be with....cause that's sick and wrong.
Focus on what is important....you and your child. He'll have to pay alimony and child support. Take him for everything. That's why he's being nice to you....he knows you can hurt him for much longer than he can hurt you. You are soooo getting played....then and now!!
Hold your head high, hold the moral high ground and take him for everything....Good luck babe!! |
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Not Me
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You don't want him back,, What you are looking for is the comfort you once felt when you where with him.. Please find that in someone else you will never regret it!!! |
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exel
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I say you lose both of them and find someone new!! |
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.dimkaluv• *
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You should just forget about him! And her! They really are not people you should spend time even thinking about because they have hurt you so badly. Just move on and get on with your life. That's the only thing I can say because it's the only thing that will work. Don't go back to him, don't take him back, and don't let her back into your circle. Just take care of your son because he needs you right now. And don't be surprised if his father doesn't have enough time for him either. Ever watched the movie Hope Floats? It's a very good example of just this type of thing.
Just focus your time on your son right now. I'm sure someone better will come along in time. But do not go back to him. |
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SerenaMXG
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sad |
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Just Me
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Well, if he cheats on you this time, then he will do it if you take him back. It just goes to show that your friend was not that much of a friend if she is sleeping with your husband, and that is why she got close to you, is so that she could find a way to get him. The best way to get them back is for you to file for a divorce, sock him for child support, and move on with your life, and be happy that you are rid of the lying cheating sob. Just be glad that she has him now, and after a while he will dump her, and move on again. The best revenge is to just do nothing, sit back and watch and laugh when his life falls apart in the future because what comes around, goes around and they will both get what is coming to them in the future. Some one that cheats on you, especially with your best friend, is not worth crying over, and there are people out there that will love you, and never hurt you. It will be hard, but you can do it, trust me, I know, I went through it 4 years ago when my husband ran off with my so called best friend, same thing, she would tell him stuff behind my back, and used me to find out stuff about him. You can move on, and you need to for the sake of your child, he deserves to have a better life than to watch his father cheat on his mother and hurt her like that... Be strong for him... dump the loser |
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waymuchmorebetter
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I would let him go, if he cheats on you once, he'll doit again! and I wouldn't be friends with old girl anymore, if she was truely your friend she wouldn't have allowed that to happen! right now, you're in denial, and you need to just let them go and focus on you and your child. He don't need a dad, he needs a mom that'll be there for him at least. you will eventuall find another guy, that will treat you right, and he can be the role model that your son needs....right now he's too young to really care if he has a dad or not. So don't use your son as an excuse to getting back someone that pooped on you becuz you're afraid of being alone and doing the finding another partner process over again. |
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*walkinthelight*
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I would turn to God...go to a marriage councellor or something but don't make any rash descisions...your son is very impressionable right now and what he's seeing his father do and you will shape the man he will be...Think before you act and good luck...i will pray for you!! |
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Kayt
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you'd be crazy to get back with him. Move on. |
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Precious
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Forgive and forget. Totally cliche but really, revenge is not the way. It will only leave you in restless torment and it won't satisfy the hurt that they have caused, even if your revenge is successful. Forgive them both, let them both go...if he wants to be a good father let him, but don't try to get him back. You're worth more than that! |
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JusMe
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first off if he is with YOUR "best friend" 2 things ... 1. he doesnt love you and 2. shes NOT your friend! friends dont sleep with their friends' man thats just wrong on so many levels! I cant even begin to feel what ur son feels or u even but to me i would leave him and move on with my life...if he's cheating now he isnt gunna change no matter what he says..once a cheater always a cheater. u deserve better! and so does ur son! Get a positive role model of a man in his life not a guy who disrespects women! |
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big boy
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hmm is a knife with both sides! you must know him beter than us,follow your heart and you personality for your best future with him or without him.its in your hand nobody can say to you let him or take it him! i think i am very logical in my answer,it depends on you |
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stressedtothemax
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WAKE UP GIRL!!! You need to get out of there and fast!!! You need to get away so you can get your head on straight! Is this what you want your children to learn, that it's alright to cheat on you and treat you bad! Have some respect for yourself and tell your hubby and your EX-friend that they deserve each other and file for DIVORCE! You will be so glad in the end that you did! You can find someone who will give you all the LOVE you deserve and desire! Why waste your time on someone who would treat you like trash!! Don't waste your time trying to get revenge, just make your life better! You have your child/children to worry about now. They don't need to be in an unhappy enviroment like that. If you can't leave for you then leave for them! Best of luck honey, Love Yourself!! |
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ssgtusmc3013
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i wouldnt bother. |
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Plain truth
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Men think with their pants more than their head. The fact is, if you sleep with him about twice a day, or otherwise keep his 'bank account' empty, ALL THE TIME, then he will never cheat. The poster who said 'once a cheater, always a cheater' is dead wrong. Get that gents pants of and he wont be able to think with them. Dont make the mistake of thinking you can let the treatment go even for even a day. |
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