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Sam
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And you want to keep him? He sounds like a lazy bum looking for a Sugar Mama. |
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Roger S
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wow... what an idiot your man is. A woman should not be to support the man. The man should take care of the woman financially. The woman should serve the man and her children. You need to find a better man,. You sound like a good woman. Sorry u picked a loser. |
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Sandeep S
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Marriage counseling...however u should re-evaluate whether u want to be with someone who finds happiness in their partner only when they have money. |
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loligo1
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1. Try to talk it out with him, not his brother.
2. Get some professional help marriage counseling.
3. Find out what he is looking for and what you want out of your relationships together.
4. If his marital expectations have changed and are not reasonable for both to be happy.
Politely show him to the exit door....... |
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Hipira
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The grass is always greener on the other side!
Tough one. I'm sure you hadn't signed up to a relationship, where your partner fancies somebody else. If he only wants to be with her for the finances, he is not what she is looking for. So could it be, that he is just using the money as an excuse? But whatever you do, don't beg him to stay!!! Keep your dignity & in time he might come around - that's if you still want him then... |
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icewitch54
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The ultimate answer is that you can't. You are not responsible for his happiness, only your own. get the feeling he is making excuses for his own inadequacies. was interested to read that "He told his brother that he wants to be with a certain other woman because she can give him the financial stability he needs" So.........is he confusing financial stability with being happy? If he is, I dare say he'll find that the grass is not greener just because there is more cash to go around. I wonder if you and he have had a non-confrontational talk about things? Marriage guidance/councelling might help but rather than worry about his needs maybe you should reassess what you want from your marriage and how to best get it. You may even concluded you are better off out of it, but that is something only you can decided. |
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Just Me baby
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He is a man version of a golddigger! Tell him you can't make up for his lack of income. Tell him to get another job or your leaving! |
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HazelEyes
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Your husband sounds like a lazy @$$! Tonight when he goes to sleep, crazy glue his weenie to his scrotum. Tomorrow let him know it can get better or worse, the choice is his. |
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tearsofthemoon00
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You can not make someone happy.That is up to the individual.I think you both need to go to marriage counseling.If you do not,there is alot of pain in your future with this man. |
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rickrudge
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Hello JUSEve,
I guess that you can keep him happy in the bedroom (more BJs) and in the kitchen (learn to cook his favorites), but it sounds like he should have been better at being a gigolo if he wanted a Sugar Mama.
It sounds like he's an idiot for not appreciating what he has right there. Maybe in time he'll wise up. Best of luck to you both.
--Rick |
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olderbutwiser
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Sounds to me like you're fighting "a losing battle", if he's already made up his mind he wants another woman....for whatever reason, financial, or otherwise. Don't let him destroy your self-confidence. If he wants another woman, tell him to hit the road...just be sure he sends his child support every month!! Good Luck....you're NEVER going to make him happy....he's not a happy person! |
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CreoleGirl
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he sounds cruel. try counselling. if that doesn't work, DUMP HIM. |
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blazegirl
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Drop him because he is not worth having. |
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superman in disguise
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You can't. Cut your losses, no matter how much heartache and grief it causes in the short term.
In all probablility it is not the money, anyhow - he is using that as an excuse.
There must be something else wrong in there somewhere? |
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zifi1957
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This isn't about you - it's about her bank balance - if you had her bank balance you would be better than the best thing since sliced bread .... until all you had left were the crusts .... then he'd go looking for a new loaf of bread ..... just like he's doing now ..... don't shed another tear or waste another angst moment or anything else over him - find your own version of superglue and stick your heart back together .... there are many out there that would love to have you on their arm - get shot of him and go and find one ..... pronto! |
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Christine A
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Instead of wondering how you can make him happy, you should be thinking about how he can every make you happy. Believe me he won't and the longer you stay with him the more insecure you'll feel. Find someone who can love you, and let him TRY and find someone who can make him happy (I don't think he will) |
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Sexy-n-Hot
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He is a loser get rid of him. Move on and be happy. |
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kellie c
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get out and get help, he's going to leave you eventually and leave u empty and upset..... you deserve better and theirs millions of other men who will treat you like you should be treated!!!! |
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big T
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kick him in to touch honey! you are so better off without him! he sounds like a rat out to line his pockets! get out now before it gets worse! why hurt yourself by staying in this relationship! im sure you are much better then a door mat yes!! so dont let him treat you like one! |
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radion
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divorce him |
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easinclair
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First your husbands happiness is not your responsibility. WE are responsible for our own happiness and when we enter into a marriage we bring that happy productive person into the relationship.
Sounds like your husband is a spoiled child looking for someone to take care of him.
I'm sorry to say "your husband does not love you. He is looking for a sugar mama" People who are in love make it through thick and thin. They cling to each other and find ways to make their dreams come true.
I hope you can find happiness and peace |
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Lottie
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I feel dreadful that your husband says this. Does he mean he is looking for a woman who could bring him wealth? This is no basis for a loving, lasting marriage. Talk to him and ask him to clarify. If he's after money, tell him you have none and you're more than happy to let him find someone who gives him the money he so desperately wants. Something just sounds so wrong in your relationship. Have you been open with him about what he thinks? Have you been squandering his money? |
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kmcglidden
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dont bother trying, he aleady made up his mind!! find a better amn that will love you no matter what, |
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none
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He sounds like a looser. Make him happy, give him a divorce. You will save yourself years of suffering. There are plenty of fish in the sea. |
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Justme
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we can't make other people happy. they choose it or don't choose it based on what they are going through. he is blaming you but what has he brought to the relationship or left out of it? sounds like his eye is already wandering. so he has not lived up to your expectations either. you deserve better. |
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Bob D
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he sounds like a loser |
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lovemeister
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My wife and i have had our share of arguments but ive never thrown that at her.
Im the bread winner, but i never have to worry about having nothing clean to wear or come home to a dirty house.
I also cook and do some housework when she's busy seeing to the kids.
Tell your husband to go to this woman, but dont come crawling back if he has to cook and clean for them both,and then you'll find a real man who appreciates you for what you contribute to a relationship not what he can get!!
If he goes he's not worth it anyway and i am sure it will end in tears.
Dont let him make you feel inadequate ,your priceless, and a real man wouldn't complain!
Hes acting like a spoilt child!! |
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jasonheavilin
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Financial stability can be defined in other ways than what people are interpreting here. By financial stability, do you mean that you are spending a lot of money and he is not happy because you do not know how to save? Or does he mean that he expects you to support him?
If you are spending too much, then you need to change your behavior so he can be happy. If he expects you to support him, then I am sorry to say that it appears that he is not the traditional man in the money side of the house. If you are a traditional woman, then you do not match. If you want to save your marriage you will have to go to a professional, because this is a very difficult contrast. The bad news is that one WILL have to change. This is not something that can be lived with for ever. If you or him are not willing to change, then you will end up in divorce, affairs, etc. |
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Looneygirl
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You cant , hes a man, there never happy , face it your fighting a losing battle!!! lol |
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dalylorraine
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tell him to grow up your his wife not his mother he married you because he loves you so it should be 50/50 in everything including financally. |
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