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How cruel is this????

I've just asked my Mum why didn't have a dad like the rest of friends? She said basically it was all my fault! I asked what it was ,that so bad that my dad would leave and never come back? She said to me " You do know that you are half black don't you?" I said "yes of course I do". She then said "well you weren't supposed to be".


    




star69
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hilarious! LMAO

you werent serious, were you?!


Blazen Elite
If I'm reading correctly, your "father" was your mom's husband... and your real father was black.

If so, I can only assume your mom cheated... which makes it her fault. Don't listen to a woman who blames her child for her faults.


shy_n_secertive
that wasn't cool of your mom


mark
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Sounds like her fault to me....


acmeraven
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Hells bells and little fishhooks, we are all half something or other. Don't let it bother you.


Tren Lau
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That's her problem, not yours. She made you!


Some dude
Not gonna say it's really your fault, but one things for sure, you can't blame your (non-biological) old man.


Putting on the Foil
You've just been had buddy!

Haha, great Tuesday joke!


Just passing the time!
you be proud of what you are hun!.....this is not your fault.....it was your mothers! shame on her for even saying such words!


Zaferus
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Tell her you're sorry she thinks it's your fault that she was a cheating wh*re.


J F
So, maybe the "dad" wasn't the real dad???

They say you can't choose your family...well, this may be true, but you can choose to walk away from them. In your case, it may be a good idea.


stefstudy
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THAT'S PRETTY MESSED UP OF HER 2 SAY. WHAT A WITCH


missclare69
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find ur real dad.... good luck!


plan8earth
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I'm so sorry, sounds like you need a hug.

Your Mum is obviously very bitter about it but that doesn't mean she should take it out on you. Try not to take it to heart (difficult I know), you can move on from this.


char
that is a wicked thing to say and why would your mum say such a wicked thing


Dolly
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Yea pretty cruel chicks! x x x


Missy
Sound to me that it is your mothers fault not yours!! Ignore her and try to forget about it. Besides that would you really want a dad in your life that would judge you on the color of your skin and not who you really are!! Sounds to me like you are far better off without him!!


Nicole C
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Sounds like your mom was sleeping around and was scheduled to be on the next eposide of Maury and your dad didn't quite like that.


Holly
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very cruel this would be all moms fault you didn't make her sleep with anyone black or therwise. you didnt even ask to be born. I hope you have other family and friends in your life that treat you better than your ??? mother>>> person who gave birth to you.. she doesnt sound like much of a mother to me


kadnil
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I am sorry to hear that...your mom need help...she shouldn't blame you for it...she is still angry at your father and she blames you for it...It is not your fault...you are a product of what they did...she should respect you...your father should respect you...

I am assuming here that you are child of two white parents...and some where years ago there was a white family member that had a child with a black person and that is how you happen to have both colours to your skin tone....there is nothing wrong with that. If your father could not handle that then he is the one that has the problem not you. Your mother has no right to blame you. I am sorry you had to go through that.


♥Courtney♥
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that was so not cool for your mother to say


emma m
well.. i don't think it is meant to be cruel.. it is hard to make out exactly what you are trying to say with your question, however there are a number of reasons your mum may say this ...
1/ if your natural father has white skin, as has your mother then it is entirely possible that at a point in your family;s there is a black desendant - this skin colour gene has lain dormant and sprung out in you - and your father may not realise this and thinks your mum played away -
2/ or she did!

i really would not put too much into this - you are who you are.. for your own sake and neither your mothers nor your fathers. its your life.. make of it what you will :-)

good luck
xx


booger0819
I feel bad for you......make a good life for yourself, be proud of yourself


nickie_kiis
sod her and go out there and find your real dad


chlango1
OOOOHHHGG, That was cruel, you need to tell her the in fact was her fault for been a ho and the you have nothing to do with that


miraclehand2020
Ah I got a jolt through my body.All I can tell you is that sometimes the child has to become the parent.Hope you have forgiven your mom.She has no more growing up to do,but you,the world is at your feet.Let comments like this roll off your back like water on a ducks back.Always remember that in spite of her inadequacies she loves you.That is all that matters.At least,she stayed


sexigrape1020
That was wrong of ur mother to say but it's her fault not urs. She slept around not u. his loss if he doesn't want to be apart of ur life. Don't let it bring u down. Let it make u stronger and when u become a dad help make u a better dad.


Brooke M
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I'd say she is one cruel fu*ked up bit*h!!!


misisgah_babygirl
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what's cruel is a mom who lacks the ability to be accountable for her actions, and take what started off to be probably one of the biggest mistakes of her adult life and turn it into what would have been one of the BEST gifts she could have ever given her son... A new level of self-worth, and a new found respect for his mother. Maybe a respect now forever lost.





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