How do I deal with an abusive boyfriend who I love?

Anne Jovie

Wait for him to take a long, hot bath, toss the hair dryer into the tub with him. After the body stops twitching, call 911 and cry convincingly.

Lookin-2-Talk

If you continue to stay with him you have no right to complain.....leave him or get use to it. If I was you, I personally would have been gone the second it first started.....right after I kicked his a ss.

Mommymonster

Get away honey. It will only escalate with time.

BabeHeart

That's not love sweetie, it's an unhealthy type of dependence. Get out and move on to something both physically and emotionally healthy for you. Someone who would abuse you, doesn't love you.

Rechelvis

Get out now. It won't get any better. Seriously.

Abigail

You should leave him! He will not change for you or anyone else.

proof1958

if it is physical or mental abuse is abuse, dump him. Your self esteem is what is in question, and he can't possibly love you.

kitkat

He doesn't love you and it well be very hard for you to love him from the grave he may put you in.........LEAVE NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

â™« Sweet Honesty â™«

There is no "dealing" if he is abusive. Also, there is no "love," only attachment to an unhealthy situation. Get out, honey, and never look back.

kitttkat2001

love dont hurt so if hes hurting u its not love get out

your_dear_old_mother

Seek counseling. You need to gain the strength to leave him.

Victoria J

so why do you love him. if he's not treating you right then what is there to love? i'm sure that whatever qualities you would say to answer that question you could also find in a person who wont abuse you. so to answer your question. you don't DEAL with it. you leave. however you need to because he will kill you one day and THAT"S NOT LOVE!!!

mlr

Leave him.
I know i will be hard to leave him,
but in time you'll someone better,
someone that doesnt abuse you.

hot *********

u need to leave him ok it will only get worst i been there before

Gun Dream

Love yourself. Stop being an emotionally lazy person, and take the responsibility of loving yourself. If you loved yourself, you would not allow this sort of behaviour, and you would understand he does not love you. Go to therapy, get that self esteem up and high, and love yourself, this is YOUR responsibility.

Kel

He is not going to change..get rid of him. There is no way you are going to change him. Get out before it gets worse. You may love him, but is it really worth the price? Especially when there's someone out there who would treat you nicely.

antoinette m

you DON'T... in a situation like this, love don't mean a thing... if he loved you he would NEVER put his hands on you or belittle you or make you feel bad... a 'deal-breaker' for me in ANY relationship, marriage or not, is whether he puts his hands on me.... NOT ACCEPTABLE... don't teach him that you are worth nothing and this crap... it might hurt now mentally to leave him but you have to unless he gets help... no help? no love... you don't hurt those you love... LOVE YOURSELF ENOUGH TO LET HIM GO... you DESERVE a whole lot more

Miss Understood

it is sad that you still love him, and i'm sure it might be hard, but dump him. you will be much happier without him!!

shhweet candy

aw. honey.
if you are being brutally hurt, i say you should probably leave him and call the cops or somthing. I understand that you love him but you also should be aware of you own health. If its only a boyfriend, imagine what he could possibly do to you when you are married. Please do it for the best and call authority because this is very dangerous.

Good Luck and I'm Sorry : )

Shelley

You need to respect yourself and not allow no one to treat you that way. You need to get out. Never settle for anything less. You need to see yourself as valuable and there are men out there who would treat you that way. This guy obviously really does not care about you or else he would not be abusive to you. Help yourself, by just moving on and drop that punk!! Good luck!!

cartoonfreak25

love him. but break up with him. don't allow your rights to be trampled.

otilvia a

you need to leave him he aint worth it.He aint no real man if hittting on a female.

Emmarrr :]

GET OUT! NOW!

you may love him but you cant stay like this. boyfriends are supposed to be their for you and caring not make you miserable and chances are it will only get worse.im sure you can do much better.

if your worried about how to leave him id ring a helpline.

dinosaurmama

Here are some names to chew on---Nicole Brown Simpson...Lacey Peterson...there are 143 women who are killed by their domestic partners each year.........I think he has you convinced your the piece of sh** he thinks UR.........Get the hell out

â™¥Snowieâ™¥

THIS PISSES ME OFF. Stop looking for attention, this is what you are doing. IF HES HURTING YOU THEN F***ING LEAVE HIM!!!
what good is he doing for you? geez... this just makes me so mad. Pathetic.

LordVader

Rebel you lack confidence to let others abuse you. Go & be done with

catsaver001

R U SERIOUS??? You turn around, you run, and you never look back. You will be miserable forever if you do not. He will hurt you mentally, physically, financially. The list goes on and on. Get a self help book like Co-dependant no more or something and read it. Highlight the things that sound like your situation and read it over and over. If all else fails, find another guy to get you through it, but get the hell away from the abuser before he ruins you forever.

~NIKKI~

LEAVE HIM

TCH

let that man go . you can do better!

gypsy g

You don't deal. It isn't love, and until you realize that you'll forever be abused.
People who love you, I mean truly love you, don't want to see you hurt, EVER!

Suthern R

Get him real good and drunk, until he passes out. Then tie him real good to the bed posts and leave him there until he wakes up. When he wakes up and starts yelling, rip his left nipple off with a pair of pliers. If he does not shut up, tear the other one off! Then, take a switch and whip the hell out of him with it, I mean tear his butt up. Then you can just ask him how he likes it right before you pour a bottle of rubbing alcohol on all his open wounds. He will scream and cry like a little girl, then go get a baseball bat or hammer and bust his knees so he can not get up in your face again for a long, long time. Then call his mother to come get the sorry piece of trash she raised because he needed some place else to live. Then leave him.

I hate cruel guys that hurt women, don't know if you can tell.

MALA

if only some of you wud live the life this person live then you wud be a little more kind with your answer. its not a joke thing. i was their , it hard but sweety you can leave him. get yourself a work if there is no work and leave. listen i know you stay because you think you love him, and he tell you he loves you and he is sorry. i know you stay cause of financial support, or so other reason. it not worth it. PUT IT THIS WAY, if you love this person, leave let him be happy, he cannot be happy with you and verbally and phsically abusing you all the time. love him enoughto let him go. you derserve the best p.s LOVE YOU. TAKE NO MORE..... PLZ I BEG YOU

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