How do I deal with violent ex-husband?

yes, i'm THAT girl

oh wow.. that's pathetic.. i give you props for getting out.... and i'm sorry this has happened to you.. first things first.. make sure your boyfriend is okay and that he knows youre there for him and you're sorry and what not....
THEN get the heck away from this psycho you need to tell the police everything.. honestly how do you feel comfortable with your daughter around him?! wow... he needs serious help!

Tenaj

i think it's your fault. you know how your x is and you still took your new man? STUPID!

redhead27

don't know what to do???

Call the f'ing police and file a restraining order!

First off... your 2 year old is probably scared as heck because of the violence, second of all he just put someone in the hospital.

this man is dangerous to society... make sure you take all the precautions to get him out of your life.

Aharon B

I second that!

zetal808

Have him arrested for assault

happywjc

Taking the boy friend wasn't a good move at all!
restraining order & move on!

pearl_hoff

put your ex in jail press charges now

angelbaby

Try calling the cops on him and having him arrested.Guys with short tempers like that snap eventually and the last thing you need is him trying to kill you then himself in some crazy rage.He seriously needs anger management and the only way he would get it is to be forced. There is no excuse for his actions and it will only get worse.

Genius

file assault charges. that was uncalled for....

Jordan M

Restraining order

christy

restraining order!!

cookie2701

you need to file charges against him because he is a grown man and cant go around beating people up.do it for your daughter she doesnt deserve to see stuff like that.if he is still that obsessed with you then you need to be careful. put a retaining order against him wher he cant come 100 ft near you. you need to do something for you,your daughter and your new man if you want to keep him around.if you dont youll find yourself not being able to ever settle again due to this ex childish ways. good luck to you

susie12345

Well bringing the boyfriend was a mistake. Like putting a red flag in front of a bull. Will charges be filed? See what you can do about custody and visitation now that it is evident your ex has anger issues.

Maybe you can get a restraining order. I wouldn't worry too much - it's not like he chased the two of you down. But you can't provoke this guy.

Got to think of the little one. You don't want her going through that again. She is 2 and likely will forget. But it will have major impact if it happens repeatedly as she gets older.

MTC_005

Have him put in jail for assault and battery for beating up your boyfriend. That would be your first step.

Patrick

tell the cops.:)

fiery redhead 67

go to the police asap and make a report,then get a restraining order. he needs anger management classes and i would consult an attorney to make him take some classes before he has visitation rights to your daughter. it is terrible that she saw this and now she must be so terrified of her dad,which is so sad. he could explode one day and really hurt your daughter or kill someone else. you need to protect yourself and your daughter and he needs help badly.
i would go to the police and file that order asap,and i will pray for you and your daughter.

KRIS

wow, and you try to act all innocent....

you should not have brought him and you knew that...

call the police, toss the x in jail and the next time either go alone or have some third party go with you or they (parent, brother, etc) can take the child to your house!!!

you should have known better!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...

Lulu

oh my god. tell the police you are worried.
please

sheloves_dablues

File a restraining order against your ex.

Dump your b/f. What kind of loser antagonizes his girl friends ex husband at his home? He disrespected you and your daughter by making a stupid comment.

Nathan B

how does restraining oder sound

chdsgrl

Seriously?

Well, first of all, it's an aggravated assault, and probably a felony. You need to call the police, file a police report, and he will be arrested. Secondly, they should issue a TRO (temporary restraining order), which will be made permanent (for a specific amount of time) when you go to court. Actually, it will probably be your boyfriend who has to file the report, but still.

You can't fool around with this. Your daughter doesn't deserve this, and he sounds like he has a very short fuse. email me if you like and we can talk privately.

jazzyj

You need to bounce to a new town and take the kids with you. If he tries to follow you then you enforce a restraining order, but you may want to inform the local authorities of this problem you are having when you have relocated!! I would be putting as much distance as possible between the two of you, and as soon as possible!! And the next time you get a boyfriend make sure he can stand his own ground or at least knows when to keep his mouth shut!! And good luck!! And may God bless you!!

creepycookie

Your new man needs to have him charged for assault, you should both get an AVO and apply for sole custody of your child, as it is not safe for her to be a witness to that kind of behaviour.

thatartistwin

Well first of all a restraing order is necessary as well as visitation regulations that require drop off and pick up that is supervised. Then, I would suggest you use better judgement than to pick up your daughter with your new boyfriend. I can't even imagine why you would do that unless you were trying to throw something in his face or create a drama situation. Last but not least, I suggest you use better judgement in picking boyfriends than to bring one along who first of all finds that good judgement enough to do so, and second, decides to mouth off and get involved in what will surely be a dispute at the very least. You were ALL in the wrong and the only person to suffer for life will be the child.

Psycho Therapist

why would you take your new boyfriend into this kind of trouble. It's safe to say, he probably doesn't want to see you anymore.

irishpr

Girl I'm surprised you still let your daughter go over there to visit him without supervision. You don't have to put up with that ****! He's not going to accept any guy you hook up with....Especially if you were the one who decided to leave. Be very careful, the wrong person can call family services on you. You're crazy for taking your boyfriend over there knowing his temper. You will never be able to have a boyfriend if you don't put your foot down. He will ruin every relationship you'll have. I would call him up and let him know how you feel in a calm and collective way. Tell him not to make you take him to court, maybe that will knock some sense into his fat head! If steroids are involved you might have to put a restraining order on his ***.

molly 3/17/09

welcome to the club-did you know that there is arsenic in apple seeds?

got pepper grinder?

just kidding, but isn't it fun to fantasize?

Carl

get a restraining order..and get a clear,court order dictating the terms under when and where he can(or you can) drop off your daughter for child visitation..just because your ex has anger management issues, he shouldn't be deprived of seeing his child.

**** I AM IN THE PLAYPEN WITH SWEET MILDRED***

Pyar

Your boyfriend should press charges and you should get a restraining order ... Didn't you warn your boyfriend about the ultimate fighting? Bet he learned a valuable lesson about messing with strangers .

raspberryph

"Tenaj" who answered above is SO right, sorry but your behavior was uncalled for in taking him there. Secondly Why would you allow something to go on like this period, let alone in front of your daughter and not have called the police or done something immediately, you could have asked the police this question. You sound like a loose cannon yourself if you put an innocent person in danger (new bf) when you knew darn well that this freak ex of yours was dangerous. You probably did it to try and make your ex jealous. It really is angering to a lot of people.

You need to file a PFA (Protection from Abuse) for yourself, and get your daughter the HECK away from this freak! He is a danger to her if he would ever injure another person this bad and in front of his daughter, you need to file this TOMORROW. I would fight him tooth and nail to keep him away from myself and my child. You need to also be more responsible and considerate of other people involved. You probably just lost yourself your new relationship!!! I would be surprised if this man stayed with you and your psycho ex.

PS Angelbaby is right, psychotic people like this are the ones that turn and kill their ex's out of a rage. You need to keep the heck away from him and LEAVE HIM alone! Stay away from him and out of his life, have someone ELSE drop off and pick up your child, although I dont think he should be unsupervised with her!!

I work with people like this.... they are dangerous and often have a tendency to abuse kids and possibly (not always but commonly) have substance abuse... he is a real danger... you could be the next one in the hospital.

Sue C

Your "ex" should NOT be allowed to get away from what he did, NO WAY!!! I WOULD certainly press chges. & sue him IF it was up to me. I DO NOT care what was said,he had NO rite to do this physical injustice against him physically!He physically attacked him & what ashame he showed himself to totally traumatize her as he did. And, YES, I would do whatever he needs to do to sue him for his misbehavior. You can easily get a restraining order out against him so you would know you & your boyfriend are safe in the future. The one problems w/this being of course he would NOT be allowed near your home, but you also are not suppose to be in touch by speaking to him either. OF you di, it would go against the order of strict no contact whatsoever, & IF YOU broke it, them you would be breaking the breach of the order too. Talk it over w/your boyfriend about it :& see what HE wants to do..To me, what he did was a total disgrace towards his daughter to begin with. I'd just do whatever needs to be done regarding this whole thing...Best to you...:)

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