How do I deal with what my wife has told me?

This is a follow up to my earlier question. My wife is a great woman and I love being married to her. She is in her early thirties and we have been together since college. My problem is that she sometimes tells me things that seem like something she should not do, or at least keep to herself. For example she tells me when a bartender flirts with her, when she dances with a coworker or when a man on the street looks at her. She let me know that her boss wanted to remove parts of her costume at a Halloween party last year (her work friend said this is true because I thought maybe she made it up to get me upset). Do I need to worry about what she has told me or as others have said is it just to make me jealous? Do I need to worry especially about this supervisor?

Marie

Tell her you love her and trust her implicitly, and that it is not helpful for her to share meaningless details, unless she is concerned about someone coming on to her, or she is trying to tell you she wants to date others, that you do not want to know about these things. Advise her you already do the same for her because you would never want to needlessly make her worry or think there is a problem where there is not one. Hopefully she will understand and stop. There is the possibility that she just needs more attention that a normal relationship provides and this is one way to get it.

Spanner

My guess is she's telling you to get a reaction. Pay her a bit more attention and she might quit it.

stella c

I agree with Spanner.
This sounds to me is a crying for attention from you. Give her compliments and attention, make her feel special, so she will not need it from someone else. "A happy woman will not betray, a woman who betrays is not happy." I think this is a very well-said sentence.

Wisen Smart

Your wife sounds like a frustrated women hungry for passion and attention. I used to do the same thing with my ex. He never complimented me nor was ever romantically passionate. I felt unattended and that was my way of getting attention. He ended up being my ex for a reason.

Smarten up, attend to her needs and you will see those comments will stop.

Bobby Big Bone

u sound like a flake

Mo321

You need to be more manly and more dominating in your relationship. WOmen love a man that is self confident, and self assured. A man that she can lean on emotionally even spiritually. Google love systems, ross jefferies, and Gary Brodsky to learn how to dominate and control your wife, not in a negative abusive way but in a strong masculine way that she will love and adore you for. At present you sound a little insecure to me

Jessica

I don't see a problem...maybe a problem would be more like if she hide these things from you!?

Amanda

She either feels neglected and wants more of your attention or maybe she thinks that she should be brutally honest with you. Some people are just like. Better safe than sorry I guess.

Arlene

Some woman do that to get a mans attention or to see their reaction specially if the man doesnt show affection in public

LAgirl

When was the last time you flirted with her, dance with her, look at her with desire, or tell her you want to rip her clothes off? I'm guessing not since college? Take the hint. She needs you.

And be grateful she's open and honest and not at all interested in other man's advances.

Sherri Nurse

She is feeling you dont give her enough attention so she is trying to show you other guys like her.

Greg Andi

First of all, there is nothing sacred between a married couple. This whole idea of "keep it to yourself" makes no sense what so ever. Maybe she's telling you this because it excites her and she wants you to do it to bring some of that excitement in the bedroom.

If not, then at lease talk about it with her, instead of some 3rd party.

And people wonder why their spouses cheat. Jeez.

..::taken::..

She only telling you this because she would think you would care about it. She tells you everything and its nice for her to that. She just letting you know that theres is nothing to worry about, that she wouldnt cheat on you. And i dont think she has if she tells you this.

Phil

Leave her. She is probably also cheating on you, and just doesn't want to dump you.

L T

This woman has no boundaries. Telling you is either easing her guilt or trying to provoke a reaction out of you (maybe making you take the first step to leave making you the bad guy)? Either way, it's bad news. Get out asap.

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