How do I get my hubby interested in me? Instead of his friends?

bcptm

~Try getting interested in his friends yourself. Maybe he'll share. Depending on what his habits are, he may not be physically capable. But do keep the kids out of his stash.

lil curt

what you have to do is spend more time with him show him that you love him, it also won't hurt to tell him that you ''love'' him. If u can you can make a few surprises for him just for having him as a husband.

Mindee

If you have kids together, first discuss his relationship and quality time with the kids. Is he spending enough time with them? Then, mention some things you would like to do with him. For example, go on a dinner date with your husband.

Reconnect with your friends and family; you should always continue to do things that interest you. Although your husband is married, he is maintaining healthy friendships; you should do the same thing. Your husband will find you fascinating and interesting once he sees your independence and love of life, especially your ability to go out and have a good time without him.

Your happiness in life depends on you.

Good luck.

winona e

How did you manage to get married??? Have you tried talking to him???

s_ransom_2006

Well, when you figure this out, let me know. I am a married housewife and mother of 4 kids ages 12 and under. Exactly this type of situation led to me cheating and us separatig for over a year. Take my advice and do NOT try it my way. You do NOT want that kind of attention. the best advice I can give is two fold. First, be open to getting involved and showing interest in the things he likes to do. Second, take an active role in planning things to do. Come up with your own. Say something like..."Ok, we can go fishing today but I would like to go see this new movie tomorrow". Maybe not exactly that but you get the idea. Provide alternative activities that you enjoy while at the very least participating in his interests even if you do not enjoy doign what he does. he probably won't like doign "your" things either but I bet he will be more willing to do it if you are doing his things. Interestingly enough, My hubby and I JUST had this arguement LAST NIGHT!!!! Go figure!

Jaymz

Go to movies together, Try Going out to dinner, Talk to him while your in bed before going to sleep!! Just start talking to him.

ms floyd

the very first thing you do is to talk to him and tell him what you feel. when that has no effect, then find your own interest and and do things that you have always enjoyed and even find new and different interest. once he sees that your intrest are elsewhere, then maybe it will draw attention to his lack of attention to you, besides, you need to be able to entertain yourself, especiallly during times such as this. never make yourself so accessible to anyone. after you are unavailable enough times, then he will appreciate you more and the time that you two spend together. (other interest do NOT include having an affair)

Meleah J

Good luck. I think almost every marriage has that problem at some point. Get a babysitter and go out with your friends. Or better yet have HIM keep the kids.

What are "his habits". That sounds like another problem.

kkrohn993

Ask him to spend more time with you. Or go on a 2nd honeymoon. Go on a date. Or do something only you and him can do. Give him hints and maybe he will come to you. Go on a trip and leave the kids with a ababysitter or someone you trust a whole lot.

Netty

Make sure that he is comfortable with you and you dont nag him for anything.

wise_one

He has not grown up. Until he does you may have to deal with it.

PHP

Cultivate some friends. Do some things for yourself. Don't make him your life. We share a life. We can't be someone else's life. If your interested in other things, you'll have something to share with him.

Chantele M

be ur self. u shouldn't try to impress him. if he loved u, he would have paid more attention to u. just play fire with fire. pay more attention to ur friends more than him, then maybe he'll realize what he did to u

Samba Queen

Get rid of this bum! Throw his sh!t out of the house and let him go and live with his friends. You need a real man and your kids need a real father and he's just not cuttin' the mustard.

CoolUserName7

Show interest in one of his friends. That will get his attention.

angie n

I sure wish I knew the answer. That would be one of the reason why I left my hubby a week ago. That and we were living with his parents for 5 years. I also have kids,3.

admun21

Try and talk to him...My wife does not communicate with me and I ABSOLUTELY HATE IT. It has led to me losing interest in her and what she is about. That is my bet!

jodi M

Try to plan together time with him. Don't expect him to sever contact with friends. If you can set up time with the two of you, you will re-connect and he will want to spend more time with you. When you are together don't make it all about chores or complaints. Thirdly, when he goes out with his friends, you do something. The worst thing a wife can do is sit home waiting for her man to return. You resent him for being gone and trust me no matter how hard you try to hide it the anger is there for him to see when he returns which is another way to push him away. Talk to him, say I am lonely, I don't want to infringe on your activities since they make you happy but can we plan a day or a few hours a week for just us. Then be sure if the plans fall through once in awhile don't get mad, try to reschedule. If you try all the above and it doesn't work consider that he isn't doing his job. A marriage takes two and you are ultimately responsible for each others happiness, if he is not trying to make you happy and satisfied in your life he is not doing his job. A marriage is about both of you, not just him. Hopefully he loves you and is smart enough to realize how important you are before its too late. Good luck!

Swapan, The Dream

He loves his frirnds.
You love him.
So you love his friends.
Show him that you also love his friends.
Ask him how he expects you to behave with his friends.
Listen to his heart.
You will win him.

lulu

maybe you should try to stop focusing on him and getting him away from his friends. focus on YOU. do new things, get new hobbies or return to the ones you used to enjoy so much, go out with your friends/family and have fun, he'll probably start wondering about YOUR whereabouts faster than you can imagine, and when he sees you are having such a great time (WITHOUT HIM!!!), expanding your horizons, he'll want to come back and be a part of that with you, which is exactly what you want! hehhee...

ps i don't mean for you to play games with him, by playing hard to get, i mean just really try to enjoy yourself for a change and give yourslef a break and enjoy your life! you were not created to be lonely and unhappy!

Ruchjat K

I think you are better to talk to him from heart to heart what do you want to be treated by him.Tell him that that you want be cared and ask him to reduce his habit activities or try you involve wit his habit or hobby.You must try to attract his attention and ask him to take a walk with you and your kid to be relax in leisure time.If you effort failed you must talk to him harder.

curiousme

u definitely need to try and talk to him, but when ur talkin to him and he rolls his eyes and says whatever and then leaves to play with his friends, pack up ur stuff and leave. u'll be much happier elsewhere and waste all ur time worryin bout the bum who doesnt want to s[end time with u anymore. theres plenty og guys out there that know how to treat a girl right and plenty willin to give u the time of day- so moral of the story: talk it out, if he doesnt change, GO FISH !!!! LOL Good luck

Johanna B

plan a romantic weekend/evening! do something really spontaneous, or take a 2nd honeymoon or something. just spend time getting back to doing the things you used to do when you were so into each other 24/7. his friends might be a stress relief from the kids, I dunno, but take him aside and spend special time with him. buy some new lingerie!! ;) he'll love it! do something that totally puts you out of your comfort zone, but it will surprise and delight him. (strip to music, etc, that is if that's out of your comfort zone) good luck!

**B**

you go out with your friends also and let him to stay alone and ask what he thinks. leave and go have fun with your friends for a whole week (off curse with your kids) and if he did change, good to change and if he won't, you still had fun and will have fun with your friends too

wildspirit1313

have you sat him down and expressed ur feelings to him? if that doesnt work have u tried taking a interest in his interest with his friends.. become one of the guys.. dont lead seperate lives...share each others. and let him know also you want him to share in ur interests and things with the children they need both of you togather

circe8

i think he's having an affair. do something that you really think would make him realize that you're more interesting than any other person on earth. try to remember how you 2 got together in the first place. he thought you were interesting enough when he proposed. why not try it again

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