How do I get my husband to notice me?

Di M

Wow I was in the EXACT same situation! I made the mistake and thought the grass was greener on the other side. BIG MISTAKE!! We are now going through a divorce. At first he realized and wanted me back, but I would have anything to do with him. Now I wish I never went after the attention somewhere else. When I sat him down to express my feeling he responded with I was so selfish and he was so tired. Support what he does and try to have him see it through your eyes. A women needs her man.

bad guppy

tell him exactly what you just said here. good luck.

lilastevenson42

had the same problem. It's pretty easy really.At first i thought it wouldn't work, but for me it did,but for you im not sure,but you never know...what I did was treat him as he does you,with in reason of course.leave your home before he gets home,dont leave a note ,then come go home late,even on his day off do the same .if he wants to know where you were......just say out,,,then say im tired im going to bed...and so and so on.do it just for a few day's. he will start missing you. hope this works for you good luck. your friend Lila

LIZARD

i dont think it should last in you case! i eserve better!

freaky_kinky_baby_girl25

most men don`t think about what we want or do they really care. next time he has off let him go out with his friends and when he gets home have yourself dressed up in some kinky clothes and take it from there and tell him that he could have more of that with a little more attention but treat him first and show him what he`s missing out on

Day

show him what he gets for not being with u

Cindi R

This is a tough one!!! I kinda no how you feel. My boyfriend just started a new job and he works an hour away, so he feels like if they ask him to work over, it's no big deal because he has an hour drive anyway!!! Kinda bugs me. I guess you should talk to your husband and tell him how you feel. If your relationship is important to him then he will make an effort to spend time with you. Good Luck!!!

dv8racer81

i know its cruel but if he notices that you start going out w/ friends and not attentive to him, he will eventually be craving for your attention.

aka DarthDad

He is taking you for granted and is probably having an affair.

Look into the possibility.

Cassie

get a hobby so he doesn't consume your thoughts....oh yah and tell him how you feel

Christina D

I'm a texas football coach's wife so believe me I understand how you can feel lonely and feel like he uses all his time elsewhere. Be sure that you are talking to him. Ask him what he'd like to go do and if it isn't what you want to do you may still want to go just to be with him. Make plans of your own, but don't be surprised if he turns them down. it all boils down to communication. Be open, not angry, but open about your feelings.

jah_love_97

man these people that always say "move on"... "dump him" really urke me.

Tell him that you are not content with the attention that you are getting. A persons emotional needs will be met one way or another. You want him to fulfill yours so you do not find them elsewhere.

The most common reason for an affair is unfulfilled desires. Most affairs are not planned. They just happen. You and he have the benifit of knowing that your desires are not being fulfilled. Tell him that you dont want to leave the possibility of discovering attention from someone else.

Dr.C

Well first of all you should tell your husband everything in this message. Make sure you spell it out for him too as us guys need it from time to time. I really hate it when people assume that what's bothering them is as obvious as a giant purple elephant causing a traffic jam. If he truly loves you then he'll care enough to make a difference. You should be prepared however that your marriage may not have been meant to be. God Speed!

AnswerMom

This happened to me, as well.

He said he was tired, busy, blah blah, etc.

I KNOW he did work hard, but still, I was lonely.

You know what worked? I told him I was fantasizing about other men. I was. I would have never acted on it, but I was thinking it.

Things have been much better since then, and that was a few years ago. I think he just needed to realize what he really had.

Etain

I agree. he is probably having an affair. That happened the same way to me.

Get an online friend to talk to via camera while he is in the room:)

drives them nuts.

wellbeing

Let him know how you are feeling. People find time for things that are important to them. Arrange a weekly "date" night, even if it's only for one or two hours so you have something to look forward to. When you have that time, make it special, don't talk about household matters or complain about things, just be there and have fun together like when you first started dating.

notyou311

The next time he has a day off, get dressed up and tell him you have dinner reservations and movie tickets. If he says he doesn't want to go, tell him you'll find some who does and walk out the door. That ought to get his attention.

openminded

THATS WHAT YOU NEED TO ASK HIM. HOW DOES HE?

drsteve362005

It won't last at that rate.

If you need a little side dish to give yourself some much-needed bodily attention, I'm available :)

keypointist

Arrange a romantic weekend away with him somewhere and have fun.

godsgirl

Tell him that you miss him since he isn't around due to his job. You take the initiative to set up date nights. Tell him that you made plans to go out to dinner and see a movie together. Get someone to watch your kids (if you have them) and make it a very romantic time together. This way, he would definitely wanna be with you rather than his buddies. Try to be positive and do things that you know he likes to do.

sunssecret

Best thing you can do is sit down and tell him how you feel. If things don't change after that maybe you need to think about leaving.

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