How do I get my husband to stop calling me when I go out?

Savannah

I suggest you get use to him calling you. Or turn your phone off. Those seem to be the only two options. My husband does things that annoy the sh!t out of me, but you know I just realize that is him and I love him despite of them. Tell your husband that he needs to by you an ear piece because this is more safe then trying to jumble with a phone.

hamon rye

um ... assign vibrate to his number and don't answer. then tell him you're not answering when you get home. if he doesn't want to come ... you're not answering!

Johnny

Turn off the phone and tell him its staying off until he only calls you for emergencies.

La Vie Boheme

Shut off your phone and tell him you are doing so. Tell him he needs to give you some space. I would hate someone so overbearing.

PS: Women have been pregnant without cellphones for many, many years.

Julie S

He has "control" issues, not "needy" issues It's time to get counseling and shut the phone off or put it in silent mode.

He either doesn't trust you, or he's completely insecure but either way he's attempting to control you because he does not trust you or something in the relationship.

Been there

When you go out, leave a greeting on your phone that says, "I'm sorry, the cell phone owner is currently driving 45 mph in 2000 lbs of steel, and cannot take your call at this time. Please leave a message."

Ms. GTO

Next thing you know, he'll be taping a hair across the ignition or monitoring the mileage on your car. It's a cell phone- a means of communication- not a leash to keep you within arm's reach. You need to stand up to him and tell him about his insecure @ss. He's your husband, not your father!

Edit: sometimes being "needy" IS a form of control. People like that will keep coming up with crap that they need from you, or need you to do RIGHT THEN- hoping it will aggravate you to the point where you just say "F*ck it" and quit doing whatever it was that you were doing.

say it all...

Stop answering the phone...put it on silent, ignore it and do what you have to do. When he complains about that upon your return you can show him your phone tallying the excessive number of calls he has made to you. I understand being concerned about your pregnant wife - but he's taking it to the extreme!

Jessica

Tell him straight up that you will not be answering your phone and then don't.

Mark H

Tell him not to call unless he needs something IMPORTANT. If he calls, answer and if his call is unimportant, tell him you told him not to call. Next time, don't answer. Tell him he can text you. If it keeps being a problem, turn the phone off. You have to get it across to him that he is smothering you and you need a little space.

Starfish

Tell him before you leave, in exaggerated detail, exactly what you will be doing each moment, the exact second you will be home, and that if he has any more questions or wants to know if you are remembering to breathe, not to hesitate to call.

If the sarcasm doesn't work, just stop answering and turn off the ringer!

D D

I can't say I know how to make him stop, but have you tried turning the tables on him by calling him every fifteen minutes after he goes out somewhere without you?

Maybe if he gets chance to see how annoying it is he will stop doing it to you.

sheloves_dablues

Is he calling for a reason? Or is it only because he wants to know when you're coming home?

If it's just to find out when you'll be home, tell him BEFORE you leave the house. If he calls while you are out, don't answer.

When you get home and he's all bent becuase you didn't answer, explain that you were very clear about the time of your return and there was no reason to call and that until he learns to quit harassing you about something he already knows the answer to, you will not be answering his calls.

kelsey

You could try by informing him of the dangers, like you expressed here. About the car and driving while searching for your phone. Tell him, "If I need anything I will call you, if you didn't want to come then you don't need to call me."

Try anything my dear. I'm sorry, I hope that all works out for you.
And congrats on the baby!

pragmatism_rules

Sit down with him and ask him straight out...how would he feel if you drove the car off the road and were in a bad accident while trying to answer the cell phone when he was calling over nothing. And then ask him how he would feel if you lost your baby because he insisted on calling you on the cell phone when he knew you were driving. If he isn't crying or upset after either question, then you have a bigger problem...and he needs a counselor.

I think that this is only going to be resolved once he realizes what a risking thing he is doing...and when he realizes what he could lose, he may then modify his behavior. If not, keep the cell phone on vibrate and only answer it if and when it is convenient AND safe for you to do so! Good luck and God bless. And have a safe pregnancy and delivery!

Jan Luv

turn the dam phone off
leave the phone at home

Garnet Glitter's No BS Zone

Take your cell phone with you but have it turned OFF before you start driving...turn it back on only AFTER you have parked....check your voice mail and return his calls......he will beyotch about your cell phone being off...tell him you saw a woman getting pulled over for answering her cell phone while driving and that is NOT gonna be you...so from now on while you drive your phone will be off, and you will check your voice mail only after the car is safely parked.

Let him fuss, carry on, complain and call as often as he likes....when he figures out you will only answer with ONE return call no matter how many 'gazillions' of calls he places, he may knock it off...of course it may mean deleting a whole plethora of voice mails from your phone but at least he'll be as annoyed as you are lol...good luck.

Marilyn

shut your phone off, if you need it just turn it back on, talking to him does nothing, gee how did i ever get through many years of marriage and 5 pregnancies with no phone?

Carrie

Maybe he's just concerned. He might not know how much it bothers you! Especially since you're probably polite on the phone, he might that, "oh she sounded happy I called"

Its your husband and - hopefully the baby's his - you're having kids together. It should be quite easy to ask him not to call quite so frequently.

Maria

He is being insecure, tell him that he needs to trust you & if he was w/ u he would have to call you. You need to talk to him about insecurity & how that could push you away from him .

Sandy Ego

Stop answering your phone! Turn off the ringer, and forget about it.

Lorrie W

Either turn the phone off or don't answer it.

Bear

Yeah, stop complaining about it. You married the guy, now you have to accept his quirks. If you try to change him, you'll drive him away.

$0.02 REMAINS

Before you leave, try telling him when you expect to be back.

You know, give him the information he's after so that he doesn't have to sit home and worry about how his pregnant wife is doing?

Telling him straight up NOT to call you (and refusing to answer when he does) is a huge red flag that you may be cheating on him, just so you know.

Dear Jane...

I would approach this as a JOKE and see how far it goes...and if it doesn't go far, I agree with Juli on the counseling. When you are leaving say, "Okay, I'm going to the store now...I know you're going to call me in 15 minutes because you care but I'm not going to put myself in danger by answering the phone when I need to be paying attention to the road or my surroundings...so tell me what you want now" lol. If he still calls...yeah, that's not good.

Call me Montgomery

Maybe you should call him first.

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