How do i deal with my evil mother in law i cant take it anymore?

freebienutter

get hold of a tape recorder or camcorder, argos has a great range hide it out the way and then once she has done it show your husband and anyone else she has rattled off to, to prove your point and that should be the end of it, it may also be the end of her coming round and it may hurt your partner but what options do you actually have.

Happy-2

My advice: stop caring. Lies are only harmful if people believe them. You said yourself that "everybody knows it's a lie" about your son. So if everyone knows she is a lying liar, her lies do not harm you in any way. Blow them off, laugh about them, whatever. Stop worrying yourself over what is essentially nothing.

free_angel

Laugh about it. Everyone else is. She is entertaing to them with her outrageous lies.

Katie

i'd be telling my husband to deal w/ the situation and if it doesn't quit that she's not welcome in your home anymore. that he'll have to take the kids to see her at her house. and i'd distance myself from her.... make him do the running to see her and be there then she can't say something to you and lie about it or record the bit** saying it and play it back around people to embarass her and shut her up and it's kinda expensive but go get a paternity test to shut her mouth too... good luck girl!!

jackson

This is pretty standard..... not with the kid thing but just a mother in law butting in. I went through it and all is well now.

You husband is the only one who can deal with this effectively. He needs to understand his priorities and frankly not be such of a mommies boy. Time for him to stop trying to appease everybody.

I told my mother that I chose to marry my wife and she is my family. If you disrespect her basically you are disrespecting me and my choice. So basically what you are saying is that you feel like a failure as a mother by feeling the need to intude.

If you hurt her you are hurting me and my family. You are causing undue stress on our marriage and my marriage is most important.

Don't force me to make a choice between you and her. You have your life and I will have mine. Choose to be a part of it but this will not be the kind of thing that will continue for years until my kids get old enough to start asking "what is wrong"?

Also that she was plainly being the template for the evil mother in law. This will stop and it will stop NOW. Until you get it you are no longer welcome in my house. My wife did not put me up to this but it what I THINK.

Anyway.... there is not much you yourself can do. Your husband as a man needs to attend to it or the problem will continue for years. He may resent you for demanding this but the measure of a man is how he handles this.

Like I said I went this route. My mother was seriously pissed for a bit but got the idea later when she was no longer welcome and I really did not talk to her. In any human relationships lack of information kills people so then they have to make the effort to mend fences. Your husband is leaving all of the power in her hands.

CindyLu

If your husband will not stand up to his mother you must take matters into your own hands. You say that you have talked to and told her off about her behavior to no avail so its is time to get tough.

As suggested you should change your phone number and when she comes over do not let her in. Say you are too busy for company and shut the door, if you open it to begin with. When she complains and wants to know why this treatment tell her the truth and she will either change or you keep her out of your life.

IF your husband complains you tell him the truth and say that since he will do nothing about his mother you had to for your own sanity and the sake of your marriage.

Bibi

in your shoes I would of treated her like crap this mean I would of yelled at her at the top of lungs and tell that sour old ***** to get the F out of my house

Debbie B

Sounds like my X mother inlaw. What a trip this woman was, I hated her with a passion.

I ended up divorcing her son and got rid of them all. They weren't much different from one another.

Move away is all I can suggest.

Emptiness

For starters it is your husbands problem & he needs to fix it.

Record her some how then show it to her with your husband so he can see to.

Sometimes people don't even know they are doing things like that & they can't fix it if no one tells them or shows them how it really is.

If that don't work & she keeps doing it then keep your distance as much as you can don't call her don't go to her house unless you absolutely have to.

Most importantly try real hard not to let her get to you some people just need attention even if it is negative.

Spindrift

Keep her out of your house and out of your life. Switch to an unlisted ph number and don't let her in when she comes to your house. Too much drama and you do not want her coming around to upset your son when he is older.

amybee08

Dont bother her.as long as your husband is there for you dont worry.In laws are really jealous with the wife of their son, so just be it.Dont answer her back or tell bad words to her.Show that you love his son, and you wont hurt his feelings.Someday she will ask for forgiveness to all she has done to you.So be strong and God bless.

iwishiwasabear

what a *********. change your phone number, lock her out, don't have contact with her. if she bothers you, call the police for harrassment. if this doesn't work, talk to her and see what her problem is. if this gets nowhere, cut off communication with her.

LSB

I would sit down with my husband and explain the deal...if he gets defensive, tell him to marry her. Most guys know how their mother's are even if they dont admit it. Besides, it your house...let your husband know if she doesnt stop coming by and causing problems you want to move or something along those lines. If he loves you, he will do whatever it takes to make things work..It's not like his mom will abandon him if he puts her in her place. My husband did and it worked great.

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