How do i deal with the feeling of betrayal when my husband has impregnanted another woman outside wedlock?

mJc

Hon, this is a terrible situation. And I suspect you're in shock and can't make a rational decision at the moment. Why do I think that? I've been in your situation. So listen to me and listen closely...
Sometimes you have to change the life you planned, in order to find the life you were meant to live.

Let them deserve each other! You'll nver be able to trust him and he'll always be around her taking care of their child so disappear before the real hurt begins!

jude

this is something that your never going to get over, because this woman and child will be in his life forever, and kids always come before a wife. the lady will continue to disrespect u, because she is jealous of u. they are more than just friends, let him know u know. but its really way too late to do anything about it now, only thing to do is divorce him, because unless u do u will have to deal with this forever.

smuopke

For real that is soo messed up. I gave my fiance permission to give me a Lorena Bobbit special if I ever did something like that because I would deserve it and then some. Thats disgusting and you need to get rid of that selfish man that would hurt the woman he is supposed to love and care for.

iyamacog

If your husband has truly impregnated another woman there is no reason valid enough to remain with him. Your have a right to feel betrayed. He has proved that he is untruthful. However, you cannot simply assume all this. Paternity must be validated. As for your medical health, I would suggest you consult with another physician.

Personally, I could never get over that and I've have to leave him.

How did you find out about her baby? Are you 100% sure it's his?

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GET RID OF HIM!!!!

Alyssa M

put cement shoes on him and throw him off the highest bridge you can find!

RONNIE

I'M SO SORRY about that but you know that he loves you isn't. maybe it was just pressure within the family. right now what you need to do is to ask him about the whole story. about the pregnancy please just take your time if the chances are there that you conceive you are going to have a baby. just relax right now because as long you are stressed chances are very low that you will be pregnat. talk to your husband about what you are feeling. don't stress yourself. hey I'm still single but this year i will getting married.

Mrs. Heather Schabby

I'm not really sure why you need to get over the feelings of betrayal. You were betrayed, plain and simple, and you do now own any fault in this situation. Maybe you should see a counselor for some personal guidance about moving on.

Good luck.

Alvena H

if he cheated on you then fine and got her pregnant fine, yes you should feel betrayed and then u guys get councelling. i have seen where th exact same thing happened to a couple and all the ma did was collect his child had the wife adopt it and raised it as their own while cutting all ties with the birth mother cause he would not stand for his wife being dissed they worked through it and it was only 17years after that i found out that the wife wasnt the birth mother. we aught to practice forgiveness

BUT
BUT HE CANT BE DEFENDING OR JUSTIFYING HIS ACTIONS AND THE WOMANS BEHAVIOUR AT THE SAME TIME! THATS DISRESPECTFUL TO YOU! YOU R WORTH BETTER
look not on what was said but done. in omiting to condemn that womans actions toward you he is in fact CONDONING it regardless of the bull that he said.
i will never advocate divoce cause i dont believe in it
but i sure as hell would hire a bunch of guys to beat the crap out of him. how could he risk you life buy going without a condom?
he could not have been renewing his vows IT SAYS FORSAKING ALL OTHERS MEANING ANY AND EVER1 EXCEPT GOD THAT WILL INTERFERE WITH THE RELATIONSHIP doesnt matters if its a woman or a meddling mother. he has obviously broken the vows.

my priest told me something that chancellors are taught. he said never give advice it interferes with the individuals to assess the situation on their own and come up with their decision, but help them to see what is.
the situation is bad really bad. you currently have a man that (ignoring his mess up cause ppl make mistakes) obviously doesnt respect you and love you enough to defend you
the lord be with you

Aussie mum

I'm so sorry for your loss... but I am a believer of things happen for a reason. You could not carry a child to this man, now try to look on the bright side: even if you had born his baby, he might have cheated regardless. He wasn't worthy of you or you having his baby. He has cheated on you.. and that was his choice, not yours. His decision, his infidelity, his responsibility. Not yours. You did nothing wrong. You gave your all but he makes a mockery out of you by not only sleeping with someone else, but then protecting them and worse still, making her pregnant.
You are worth so much more than this.. you deserve better! Take control, empower yourself and leave this relationship. Don't let him treat you this way... one day you will find someone that loves you with all his heart and you never know, you might just find yourself pregnant unexpectantly! Then you will look back upon this and be thankful for the way things turned out. Be strong, kick him out - you can do this.

wen

I have went through something a bit similiar...at first he lied to me and told they were friends ,but 7 months later,i found out she was pregnant,he told me that he wasnt leaving me,despite the kid...he will be a responsible father to the child,and we'll make this work,but after all that was said done...after all my energy ,time and efforts to make everything work...i feel like i've gotten one great big kick in the ass.....i have nothin against the baby...but when it comes to him having to deal with her,my heart gets real heavy.....and i even find myself having emtional break downs...time heals ...everything ,i guess:(

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