How do i tell him i dont want to marry him?

Phoebe

I had similiar reservations and I wish I would have listened to my gut feeling. If you have any doubt, you honestly should not go through with it until your doubt is gone. I would just be honest with him. Although his mom has passed away, don't let the sympathy for him confuse you more and make you feel obligated to marry him. I wouldn't do it, but it's your life.

Greg

You say, "I don't want to marry you" like a real grown-up.

Herbal

Well that's your bloody fault for being such a liar to yourself and the man for so long. Now the Karma has caught up with you as it rightly does. You've had the benefits of your time with him so at least for once be unselfish if at all that is possible and speak your damn mind. You didn't ignore your self centred feelings when everything suited YOU so don't kid yourself even more and likewise don't ignore your present ones. Women like you give me the absolute s h i t s, but then I never hang out with such feeble efforts. He's lucky in the long term !

Zoeksalamander

oh dear oh dear... time to be brave and have the talk. No good way of saying it, I am afraid, but do because a month is over before you know it. Good luck.

Thomas H

Well, obviously this is tough for you. If I were in his shoes, i would be hurt, obviously. Just say to him that his mom's condition is really making life confusing right now, and that you need more time to make this important decision. As long as you didnt force him to live with you, or cajole him into asking you to marry him in the first place, he should be understanding. If not, then you have your answer; he isnt for you.

sliver_nite_sky

u really do need to sit down and tell him and soon .
just let him know how u feel surely if this man loves u he will understand if ur not ready.

mommy3

First of all are you positive that you don't want to marry him, could this be a case of the jitters. If you are positive then you need to tell him as soon as possible since the wedding is soon. Do you have any idea what makes you feel this way. Has he done something, have bad attitude, anything that would suggest that you should not marry him. I would definantly think this through because once you tell him that you aren't marrying him he is not going to look at you the same way.

ubon

if you just one in your life time to say something very clever, this is the time to tell him--now, to save your life and your butt.

Oula

As bad as the scenario is, you should not allow this wedding to take place... You need to sit down with him and let him know your true feelings... Tell him that you just aren't ready right now... I know this is very sensitive because she isn't doing too well, but you will be doing a big injustice to him and to yourself by marrying him when you know you should not.

Tara

I understand that you don't want to hurt him or his mother but if you go into a marriage with someone that you do not love -- it is eventually going to make you both miserable and end up in divorce -- and then the hurt will be worse -- so pray and ask God to help you -- and to give him an understanding heart.

Lisa R

I think that if you tell him, you also need to let him go. He may want to get married some time in his life, why deny him of that?

Tell him now....hey i don't want to get married...before its too late

shereen

HI
dear being afraid of comittment and scared to settle and thinking thta marrige is going to be end iof ur love menaing gonna put an end to it is soemhtign every singe perosn about to get married has been though. trust me nothgin gonna cnange hes just same man u v been sharing home with past dont knwo how long notgin gonna change about him. dont be scared and if u think u need to prosnd then nothgin wrong with that coz may be te date being set scares u and pout all the preasure on u. but if u thing that u dont wanna marry him then u shodul think of the possibilty that ist now or never and that u might lose him he might wanna get married or move on so he can find anotehr to settle with and build life with be hesetating ur taing that option away from hm coz if ur gonna walk away tehn the fatser u do it the sonner he can start moving on with hsi life. make sure ur ready to let him out of ur life if ur not gonna marry him if not then marry him its not end of world there is always way out. if churche marrige scares u go for civil cermony , if prena agreement helps to assure u go for it. think postively of how to make this work or just end it before u make a joke of him in weddin day when ur called run-away- bride ! u definitley dont wanna run away in ur weddin day.
good luck

Rizzo

This is a man you are going to marry, you must talk to him, if you can't then you are with the wrong man...

The timing is never going to be right... so just do it!

sounds like a little reservation to getting married. Do not involve his mom in this equation. Be by yourself, maybe write down the pros and cons of getting married with this man.

Ollie

Hi,you are in a bad position especially with his mam being so ill.If you are 100% certain you do not want to marry him then tell him.I hope you realise you risk losing him,if so then he was not the one for you.Good Luck

LAVORIC A

just tell him that you don't think that it is the rigth time for you to be marry at this points of time because of the things that are going on.

Tweety

There's no easy way to give anyone this type of news. But it is important that you tell him and tell him soon.

tator4202002

TELL HIM THAT YOU DON'T WANT TO GET MARRIED BECAUSE THE FACT IS HIS MOM WANTED THAT .ASK HIM DOES HE REALLY WANT TO GET MARRIED NOT BECAUSE HIS MOM WANTED IT

holly

His reason for wanting to marry you should not be about your mothers....tell him and your mother how you feel I'm sure your mum wouldn't want you tp marry if she knew how you felt. This is too much for you to have on your mind when your mum is terminally ill. Take one step at a time. Sorry about your mum.

ravisankar s

Every mother dies in some time or other. Time will heal every thing. It is a great tool. Well you need not marry him at this instance, but give more time and decide

john

end it now...but do it nicely...

mshighwater

Good grief! How do people get into these situations?

Find a way to tell him what you really want and don't waste any more time. What are you going to do? Marry him even though you don't want to and then divorce him when his mother passes away?

If he knows you had reservations it might not come as a total shock to him.

phil

easy say i dont want to marry you, simple eh

clevell r

tell the truth will be best thing you can do for yourself don't let him thing everything cool and it not

Luke's Wife

just tell him you don't want to get married now But i don't see the problem there is no real reason that you gave for you not to want to get married

Paul BS

Pluck up your courage and tell him right now. Don't wait. Do it. You'll feel better for having it out there.

~*tigger*~ **

Be honest and say you need some time and next month is too soon

chelsea19622000

You should not have let the situation go on for as long as you have. Now it is time to be totally honest with him and tell him you don't want marriage. I assume that you also no longer want to live with him so i would suggest that you find yourself alternative accommodation immediately.

tell him that your not ready at the moment, explain to him that you feel its not the right time. i know this is easier said than done, as us out here dont know what he is like and what he can handle, ( i hope he will accept it and be civil) best of luck,

miss walker

Your gonna have 2 bite the bullet hunny and tell him if u don't u will b living a lie yes you will hurt him and it will be hard 4 u but think 3 months down the line ur still not happy but ur pregnant.U cant do it 2 make other people happy im sure his mum would understand and not force u into something u don't want. Its best 2 do it now than later coz it will hurt so much more if u drag it on...all the best

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