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Elt
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This is something you'll have to take to the grave, sis. He's not gonna understand. |
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mamabear
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Too late to be sorry now. How lucky are you to get to go on a cruise, and you cheat on your husband? Was he at home watching the kids? Women like you get no sympathy from me. |
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♥Ti Amo♥
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well you should of not "hooked up" on a cruise because all your friends were doing it, it's not high school. Second if you love him to death how could you stomach sleeping with some guy for a one time thing? If you don't tell him it will always be in the back of your mind and he will find out eventually...you can't hide everything forever, you will get caught. If you tell him now he may not leave you but he will resent you for two reasons, one you slept with someone else two you waited for over a year to even attempt to tell him. You made a decision to sleep with someone now be a real woman and tell him what you did. |
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JustAskin
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Why would you want to take the burden that you now bear and pass it on to him??? YOU created this situation. He's been a good husband and father (I assume). SO, you caused it, you live with it. DO NOT tell him in order to make yourself feel better!!!! It will only make him feel worse!
If you love him, the best thing you can do is to work this out in your own mind and heart. Seek guidance and forgiveness from a priest, minister, rabbi, etc.
While you cheated on your husband, you sinned against God. Your only true forgiveness will come from God. Seek forgiveness from God. He can handle it Do not burden your husband. He may not be able to.
Please don't think I'm admonishing your behavior. I truly understand and wish only the best for you and your marriage. Good luck. God bless. |
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mama2be
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WHAT? i can't believe the responses you are getting here. I havent read through all of them, but most of them say don't tell? i don't agree with that. yes, it is true that there is a possibility he may leave you, but the mor important question here is, can you live with yourself if you don't tell him? if this was something that you could just ignore, you could have done that by now and you wouldnt be here asking for an advice. well sister, i say tell him. i dont how you could tell him because there is no easy way for you to come out and say it, and ther is no easy way for him to take in the information. yes,it is going to crush him. sorry, i am being realistic. and he may end up divorcing you, which i wouldnt blame him because you broke your vows and hence are responsible for the marriage to end, not him. another thing that should help you, is how would you feel if he was the one that did the cheating? would you rather know and make your decision based on the truth, or would you rather he hides it from you forever. another advice i can give you is this, don't ever do it again. you sound kind of young, and if you werent ready for marriage you shouldnt have gotten married now you are responsible for two lives..urs and your husband because what if you end up with an STD of some sort, i hope u used protection. if not, then please do tell him and get tested. good luck |
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saloon girl
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I think you are selfish. The only reason to tell him at this point is to relieve your guilt. Are you looking to transfer your bad feelings to him. Do you think he will be happy with this news?
Don't do it again, and live with the guilt.
You play, you pay. |
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ℓღviє
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let it go this is your punishment.it will hurt him more if you tell him.you better hope your friends wont tell. |
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mouser
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The guilt is your burden alone. Telling to ease your concience is selfish.
Don't double the pain by dumping on your innocent hubby. He's done nothing to deserve that. |
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Robynn K
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sorry but if you really do love him you wouldnt of hooked up in the first place.. just tell him and see what happends, and if he leaves you, you did it to your self.. |
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*Little Miss Sunshine*
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That's tough. There is no easy way of telling your husband you cheated on him. Just tell him what happened and that it was a mistake and that he's the one you love. He might forgive you and he might file for divorce. I'm sorry I couldn't be of better help. |
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nursesr4evr
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Geesh, let it go. Telling him might free your conscious, but it will only hurt him. |
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M.D.
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Your story reminds me about the guy who fell of a twenty story building. As people saw him pass their floor, they could her him saying " So far So good, So far So good" |
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lippy
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If you feel the need to tell him, do it, don't let this guilt rule and ruin your life. Just respect him enough that when you do tell him, you allow him the time and seperation he may need to figure this out. And respect the decision he makes. You've made your choice and now it's his turn to make his. |
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vanessa c
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what happens in vegas, stays in vegas |
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Anthony F
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Hope you didn't contract AIDS or anything like that. |
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coolmommy
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I think it's cruel to torture him! Why should he suffer because you are trying to relieve your own guilt? |
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nukehoop
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Let's be honest, there is no nice way to say "Honey, I cheated on you." It is like telling someone that a loved one has died. It will sting, but you just have to say it and be prepared for the turmoil to follow. Have a plan and be ready to lose him. Many people in your shoes would just live the lie and forget about it. It is really the right thing to do (to tell him). Keep in mind also that any of your friends who also cheated on that cruise may have to fess up too! |
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scout1567
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A lot of people will disagree with this but if it truely was a one night thing, let it go, telling him will do nothing but hurt him and potentially destroy your marriage. |
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will_955
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I recommend tha you do not tell him. MOve on with your life and treat him with the respect that he deserves. Do something special for him
He may have cheated on you and never told you. |
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coolman3455
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tell him you r sorry |
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checking-u-out
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you Will probably lose your husband. you made the worst mistake ever. if you truly loved him there is noway way in hell anybody or thing could make you do anything that was your choice to do it. you should tell him if you want him to trust you and forgive you but if you don't tell him then its your and your friends secret you don't think he'll find out later someone will spill the beans sooner or later. he will find out |
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zqx357
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Go to Church and confess it to God and ask Him to forgive you and He will -- if you go to your husband and confess it to him and ask him to forgive you he will not but will divorce you. Clear your conscience with God. |
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Kyle
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Honey, the quickest way to ruin everything good you have ever been blessed with and find yourself in a nasty divorce situation is to tell. You made a terrible mistake. Let it go! Why ruin this man's happiness by saying, "Oh guess what, I slept with another man like a common pig, don't you still love me darling?" Let it go! Don't ever go it again! Love your husband and stay with him and no more cruises for you! Oh, and I'd dump your stupid friends who thought this was a good idea. |
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Racist Answer Man
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NO. NO NO NO NO NO!!
Do NOT try to assuage your guilt by telling him the truth and making him feel miserable. He did nothing to deserve that - as far as I can tell.
Feel guilty. Feel miserable. Accept it as the punishment for a bad decision, but don't be a pansy and pull him into it too.
Trust me on this one.
Then after a suitable period of time stop feeling guilty and miserable. People do dumb things. It happens. |
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Mom of 3 rugrats
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If you want to tell him and know it will cost your marriage, then don't tell him. You shouldn't have done that in the first place. Would you like for your husband to do it to you and then not tell you? Would that make you feel better not knowing? You need to put yourself in his shoes. Try marriage counseling. It's all up to you. Don't let no one tell you what to do.. Do what your heart is telling you. |
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Dance
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Don't tell him. You should feel guilty and not put it on your husband. It won't help it will just make it really bad in your marriage. You did it and you have to live with it. What is your reason for telling him now? So you feel better? It is not all about you! Stop be selfish. Forget it happened and get on with life. |
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Colleen O
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IF you loved your husband you would not have "hooked up" for a one night thing. That would NEVER have crossed your mind. The only way you CAN tell him is the truth..."On that cruise I got stupid and decided to take a chance on ruining our marriage to commit adultery and have a one night phuck with a stranger...hopefully I didn't contract an STD, HIV, or HPV and wind up giving it to you." Keep in mind that both HIV and HPV don't always present even though the "carrier" is still contagious. If you contracted HIV then you have given it to your husband and he has cause for a civil suit against you let alone a divorce. You should feel more than guilt for what you have done. |
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endo_chic
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That is a chance that you should have thought of before you "hooked up" with your friends. The only you can do is come clean with him and be remorseful about it.
Hopefully, (for your sake) he will understand and be forgiving.
There is no easy way to tell him about what you did and you have hidden this "secret" from him long enough. He deserves to know. I wouldn't be shocked if he isn't more upset that you took over a year to tell him than you actually committing adultery in the first place. |
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