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A's Momma
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I was 20 when we got engaged. My husband was 25 at the time. After we'd decided we wanted to get married I sat my parents down (without my husband) and told them, "Mom, Dad... Chris and I have been talking and we want to get married.' And then I waited for a response. They were shocked and my dad said "Can't you wait 2 years?" and my mom goes "They're not going to wait!" and she laughed. So we got married later that year. We've been married for almost 3 years now and we have a 7 month old daughter. :) Couldn't be happier!
EDIT: Oh and later my husband did go and get my dad's blessing. :) I thought it'd be good to warn him first so he didn't have a heart attack. |
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Dara J
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can you pay for your own wedding, car payment, rent, for food and other bills? If not then your not ready to get married |
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binsta
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You talk with them, and if you can tell them your husband has a future and maybe they will understand |
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kazz55
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Well Ms Grown Up plan a nice dinner and you and your Honey after you eat and order desert just say mom dad my honey and I have something to say and tell them what are they going to do lock you in the dudgeon..get real life is for the living ..my grand parents got married at 14 years of age of course back then you could ,but they stay together til my grandma died at 83 and three months later my grandpa died of a broken heart don't let anyone put a age on love my grand parents are an example of True Love and it could happen for you;
you have my blessing |
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Trinitystar♀
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Well, you should definitely tell them, because think about it, your going to get married, they WILL want to know. and your over 18, your a legal adult. ALSO, you should make sure you really love him, before you marry him. if you know this is true, then your parents should understand. they are married after all. over anything, they'll prolly be really happy, and want you to be happy too. |
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Rich
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TRust me here, I know this isnt the answer you want to hear. But I really feel you are too young. I was 26 and didnt know any better, but I was too young. Another thing, when I was 26 I thought people in their 30's and 40's didnt know any better and they didnt live my life. Trust me again, I didn live your life. I would wait if I were you. I know because of mistakes I have made and friends of mine made when we were your age. |
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Leora
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The key is timing. Find a time when you are all relaxed and calm, you know like drinking tea or sitting around on couches, then carefully broach the subject. make sure you ASK them but don't TELL them. Seem like you are asking permission. State softly and firmly that you love your bf and that you think it is a good idea. Dependin on the response you can go from there. The important thing is not to throw it on them but to carefully and cautiously request it from them, they will probably be shocked but might even be pleased. Hope it all works out :) |
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Joe
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Both of you bring them to nice restaurant and let them know of your intentions. Remember you're still young and there is plenty to see. My best advise to you is try to hold off awhile and see how things play out. Good luck & have fun.
I am in the playpen with sweet Mildred |
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Erik
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You want to tell both of them while they're sitting down. Best form of laxative, really. |
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Sienna♥♡♥Jonas♥♡♥
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One night have a dinner with all of your family and closest friends and then just be like 'okay everyone ...(ur bfs name)... and I have an announcement, we're getting married!' (They can't get angry or anything at you when you have the whole family and your friends around, then there won't be the hassle of telling them all separately.)
And congratulations! xxx |
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SG rules
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Depends on what's your age. If you are in the 20s and 30s just say it's my age to get married and they won't mind. If you are young, simple you can't get married. |
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luckywife
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just tell them and be as honest as u can |
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Neen
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tell them.. if they dont like the idea now they'll get use to it & be happy for you both :)
goood luck with everything.
xx |
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gargoyl
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let your bf ask your dad for your hand in marriage |
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bigbluemoose
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You are 19 so that makes you an adult. Are you afraid a, they will say not and try to ruin things between you two, b) afraid they will nor pay for the wedding or c) you really do care what your parents have to say and you will give in to them?
Or there is this option, you can go to a justice of the peace and get married without them knowing then tell them either a) after they throw a fit and tell you know or b) after you have had the wedding they pay for or c) get married by the JOP and never tell them you did after the big wedding |
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iyamacog
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I'd start by asking their opinion...Which you know already...But it may soften the blow for them. Because you also know they are gonna mention your continuing education. And they're not wanting to be grandparents just yet. And that 20 isn't much older (for their baby) than 19....However, if the lines of communication are open and loving, they may have already considered this was about to happen.
Also, and the most important, please, PLEASE, hang around this section for just a little bit, and digest some of the questions and answers before you consider making any serious commitment. |
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Elly
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Shoot from the hip and straight out with it. I only hope you can afford to live on your own & pay your own bills. 20 is young not even legal yet.What is the rush? |
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irish deep sea diver in south nj
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Trust me, Getting married young can be hard, or it can work out. Remember, your parents have loved and cared for you for the last 19 years and will always want to carry you under there wing. If you are really serious about this, then I suggest getting a marraige councelor and show everyone that this isn't just some young fling and that the two of you are serious......
**I AM IN THE PLAYPEN WITH SWEET MILDRED** |
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Vickie =]
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no i dont think its a bad idea. some people fall in love at a young age.
if you really want to tell your parents, simply tell them that you are now a young adult and you really dont want to disappoint them, but you really wanted to tell them because they are your parents and you want them to be there on your special day. it is your life anyways! theyll probably appreciate the fact you want them to be there and it should be okay. it may be hard at first but itll get better :) good luck |
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Pet
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"If you marry at such a young age, I promise that you will regret the decision... "
Not true, but a lot of people do regret their decision later when they marry at a young age. I got married when I was 20 and it's been almost 3 years now. I'm happy as can be with my hubby and our little one. He was my best friend for years and I can't picture myself without him. Regardless of age I feel like we have something special that most people miss out on.
My parents supported me when I told them we were getting married-then again, like I said, they had known him for years. So they were happy. If your parents freak, maybe it's because they think it's not a good idea. And being a little older myself now, and having children of my own, it's true that most parents only have your best interests at heart. Good luck |
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little buddhist
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You should both go to your parents and tell them together, You are both adults speaking with other adults about a topic for adults so as long as you both speak from the heart and are 100% sure that this wont just blow up in your faces with a divorce... then take your parents and his out to dinner at a nice restaurant and do it there.
Doing it out at a nice place will put everyone in a good mood and there is less chance for people freaking out. |
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Kyle
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You have to act like an adult, if you wanted to be treated like one. As an adult you have to pick what is right for you not worry about what other think. If you are happy with your bf and want to marry him then your parents will see that, they might not agree with you but they will understand that you are an adult |
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luvnhatelife
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Simply tell them...Mom, Dad...I'm getting married next year.
Doesn't matter if they are vey protective of you. You are an adult. Time to live your life. |
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Tsunami
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the man is to go to the home of the parents and let them know and ask for your hand in marraige if they say no one well but generally they will say ok. you need to have him talk to your dad and ask. |
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Ben P
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You have to make sure not to distance your boyfriend from your parents because of this decision you two have arrived at. It is NEVER a good idea to alienate your future spouse with your parents or his, so let them know -- take a seat and bring your boyfriend along -- and discuss the issue at hand. Make sure you keep in mind what they have to say, and make a decision based on that, or at least keep an open mind.
Your parents have your interests at heart, just remember that. They raised you from birth (from what I can infer) and want for you to be happy!
Absolutely do not leave this to the last minute, that's all I can end this with. If you decide to get married, make preparations and leave them out of it, they will feel left out and will perhaps dissasociate themselves from you. |
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Patrik C
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the next time you send them an e-mail add in a P.S. |
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mxd
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Honesty is the best policy. Just be up front about it. Let them know why you are getting married and your future plans. Good luck and congratulations. |
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Georgio (I'm a dude)
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Say to your momma "Hi mom! I'm ready to ruin my life just like you did!" |
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thibaultpham
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just tell them, they will have to learn to accept it |
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W1thNumb3rs
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mom, dad.... I want to get married. End of story. |
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Lexey
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Just tell them |
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