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swtlilblonde31
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If you haven't let go and it still bothers you daily then it is time to let him go. |
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Ginger H
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Its hard i'm goin through that too its very difficult after time tho i think it just goes away at least i hope it does if u ever need to talk u can email me cuz trust me i know exsactly how u feel |
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dino popadroplous
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how could you.. i could and would not forgive someone.. |
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Pedro the lawnboy
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I was never able to let it go after my ex did it. Some people are wired to forgive, others not. I'm one of the others. I'd try counseling to help you find whatever answers you can. You may not like them, but it will be better than where you are now. |
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italy_coolfun
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Counseling for both of you together. If it is meant to work, counseling will resolve it. |
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bonski81
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i don't think you truly can, the only person who can is GOD. If you want to try to work things out just be aware of his every move. once the other person cheats its not hard for them to do it again. Just be careful of your heart. |
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Miss B
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I wouldn't of forgiven him at all
but if you did choose to forgive
don't forget
because its true...
once a cheater always a cheater. |
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Cee
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Talk about it with him... Once someone cheats its better to go sepparate ways because no matter what that tought will always remain inside... |
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Lou
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Seek professional counseling. You will never forget, but you can forgive. You need to be aware what caused this in the first place (there is never only one person at fault), become more communicative and create ways to focus attention on each other. |
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♥ JustAChick ♥
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After all this time, if you can't forgive him (and I'm not suggesting you should)... maybe it's time to cut your losses. You may find yourself happy on your own; being independent and not having to worry he may have a relapse. |
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valda54
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you don't. just let him go. forgive him?//////// license to cheat again. |
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ronidl76
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And you never will. My parents went through the same thing, and now, 12 years after one of them cheated, they are getting a divorce after 34 years of marriage.
Hard to forgive and forget. |
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shelby
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ugg. this is a truly hard thing to do.
i guess you can forgive but never really forget.
its hard. but it all depends on how much you love and care for him.
maybe counseling?
i wish you the best of luck. |
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Salma
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you cant ......... |
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If you don't let it go your going to lose him. If you cant find a way to get past it then maybe you need to find a new man. |
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Sexy male
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you have 3 options really
1 talk to him tell him u still feel this way and try to start fresh with him
2 cheat on him get even (if u love him dont do this one)
3 if by this time u still have a problem leave him no need to go through life miesrable..... |
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forever red
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You dont forgive the bast*rd!!!! he cheated on you, why should u forgive him?! my mom has been married 5 times, cuz every guy she was with cheated or abused. Let him suffer!!!!!!!!! |
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Wendy79
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3 years ago is a long time. Do you trust him now? If so then you should have let it go by now and if you cant then its time to move on or go to counsling. good luck! |
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B
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Sometimes you just can't. I think that I could not forgive my husband if he ever cheated on me, but everyone is different, there are some women that can forgive. Have you tried counseling? I know if I cheated my husband would never forgive me so I feel the same way. |
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frawlicious
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It may be something that you are unable to forgive. You need to really soul search. chances are if it's been three years and it is still troubling you, the trust is gone. |
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bowling301301
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Cheat on him |
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The It Girl ∆☻ä¹
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Try the therapy approach - if you haven't already. You could also try a priest or minister. It is hard to forgive someone who betrays you. |
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F. Perdurabo
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I've heard it takes about 15 years to forgive an adulterer.
Forgiveness is hard, especially when you're wondering why he did it and if he's going to do it again.
I don't understand cheating, and I've been married for over 19 years.
FP |
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Thing H.
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Ummmm........ You don't let it go, you get a divorce. |
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Queen K
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well i think you should let to. i was cheated on by my boyfriend when i was 8 months pregnant i deided to work it out and now it's been 2 years and it still effects me. that is a tainted relationship i separated from him and am requesting a divorce. so in the end you might not end up toghether. i understand the feeling as if there is always a third party involved. is it really worth it? i mean he did not care about you while he was cheating. do you have any kids? |
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cody
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you state "I want a divorce!" |
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john h
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once a cheater always a cheater. you only caught him one time.you cant forgive a cheater,you can only tolerate his cheating. bad news but it the truth.that's life. |
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ThereIsHope
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Has he stopped and asked forgivness? I hadn't had my husband cheat on me but something simaliar...it involved the computer. He's asked me to forgive him and I did. He hasn't done anything in a long time and I'm very proud of him! It even brought us closer. I still have a hard time everyonce and a while when the memory comes back but as soon as it comes in my mind I do my best to shut it out. It's not easy but you can't keep thinking on it or reliving it or it will damage or even end your marriage. If he hasn't cheated for a long time let him know you'r proud of him. Good luck and my prayers are with you! |
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Annie
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You know how the saying goes: It's easy to forgive hard to forget...... You need to focus on why u took him back. You cant be throwing his affair in his face it was your decision to to take him back. Maybe you truly havent forgiven him.. |
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irishone28_99
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Try to talk to someone who isn't a family member or who knows you or your husband like a therapist or something maybe they can give you some advise as to how to cope with the feelings that you have. Good Luck! |
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