How do you get past this?

Besides time how do you get past this: I have two kids and currently pregnant with my third and i went on vacation for two weeks and when i got back i found out my husband of six years cheated on me and left us for this ho. He never see the kids and does not pay anything towards them. He just takes his ho out to dinner and crap and causes problems for me. I am just so hurt that i don't know how to get past this. everything reminds me of us or him and her. Yeah i am pregnant so my emotions are sky high but i just want some peace. He left me with no money, no job and in this economy forget it i am trying( i was a stay at home mom), No car and no house. i think i am doing the best i can with what i have but the fact is i am hurt and sad(not depressed) but betrayed and heartbroken. only real suggestions and please dont be rude. thanks
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I am in the court process but im looking more for emotional help. I have set up therapy but that wont happen for a while. Thanks

Annie

I am so sorry for what your going through. I have gone through divorce and a man who cheated. It is a very hard time to get through, but, if you are strong, and I think you are, you will turn this bad experience into a positive one.
First you need to go to a lawyer, talk to family services and talk to your family and friends.
Try your best to stay strong for your kids and the one on the way. He is a loser to give up such a nice family. I raised my own kids, you can be the father and mother both. Its tough, but, with help you will get through it. This loser will have to help you whether he wants to or not.

Guytheterrible

Call a lawyer and get some child support out of him. If you can't afford a lawyer there are legal aid places available.

He can leave you behind but he can't leave his responsibilities behind.

Any man that doesn't take care of his own children to the best of his ability is just plain trash.

Ontheotherhand

I'm a suspicious old fart. I think there is a lot more you haven't mentioned. Your question implies that you folks aren't, and haven't been rich. It seems odd that a pregnant mother of 2 would take a two week vacation. Especially without your husband and kids. Parents usually vacation with their kids, or at least their spouses. Are you sure you didn't leave your family, or at least your husband, and then return? Regardless, your husband is responsible for helping support his kids. But, unless I'm way off base, there's a lot more to your story.

Isobelle

Spend your time taking care of your children. Do the whole therapy thing as well. Build a support system (friends and family). Your children need you at your best, even though you feel your worst so just hang in there and do your best to take care of them:) When all is said and done, at the end of the day, you are better off without him.
Definitely seek legal action to get some child support because this guy is a total bum.

PENNYLANE

You have my deepest concern for your situation. I hope you at least still have health insurance for you and your children. I would see a lawyer ASAP! Start filing divorce proceedings so you can get some financial support for your children. If he's not man enough to be helping you out, then let the court system take over and force him to. I hope you have family and friends who can help you in the meantime. Best of luck and God Bless.

Nicole

Call legal aid and get a lawyer. Depending on what state you in adultery is a big deal. Do not just get child support, get alimony. You deserve it. They say that being a stay at home more is the equivelant of working 3 full time jobs and that you would make about 100,000 dollars and alot of time you can make it so he owes the court for all lawyer and court fees especially if you can prve adultery

jude

unfortunately i wish i could say it was easy to get past it, or that u would wake up tomorrow and feel good, but u won't. u will have to go through a grief process, takes time, and being pregnant it won't make it any easier because when your pregnant emotions rule. i would join a self help therapy group that deals with divorce support, where u would be meeting others who have already been through this, and would act as a support system, because this is something u don't get past on your own. true u were done a dirty deal, i felt the same way when i came home from vacation and saw evidence of someone being in my home, little did i know he was having an affair, and wanted out of the marriage. the wife is always last to know. have u tried prayer, i know it helps when your down and out and there seems no one to turn to. first u have to see this man for who he really is and not who u thought he was or wanted him to be. then u have to accept it is what it is, and theres no going back to what it was. then u have to not self blame because u weren't the one who cheated on him, what he did was betray u. its a long road to where your going to feel good again, this is where u need some friends to talk about your pain, sometimes its also good to get angry at the one who did this to u.

sillerious

how are you surviving financially? i am really sorry this happened to you and cant begin to imagine what you are going through...on top of everything being pregnant. this must be devastating. i hope you have good friends that support you in this difficult time.

Craig c

For the sake of the kids... you move on, you have to be strong for them and not you. And stop calling the new girlfriend a ho, you don't know if she knew he was married, my sister dated a guy and people call her a ho, but the guy told her that his wife died, so she told everyone that she was not the other woman but she was his girlfriend, once sis found out he was married she left him, so maybe you should talk to the girlfriend and find out just what she does or does not know. Then you should sue the **** out of husband.

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