How do you hurt someone who is cheating on you?

Braydens Callin the Troll Police

You dont stoop that low.
You walk out, leave, and get out of the relationship.
Do what you need to do, but you'd be the foolish one to stay.

I'll be frank with you as I'm in the EXACT same boat (sans the kid). My experience is that there is nothing you can do to make them feel the hurt you feel right now. You can take him to court, take all his money, leave him and it still won't equal what this azz is putting you through. My wife cheated on me and is engaged to the person she cheated on me with and she is happy as a lark. In other words, IF there was anything you COULD do, he would have to care for it to work. And a good majority of cheaters don't give a d@mn.

Don't bother, take it from me...you'll just be angry and even more hurt that all the effort you went through to hurt him didn't phase him one bit. Maybe revenge is left to a being who knows exactly how to take care of him.

Betty D

Hurt him in the check book. Take the kid and he can visit and pay child support. If he's out getting laid, let him, then you can go live your life with somebody that wants to be with only you.

rorybuns

What does hurting him back teach your child? It may alleviate your hurt for now, but it will only create more problems in the long run.

If he's cheating, document everything and call a lawyer and get a divorce. Getting the upper hand in court will give him his just desserts. Stay at a friend's house tonight if you need to. Then ask them to be your witness later.

ragdoll1959

While you two are still together you need to improve your life. Go back to school. Then when you go for the divorce have your lawyer make him pay for your student loans. Men like to think you can't live w/o them.He will be upset if he sees you are actually doing Better w/o him! You get more out of life when you are positive! So concentrate on yourself.

iagosaint

Stop worrying about hurting him and start worrying about helping yourself. If you can't leave him right now, how can you? Can you make a plan? Is there someone who can help you? You obviously deserve better, and hurting him isn't going to make him love you.

There's a saying--the best revenge is living well. Make a plan. Take a class, enlist, find a way to leave him and make him regret losing you. That's the best way.

Also, gouge him for child support ;)

Riverrat715

Honey, you can't hurt him like he is hurting you so don't even try. You do need to leave him. You can get help from social services in getting you a place to live etc. He will be required to pay child support and you will need to have a job if you don't already. You do not deserve what is happening so get out and find a new life for you and your child. You deserve to be loved and cared for by an honest decent man and you will find one in time. I wish you much luck and I am so sorry to know that right now your heart is breaking.

Gabble P

leave to a friend or relatives. the best way to hurt him is just ignore him from now on and divorce

ABCD

by leaving him. and living your life well. and being the best you you can be. and not playing stupid games that degrade you.

good luck.

soozemusic

Be 100% sure that he is cheating. You are already hurting. Don't waste your time trying to make him sorry. On some level he is. Sometimes we expect of others what we expect of ourselves, so we are only more disappointed. Have him leave the home. Why should you and your child together? If you want to continue with the marriage, go to counseling. You have alot of emotions to sort through. One being is he truly a husband or truly a cheat.

elbow grease 12gatchback

but http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dQ7tIfWD_FM

Nora C

Don't care, don't share, don't even bother if he is there.
Don't leave him, let him leave you.
Think of the child and do everything you can to make him be a responsible father.
I am sorry for what you have to go through but sometimes you have to be stronger for both yourself and the child. The other woman is probably with him just to spite you.

Shadows

By ignoring him as if he is not there in the house .

jeepntomboy

Leave him. He is doing you wrong and you don't deserve it.

Invisigoth

you will never hurt him like he is hurting you because he doesn't feel for you what you feel for him.

Of course you have somewhere to go. If you own your home and you divorce him then you can sue to keep the home.

or you can go rent an apartment for you and your child.

or you have friends and family to turn to

or you can stay where you are and live your lives just as you're doing.

or you can stay where you are and better your life until you're strong enough to leave.

or you can stay where you are and tell him you want to open up your marriage and start dating other men.

you have numerous options for how you move forward from where you are now but none of those options includes revenge because you are never going to make him hurt like you hurt.

I'm sorry for your pain.

Good Luck.

Sarena

Show him you don't care. When my husband cheated I felt the same way. I acted like I didn't care. Went on living my life and being happy and that killed him he came crying back then you can make your move. Spend the next ten years giving him hell letting him know the pain he caused or showing him that you love him the way you say you do. I know many that this has worked for. That way your not just waiting on a man but living a life of happiness too.

Sir Richard

Quick fixes never fix anything and I doubt you will really feel any better. The real problem is you have no options as you can't leave and there is a child. If he has a decent job, the only thing you can do is to divorce him and get monthly $$ out of him. Otherwise, as you said, he doesn't care.

LaLALALA

Will you figure out where he is at with the other women even if you have to take your child with you, you go! And confront him I have gone somewhere and confronted a cheater before.
That is the best revenge of all and trust me he will be hurting when you catch him right in the act and he is like o crap now what.

Blondie

What a hopeless case.

Didn't you get to know him before you married? Looks like another case of fools rushing in......

From what you are saying there is no answer to give you. You say you can't leave as you have no-where to go.

You've made your bed - sleep in it!

Shawaz

just give ur best love & care make him realize what he meant to u just give time to it try to b his dream wife u ll see he will have to return & this this he will b faithful to u

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