How do you manage to stay in love with your husband/wife for a life time?

reena r

1.CHERISH YOUR WIFE. RESPECT YOUR HUSBAND.

The core emotional need of a woman is to be cherished. This is the husband's number one responsibility. That means making her feel loved and appreciated, that she's your number one priority.

A man's core emotional need is to feel respected by his wife. When he comes home, he wants to feel that there is at least one person in the world who thinks he's got what it takes. That means getting off the phone when he walks in the door.

2.TREAT EACH OTHER LIKE GOOD FRIENDS

Under the marriage canopy one of the seven blessings given to the bride and groom is that they should become "beloved friends."

The hallmark of friendship is that each person validates and respects the other person's feelings and needs. Validation means: What's important to you is important to me. It's a key way to make your spouse feel loved.

3. REMEMBER THE FOUR GOLDEN WORDS: LISTEN, COMPROMISE, REPAIR, AND GRATITUDE.

Agree to keep one basic rule at the beginning of your marriage: No matter how upset you are, never launch a verbal attack. Fighting with insults only makes problems worse and erodes the relationship. Instead, implement the four golden words:

Listening: It's essential for working together and solving problems. Allow your spouse to speak without interruption and then repeat what has just been said. This reassures your spouse that he or she was heard.

Compromise: Strive to solve problems where both of you are happy with the solution. Neither one should feel coerced into accepting the other person's point of view.

Repair: When you hurt each other emotionally, repair the breakdown and remove the lingering feelings of anger and resentment. Aim for 100% reconciliation. A little resentment multiplied 50 times can create a wall of bitterness.

Gratitude: You can never say thank you enough to your spouse. Try to notice everything your spouse does for you and acknowledge it with sincere gratitude.

4. ESTABLISH STRONG BOUNDARIES

Your spouse is your number one priority - not your parents, relatives, friends, children, work, or hobbies. Set strong boundaries that show you value your marriage and don't allow anyone or anything to weaken your relationship.

That means meeting your spouse's needs before your parents' needs, coming home with enough time left in the evening to have quality time together, and inviolate date nights.

5. GIVE EACH OTHER PLEASURE DAILY

Marriage is ultimately about making each other feel good and striving to give your spouse pleasure on a daily basis - on his or her terms. If she says she likes lilies, don't bring her roses because you think they're more romantic.

Learn how your spouse prefers to be given to - whether it's physical affection, words of affirmation, receiving gifts, acts of service (like helping out in the house, running errands) or spending quality time - and get in the daily habit of doing it.

You'll enjoy giving more than receiving.

blackdog301664

I don't "manage" to stay in love with her...I just do!

Flyin_Forward

Keep open lines of communication, always be completely honest and go on wild adventures frequently.

BOBBER

Never stop being interested in each others life.

peaches6

If your spouse is your best friend, that helps a lot. Passionate love doesn't last long. You have to like your spouse as a person.

Iam Kanadian

keep it fresh baby keep it fresh....

wnc817

Don't become complacent. Make time for each other and have fun.

Mary

Keep your eyes wide open before marriage, and half-shut afterwards.

roderick_young

Here are some ideas, but I can't argue with whatever works for others.

- Acknowledge that neither of you is perfect, and set expectations accordingly.

- Keep dating even after you get married, even after you have kids, even if it's only once every other week.

- Build something together. It could literally be a house, but it could just be saving towards the kids' education. The main thing is that it's a shared effort and common goal.

SAE

- Staying fresh by trying new things.
- Don't hide your emotions and love
- If something bothers you about him/her speak it out (of course in a proper manner), don't let it get old.
- Try to avoid anger if your spouse is already angry
- Don't compare your spouse with others

Hmm this may be useful :
http://www.aish.com/family/marriage/5_ways_to_stay_in_love_forever.asp

griggle

live on separate continents.

Civic Cat

Dunno, I've been single all my life.

But you might want to talk to some old people.

When I do, they usually refer to accommodation, trying to be understanding, mutuality, and a determination to make it work.

Anna

It is extremely rare for this reason: the in love feeling is actually chemical produced in the brain. After the chemicals have been in produced the receptors eventually get "immune" and the physiological response will subsist. Usually it varies between 9 months and 2 years. However, when the in love feeling or infatuation subsists it can be replaced with deep romantic love which is characterized by trust, affection, mutual respect which is a type of love that is more stable and lasts longer if not forever.

To "groom" a relationship it is important to spend time with each other(such as setting of time, going on dates, getting a babysitter), do those silly romantic things (e.g research shows that calling each other sweet names such as "pumpkin", "beautiful", "darling" will make the relationship stronger). Also doing novel things together such as painting in aprk, white water rafting, waterballoon fights etc (once again proved by research) will make relationships stronger. Furthermore it is important to note that one can fall in love (the physical arousal thingy) over and over if one maintains the relationship... It is as the saying goes "Life is 80 percent maintenance".

persian_baby:)

we should die while we are not too old like in 55, all love is gone when you are getting old ....otherwise i don't really think its possible :DDD

dino003

Gloria the answer is love never dies I know that for a fact. but sometimes love is not enough. im not talking puppy love here cause that is never a lasting thing...good day dear shalom your DINO

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