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sassywv
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Only you will know when you have had enough.
It's like knowing when you are full when you've eaten. Some people eat a bite or two and are full, others a plate full, while some have seconds or thirds, a few seem never to fill up.
I knew I was finished when I could no longer stand to be in the same room with him. I'd stay in bed till he left for work, or in the bathroom until he went to bed, or go visit my parents when he was off work. I always had an excuse for not sitting down to eat with him or watch TV or go places with him. I no longer wanted to be in his company. I had had enough.
My daughter is going through the same thing with her husband right now and my Mom is constantly telling me to talk to her about leaving him and I told her that when she was ready, and only she would know when she was, then I'd be there for her but until then she had to work on it in her own way. |
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ThE gUrL u WiSh U hAd
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when he/she says the four words: we need to talk then after he/she says that you know its over |
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tamika h
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its over...when you're stayin in a relationship for the sake of someone else...in this case, its your daughters....when you're not happy...its time to bounce |
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wilfreds805
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sounds over to me... dont hang on cause of your kids, you might not notice but your probably harming them as well. If they see your happy they will be happy |
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Lyrical Goddess
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Sounds exactly like my marriage. Over. Don't waste your time being unhappy. Take it from me. Move on. You and your daughters will be better, happier women in the end. |
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nitrokev37
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been there done that got the divorce bill get out of it now it aint worth it you will be a lot happier as well as your children |
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samantha
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Well sweetie, I think you answered your own question....In my opinion you know its over when you think you could live without them. Like I said though, you already know the answer....its over, and its sounds like its been over for a while. Just try and make the right decision for your kids. Sometimes staying together is good for them, but if they know that your unhappy together then its probably better for them to get out now. Hope this helps....keep your chin up :) |
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meg[adores jessica simpson] =]
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then you need to find someone who you like being with your girls will be happy with whoever you are.. |
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txhypnotist
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Follow your gut feelings and just end it, you will be better off and so will he. You can't make spoiled milk better can you?
Live to have a healthy relationship, by moving on. |
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seeking
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from all you have mentioned it is ove already, there is clearly no interest. life is to short .live |
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~ steph j ~ The Shepherdess
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Think about how you see your future. would you be happy to grow old with him? If the answer is no either get out now or get help now. |
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TropicalSun
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ITS OVER! Why do you need US to tell you? You already know. Do NOT use "your daughters" as an excuse! |
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mr_scotsguy
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well i think you know its over and for the sake of the kids the best thing to do is finish this relationship. they may be hurt for a little while, but staying and arguing is worse for them..
move on and find a guy worthy of you |
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cinders
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In what way do you think he needs to change? Maybe the fact is that it is you who has changed and now you don't except him as he is. Your changes could be for the best and maybe its now up to you to take the final step. You will always learn and grow as a person by making decisions for yourself. Your daughters will adjust and will get through this with you. It is heart breaking for you to see them suffer due to your decision. But you must not feel guilty. You are as important as them. You need to be able to be happy in order to show your daughters how to love themselves. You are the one who teaches them how to be women. Maybe if they see you taking steps towards a happier you then they in turn in their adult life will do the same.Good luck and be happy.X And also I think you have already decided its over. |
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fenix_1112
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when it is not the same it means its over |
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lou archer
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Oh my love,
what a pickle you're in. I think you know when something is over when you stop considering your partners feelings and needs.
When you don't worry when they're home late, or when you prefer it when they "go out with the lads".
The main thing to remember is a happy mummy = happy kids.
What are you doing that is making you happy, and do you believe that it will make you happy for the next 20 years?
I think that maybe in your heart, you already know what you have to do, but you may not be ready to do it - when the time is right for you to make your decision, whatever the outcome, you will know. Just make sure that the children are happy, and remember, he will always be their dad.
Life is precious, live, love, laugh - breathe. |
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babyboo25
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you would nt be asking if you did nt think it was time to call it a day and surely if you are nt happy splitting while the children are young may cause tears but they will settle into a new routine easier that if you leave it a few more years |
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Rich
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Sounds like its practicaly over allready. You just happen to live together. |
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Ann
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Have you simply asked him if he is happy and loves you? OR talking with him about how you feel. |
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Jeffrey S
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Umm sounds like you already know this relationship has ended. Just facing up to it and plan your life accordingly. People hate change and most live in denial - but you have to be strong for your children. Yes, for whatever rhyme or reason, when the communication stops the relationship fails/dies.
When children are involved you have to be very careful how to explain what happened. Sadly today relationships are like everything else - disposable. Learn from this relationship and remember it takes "two" to make it work.
Good luck to you in your future. |
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emwatts1
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simple - there is no longer that "sparkle" in his eye's when he looks at you. Remember eveyone goes through bad patches but as long as that sparkle can still sometimes be spotted it might be worth fighting for! x |
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timetraveller
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You can't stay for the child even though it is very tempting...The longer you stay the colder the embers become until all that is there is a pile of dirty ashes |
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♥♥♣BABY GIRL♥♥♣
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wen u bothe say its over |
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There is no escape
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When u guys tell each other its over. Marriages/uniions, often fall into a rut. That's just how it is. U can't have fun and be "on" all the time. No one is like that, even by themselves. But if u feel u guys are only together for the kids...talk it over with ur partner, and if he/she feels the same way, and it's not working for u two, spllit. But now that u have kids involved...think long and hard B4 splitting, and try to get help or ideas on how to be happy and stay together, instead of torturing urself for the sake of the kids. |
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lawsonmc11
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Sadness, you don't want a relationship that is just holding together because of a child. My parents were like that and in the end, when they finally divorced everyone was so happy. If you still love this person and want to make it work it sounds like you would have to put some serious effort into it. You guys aren't doing anyone, especially your daughter, a favor by staying together and fighting all the time. |
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raz
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sounds like it is over throw his gear out the window most guys can not take subtle hints (sorry this is being writen by a man just being honest) as for the other questions you have asked no do not give in to his demands (that is rape married or not) get rid of the selfish b*&%*&d.
good luck with your next relationship |
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amyclay350
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well staying in a marriage for the kids is one of the worst reasons you can stay. children are not stupid and can tell when you aren't happy. you don't want them growing up thinking that your behavior (fighting/ignoring each other) is normal. apparently you have been trying to work at it without any long term results. sit down when neither of you is in a bad mood. whether or not it seems like it to you I am sure there are some things that you do that he is not happy with. tell him that you realize that you have your faults and give him the oppourtunity to tell you what you could improve on to make things better. then ask him to give you a chance to do the same. don't get defensive just listen. make an honest attempt to realize your faults and work on them and hope that he is commited enough to do that same. you need to get back to the way things were when you first got together. remember what drew you to each other initially. plan some "date nights" and do things just the two of you that you use to do when you first got together. make a schedule and stick to it. why stay in a marriage for the children? eventually they are going to grow up and move out and then it will just be the two of you. what then? everyone has the right to be happy and if you don't think that you can work things out then leave and find someone who you are happy with. don't waste years and years of your life on account of someone else. when they are older they will understand and honestly will probably respect you more for doing what was right for yourself. marriages aren't ruined by one person. both people contribute to its success and can also contribute to its downfall. give it an honest go and see if you can't remember what brought you together in the first place. |
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courky96
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i geuss when he has intrest in a nother gal |
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malaika
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i think its over when you start asking yourself if you should stay or go, and when you start focusing on all the negative bits about him. bet your daughters want to see you happy irregardless of who you are with |
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