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focus your attention to your partner . Spend more time together , being attracted to new people is normal; but never forget that you are committed to somebody. just think about the good times that you've been through ... |
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Sadbuttrue
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It's definately something you have to work at all the time. Yes, there will be others that will pass by that you are attracted to physically and intellectually, but you have to let them pass. Don't be afraid to enjoy the view. Just keep it moving.
Some people think you have to look at the negative consequences in order to stay faithful. That will only drive you crazy and give you a sense of finality in your marriage. In order for you to enjoy your marriage, you have to enjoy life first. |
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summit_of_human_intellect
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You stay faithful by having the maturity to realize all the terrible things that can happen to your marriage if you stray.(i.e. divorce, child support, loneliness, etc. etc.)
Nothing good ever comes out of cheating. EVER. |
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Catherine E: VT
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It's not that hard to be faithful. I love my husband, and I respect him, and he trusts me. I couldn't betray that trust. Even if I do meet another man that I think is attractive, nothing is attractive enough to make me want to betray the man I love. |
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Drew
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Well being faithful does take effort, but it is something you can do very easily. Other attractive people will always tempt you, but it is up to you to have the will power to stay home and be with one person. its human nature to be tempted, but it is human will power to stay faithful. Good luck i support you. |
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Fuzzie~Bare
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self respect, self control...its a choice one makes! |
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Romans 8:28
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Sometimes it comes naturally....sometimes it takes work; ALWAYS, it takes GOD |
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Monsieur Rick
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I think a lot of it has to do whether you have faith in yourself. Do you know who you are and are you respected and do you have integrity? Do you have a code of ethics, a strong sense of right and wrong, your own boundaries and limitations? Or do you just go from moment to moment?
Your questions are important. We are impacted by all people we meet. Beautiful women are by far the most enticing for me. I have met many irresistible women when I was already in a committed relationship. Aside from that I did not want to complicate my life anymore that it already was because of the normal things that go on in life. That' s probably why I never strayed ever in any relationship I have had.
Being single for 13 years now has allowed me to have a more dynamic life-style and to see and go after more opportunities in relationships and in professional connections.
I think relationships do take work, but they also have a spontaneous quality which give them that spark. I would hope that the emotions you have for your partner would not stay constant--but rather they would go to higher levels of passion and raisings of the bar so as to speak. If they don't you will stray or emotionally die. The vision of dead men and women who do not smile is enough to make you shudder. |
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raven1
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staying faithful in a relationship sometimes does take work.. as years pass relationships change emotionally, physically and mentally. the more you are together in years you may still love that person but not be in love with them.. there will be times you love them but don't like them. and it is human nature to be attracted to certain people, but it is up to you to control the what happens ..if what you have is worth having then it is worth fighting to save at all cost.. |
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scarlet o'hara
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It is human nature to look! But it is willpower, respect and the vow you made upon marriage not to act upon those feelings. As they say 'window shop but dont buy!!!! '
How would you feel if your wife had the same feelings as you??
Better the devil you know mate............ remember fatal attraction!You could put your thought efforts into improving and bettering what you already have.......some people dont realise how lucky they are to be in loving relationship and end up taking it for granted...and then some realise this only after when they have lost it, for what a meaningless bit of fun! |
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chaa107
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For me, meeting new people is normal and it reminds me how much in love i am with my husband. When someone smile I think about how great his smile is. My husband is military and deployed at the time, there is No question that I'm in love and would never ever cheat on him. If you are in love with someone, your love doesnt allow you to cheat because you would be cheating yourself.
ps. yeah I think marriage is a committment but I think that the love is the bond of the committment, not the paper. |
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Suzy Q
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if you really love and respect and care for the person you are married to its not a problem when it becomses a roblem them you well may as well leave and get divorced. |
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Lia
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It's not so difficult to be faithful as long as we love each other with our spouse. |
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Lil Soldier
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I dont I just love her so much that I cant let her go |
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sweetgranny06
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its good for your marrige to remain faithful if its real love it will last forever with no cheating but trust each other |
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Kristin Brooke
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well if you really love the person you will want to be faithful to them and all you ever think about is them....i mean things just have to click with you and that person |
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tony arena
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staying faithful for me has been a very hard thing to do...
in a five year relationship, especially in the begining, i did cheat a lil...but for over 4 years i have been a stand up guy, no matter what women have hit on me...
and no...my love hasnt been constant, there are weeks that the love is strong and at times....like when in conflict my emotions have almost made me stray...
i have stayed faithful because i always think of the hassles that come about to cheat itself...the lying, the trying to find excuses, the level of jealousy that you begin to have when you cheat; for some reason you always think the other person is doing the same to you. plus, its hard to do all that juggling if you have a full life...just think of the pain it would cause if you were caught...is it worth it? if you answer yes, than you shouldnt be with the one your with... |
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Kitty
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It's never been a question of "working on it" for me; once I make a committment, I simply follow it. I keep it "fresh" by not making committments very often. Having had sown plenty of the wild oats helps, too; I know what's on the "other side", and it's not greener. I don't expect my emotions to stay constant throughout my life - this would be unrealistic; but I do expect the general level or responsibility, respect and committment to remain roughly the same. |
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cristanine
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When a wife or husband chooses to seek peace outside of their own home....it's trouble in paradise.
A Man must take consequences for his actions against his spouse and vice versa when they allow themselves to be put in a situation where another mate can touch and feel what is personal to their own.
If a wife seeks an affair only once because she was drunk...it's not justifed for her actions and vice versa.
If you can not handle the responsibility to your self and your spouse then why get married?
A Man can marry a beautiful, beautiful woman, but that doesn't mean that he will keep to himself for the entirety of the marriage if he chooses another elegant woman to be laid upon with because of his lustful desire.
When a husband or wife is confronted with a situation where your fantasies may become reality and you are married...it's best to divorce then hurt one you love by having an affair.
Which is more to hurt?
1. Divorce?
2. Have an affair?
I can answer that for you. They both hurt. |
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TIE
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Marriage is something that comes from Allah(GOD) and that is something you should cherrish forever, marriage is forever. |
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teaparty mama
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Staying faithful is something you have to do for yourself and for your spouse. All I have to say is that people no matter what they are whether it be girl or boy, it is only human to be attracted to other people, it is whether or not you act on it. |
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cherrytmccoy
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Think about not being able to look someone who trusts and loves you straight in the eye because once you betray them in that way you wont be able to. |
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swtlilblonde31
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Everything changes in life and marriage but its wether you believe in your marriage that will keep you faithful, you have to work at things because it can become boring and predictable and that temptation of a new person is there. Depends on how commited you are. |
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jude
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i believe there are temptations in our lives every day, and we have to fight it and be mature enough and honest enough to honor the vow u made to your spouse. emotions sometimes get involved, but we do have to control our emotions, as once we do fall prey to temptations and do step over the line even if our significant other never finds it out we know about it, and our love for our spouse will be forever changed. we may even feel so guilty we will leave that spouse so we don't have to acknowledge what we did. |
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KokoQueen
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Well, if you truly love and respect your spouse staying faithful shouldn't be a problem. Yeah, sometimes you will see or run into someone that you find attractive but that doesn't mean you need to act on it...that is where self control comes in. Just keep it moving. These kind of questions get on my nerves...LOL! |
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BRAT
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I was married for almost 5 years and it was our first and only marriage. I didn't look at another soul or flirt for the first 3 years or so. I was committed and thought I was really happy. I am usually a big flirt and just enjoy the attention of men but I found it easy to be faithful to my husband. I didn't want to hurt this good man. BUT then...things changed and we had our issues and it was as if my eyes were opened on our relationship. We tried to work it out and failed. I just got to feeling like he was not who I'm meant to be with and vice-versa. We divorced and it's hard being alone again. Really hard. I miss some things but know that we made the right choice. I never cheated on him in reality but I did in my mind and that's almost as bad, I suppose. I guess I just wasn't committed enough ? |
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JeffHardy4Eva
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You stay faithful by having a great and loving relationship with your mate! If you can keep the love going strong between the 2 of you then noone else will ever seen so attractive to you that you could cheat on your spouse!
My husband and I have been together for 12 years this tuesday and I still don't think about anyone else! Our love is as strong now as it was then! He still turns me on with just a look or a soft touch. And it's because we've kept the love and romance going strong! |
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Premo Mom
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Even meeting new people, you can think they are attractive, but this is where true love comes in to play. When you really really love and respect a person, you would never want to hurt them and can't imagine being with anyone other than them. You should never become so emotionally involved with anyone other than your spouse. There are unwritten rules involving how close you can become with someone other than your spouse. |
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