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Restless
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He's getting the milk for free, so why should he buy the cow?
The fact that you're still unmarried after NINE YEARS should tell you everything you need to know. |
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ticklemeblue
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And it'll probably be nine more...as long as he's getting the milk for free...he ain't gonna buy the cow...See how that works? Good luck. |
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sexmagnet
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Time waits for no man and neither should you. Love him if you have to, but don't wait for a proposal. He's not interested in marriage. If you need to be married then I suggest you not be with the guy you have now. |
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sweetpea
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9 years is too long. I don't think you are with someone that wants to get married. He is probably getting everything he wants with out being married. |
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Evil Atheist Conspirator
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Leave him and move on. |
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Dems own the House and Senate!
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If you get the milk for free why buy the cow???? |
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act as if
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Sweetie, you need to check the expiration date on your relationship; you are way over due.
I am sorry to say this, but you are just in house nookie for this guy. You will end up alone and bitter with a house full of kids when he moves on to someone fresher and more naive than yourself.
Hurry up and get a life for yourself!!! |
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cireengineering
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If he hasn't already asked you to marry him he probably never will, sorry. |
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You Don't Know Me!
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Wow..that was a long time. He doesn't want to get married. I experienced this myself. I waited 7 1/2 years. I realized it was time to move on. I'm glad I did. I'm in a better place for it.
You need to decided with in yourself how long you are willing to wait for him. If you're not getting what you want it's time to move on. |
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cocochanel
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I dont think he wants tp marry you then....maybe u should discuss it with him and find out if he has any plans for this soon and if not i would move on because its not going to happen |
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suzimizzi
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Up to you!!! we are the creators of our own destiny!! what say You????? |
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Colleen O
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did it ever occur to you over the past nine years that he doesn't WANT to get married? Why don't you ASK him? But it's pretty obvious from where I'm sitting that you've wated 9 years of your life waiting for something that isn't going to happen, it's up to you whether you waste another four waiting. |
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Glen H
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I think is time to move on, 9 yrs is too long, I don't he want to marry with you, you don't have other 9 yrs to waste. Find someone who car about you and respect you. |
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[i <3 u]
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totally get married. Good luck and HAVE FUN! |
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Miranda
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Not a moment longer. Give him an ultimatum. 9 years is a long time to get to know someone. Does he want to get married? |
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ronron
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Hey Girl,
I think you just need to search your heart... You need to ask yourself how important is it that we marry... If you both are happy with how things are then thats good. If your not than you need to talk to him and ask why? Mabey you can reassure his fears... I know after seing many of my friends...Things change after you get married it's not just a piece of paper.... They can get better or worse... You guys just need to do some soul searching... And figure it out togather... |
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pocbr
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You may be ready, but obviously he is not. Continue to accept the situation or cut your losses (years) and move on. |
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grandmabonnie
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I think after nine years, I would tell him to either poop or get off the pot. I can't imagine living with someone that long without marriage - why four more, when not ten or twenty You don't have to wait - get out and find someone who wants to commit but stay out of his bed until you are married to him. Nine years is a long time to be with someone and not be married to them. Why have you waited this long? |
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Mongo
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Nine years is about 5 years too long. Move on for your sake. |
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yukonproud
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I think you've waited long enough!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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derek48316
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if you 29 no if you 19 yea |
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ken123
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Sweety, it seems that you have been encouraging this man to have his way with you. I feel that he is NOT thinking of marrying you because you have been too liberal with him. "Why buy the milk farm when you can get the milking cow for FREE!?" Honey you life and time are precious and it seems he's taking those things for granted.
Some people may tell you that he seems not to be the marrying type. That's rubbish! Tell him him how you feel in the relationship and have him look you in the eye to tell you the truth. |
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Tiss
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Why have you wasted nine years of your life? Do you want a family? It's not like you have unlimited time. Move on. He isn't going to marry you. |
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cabbiela
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no your ready when it feels like the right thing to do there is no time period for you to love someone and know you wanna spend your life with them |
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SweetBrunette
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Within the 1st year, he is to propose to you and have a date set up within a year.
Now is the time for you to leave him. |
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April
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How imp is the paper to you?? at 8 years, it's common law anyway in most states.... does he know that? If the paper is imp, tell him, and give him a dead line. If it isn't, don't bother.... but rememeber if you do give him a deadline, and he doesn't wish marriage, then, hon, you are back to square one, or you leave to find a suitable partner.
"Sam:
I cannot see my life without you in it, but I do wish marriage. There is no way we could know each other better. but just being with you is now no longer enough.... I realize that it is just a piece of paper, but to me it states that we are a committed couple --- to all the world.... that we are a team.... It is now to the point that being married is now as important as just being with you, except now I wish marriage with you... You need to know this. I am gong to leave now. And If I don't hear from you by ________ with a date for us to marry, I will know that I am now free to search for a marriage partner. It will be with sadness, but it will be.."
Then leave, hon.... But be aware that when you draw the line in the sand, that's it....... he comes to you, or you walk.
And if you are not prepared to do that, then leave it as it is. Simple,,,, a no-brainer. |
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Heidi B
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Well, if you live together for seven years, legally you are considered married! It's called commonlaw marriage.. It sounds old-fashioned, but it's still the law! |
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Penny
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Have you actually talked about it w/ him? Maybe you should give him a chance in his defense. |
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butterflywndr
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Well at this point, if you have been with him 9 years and he hasn't proposed, either he hasn't thought about it or he is afraid of it. You really need to sit down and discuss this with your man. If there is something holding him back or you back, maybe you should see a marriage counselor (couple's counselor) and talk things out that way. Otherwise, even in 4 years it may not happen. |
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Leroy
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It's time to cut your losses. Sorry...
He's getting all he wants out of the relationship without the commitment. So, as far as he is concerned, what's the point? Get out of his bed and move on.
Good luck to you...! |
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Mommy of two beautiful ♂
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no more waiting years for u. that is alot of years u are dating 9 years is alot of waiting for u, what are u waiting for???? dont waste ur time girl |
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