How long should you date before proposing marriage?

Its just me

I think you should go for it! When you know... you know. My husband and I dated 1 month when he asked me to marry him. We were engaged for 6 months. Like you, I was 35 and he was slightly older. I wish I would have met this man of my dreams 10 years ago and maybe we could have taken things a little slower but when you get into those 30's and when you know its right, no reason to keep screwing around. I don't regret one minute of it!!

GOOD LUCK TO YOU!

Ashley S

never ever based your decisions on what others think, esp. with something as important as marriage. You know how you feel and you know the details of the relationship- other people do not and cannot know everything you do about it. Therefore, talk to your girlfriend when YOU are ready, and see how she feels and go from there. the only two who need to be in agreement are you and her, no one else.

Freo

Oh, I don't know - How about waiting until you know the person? Novel idea.

Megan B

It is purely dependant on the two people in the relationship. I say you should propose when it feels right for you. But I would also gauge her opinion on marriage and if she would be turned off by a proposal so early. But if she seems like the type who shares your same sentiment: go for it.

Life ain't always easy

I think that 6 months to a year is a good estimate, but only you two know when the right time is.

QbanitaChula

It doesn't matter what people will say. If she's the one for you then talk to her about what she thinks about the whole marriage proposal situation. and then take it from there.

WINSTON G

ask her now. she might say yes.

or, she might get freaked out that you'd even think about getting married after knowing each other for a short peiod.

50/50 chance.... makes life interesting!

D P

a year more before proposal and then a year of engagement to see if even the idea of a commitment between you two actually works. If it does, then start planning the wedding.

mafiaprincessmp

long enough to know its love rather than infatuation or pure lust. and to accept that person for who they are throughour time and still love them this much when you are both old and wrinkley. look up the vows. they shoudl explain what u r commiting to

Kari

If you know she's the one then pop the question, just make sure that she feels the same way with you. Your 35 so you've waited long enough and sounds like you found a keeper.

True

Who cares what everyone says?

You do what feels right. If it feels right after a month, then go for it. If it feels right after 10 years, then go for it.

Spunky

i would say maybe a year or more. u really want to make sure u love them before u make such a big commitment.

nicole b

it all depends on you every guy is going to be different i know guys who did it at 2 weeks and some waited years before doing it

chobalobba

you should ask whenever you feel ready, if you are sure that she is the one for you,,, good luck

Poppet

It's different for all couples. Some get married right away. Some wait YEARS. Do what you feel is right for you and your situation. Don't live your life by what other people think is "too soon" if you do it might end up being too late.

ann

I think that there could still be some unknowns about each other after only 1.5 months, unless you knew her before you started dating and were aware of her traits (good and bad). If you still think she is "perfect"....it's too soon. At least 6 months and a major crisis I would say.

BabeHeart

I wouldn't consider marrying someone I hadn't been involved with for at least 1 yr (and I'm 43). It takes several months just to see if love is going to develop because you cannot REALLY know someone in just a few weeks.

heh the start of a relationship... you always feel that way.. wait a year, or at least6 months... also live with each other at least 6 months to know who they are....

unless you've been with someone though the seasons then you don't know that person, and you may never know that person even after 50 years...

Blondeshavemorefun

When you know, you know.

pmp1377

there is no right answer to this question. You will just know that it is the right time. I would give yourself a little time to get to know not only her a little better but also her family as they will be part of you life as well. As long as you love her and you make each other happy then I say go for it. Good luck!

Miranda

How are you asking us??? lol!

You need to make the decision based on you and your girlfriends relationship. Are we ready for this commitment? Can we learn more about each other? Are we financially responsible?

You can't follow other people's relationships and use it on yours. Make your future.

"When you know, you know" = Crap. Don't only follow your heart. Your heart can be deceptive. (Looks at divorce rates) Ask your mind too.

kim

my mom and stepdad got MARRIED after 1.5 WEEKS - so he had to have popped the question before then...they have been married for 14 years now - Happy as can be - do what YOU want and don't worry about what other people think :)

xRAZORblade_x

as long as you fall in love

prolly like 1 year

Hopeful

My now husband proposed 3 months after we met.... eloped 8 months later and had a wedding 3 years after we met...so really you can get engaged and not get married until 3-6 yrs later if you want to take time to get to know each other but I do not regret anything!
sometimes when you know u just know

bankchick

How does your Girlfriend feel? Only you and your girlfriend can say how long is long enough. And when two people KNOW it's right, then time shouldn't stop them from being together because someone said to wait. Why wait?!?! But make sure SHE wants it also. With no doubts.

fashion_designer_20

dont feel bored from waiting good things come to those who wait!!!!!!! and that s true .try ur self with her . go deep in her character and know her more and let her know ur real person .good luck i wish u find what you want

Queen of Beer

I would wait at least one year. Yes, you feel she is the one for you, but you still don't know EVERYTHING about a person in a month and a half.

chen

no one knows when...i think theres no time limit for you to found out that,.. its the exact time..it depends upon the both of you, the foundation of your love or whatever..

*Crazziii*

Ah...hm..lolz wait atlest 3 months because it is prooven that the first 3 months of a relationship people tend to hide who they really are but if all goes well till the 6th month and she still seems like the one then go for it!

Judy B

In my opinion, people should take it slow, but then again, they can't waste their life wondering what other people are going to think about something they did. Honestly, it sounds like you are madly in love with this woman, but people do change over time and the new does wear off sometimes. I would wait up until 6 months, see where your relationship is, but don't be afraid of what others will say.

Dawn D

I would say 6 mos..you're both adults and when its right its right although I do say after 3 months you should know if you still feel the same and by 6 months if all is good and you are both ready then go for it!!

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