How long will it hurt??????????????

Adel

Just look on the bright side of things, and know that she obviously isn't the right person for you since she didn't treat you with love like you treated her. Just think about other things that you need to do instead of busying yourself thinking about her - hopefully in the future you will meet someone who is more right for you. Good luck

tORn

"when God closes one door He'll poen another". you should'nt be too negative. look on the bright side, you let go of the pain she has given you. cry all you want, drink all you want but only you can tell how long it would hurt if you continue hurting yourself.

Simian J

How long with it hurt? It is called the x2 rule. You take the amount of time since you have known her and divide it by 2. for example 7yrs/2 = 3.5 years.... Meaning, after 3.5 years you will be completely over her...

bountyman181

Well man I don't know what to say all i can say is try your best to forget even though its gonna hurt but you will gt through it

BigPappa

If you get a divorce, it will be one of the definitive lessons of your life. You can expect some scarring and some introspection. Some anger.

I would say, that you don't need to "move on," so much as learn to experience the good things that life has to offer again.

You know, I'm not divorced, but my parents are when I was kid.

Now, I'm a stay at home dad, with three kids and a wife with a pretty important job who's gone 60 or more hours a week.

You can bet, that when my children aren't with me, I go and enjoy a good meal at a restaurant by myself, or with a good old friend. I sit there and realize all the good things I have, and while I know, you may feel like the best thing you ever had is gone (empathy runs in my family - causes problems sometimes too - social anxiety and whatnot - enough about me and mine) there is so much more to life than a woman who would injure you so.

Somebody wants to love you, whenever your ready to see them.

Kellie B

please tell me not this past tuesday thats when my divorse came final im glad its done with because he hit me but i miss him even though i was abused by him and i really need to get over him for me so i guess were in the same boat aint we but i hope to move on and find some one to love me not use me as a punching bag email me at kellie75972@yahoo.com if you need to talk? my sister is helping me through it and i really needed her because its so hard to go home at night and no one talk to two story house and its just me.

David

Bud, there are lots of girls out there. You'll find the one that digs you for who you are and visa versa. So throw a couple back, hang with some buds and relax. DO NOT CALL HER! Move on...it gets easier with time, Keep your mind on anything else.

Talkstress

It is going to be very hard. A heartbreak such as this lasts for a long time. However, you have to be strong and start working on making yourself a better man..for YOU not her.

njspanteach

Without knowing too much about your relationship, I would say to spend some time by yourself reexamining yourself, your actions and words. Ask yourself if you are the person you want to be. If not, then how can you change? If so, then spend some time reaffirming that through prayer and meditation. Read, relax and recharge.

Give yourself at least a year between relationships, so in the mean time, develop your interests, spend time with friends and family, or travel.

Good luck!

pink daisy

If life was easy we would all be bored. Nothing is easy, especially when you love someone but you have to do what is best for you both. It was best that at least one of you knew it was better to end it before things got harder or you hurt each other more than you already had;. Love isn't easy and we all have to go thru ups and downs but marriage is hard enough without additional baggage.

Angela

It may not be an answer that you want. But the truth is that time will help you move on. Also, what I found to help is to keep yourself busy. Think of things you've always wanted to do or accomplish.

Maybe some self improvement things you've been wanting to do. Read more, hang out with friends more, lose a few pounds, if pounds aren't a concern, buff up a little. Try to get healthy, whiten your teeth.

Then main thing to look for is things that help you feel better about yourself and your life. The worst possible thing you could do is try to get in another relationship. Eventually the thought that if you met someone else would get her off your mind or make you "forget her".

It won't help you forget, you wouldn't get over her, and you would just get more problems. Trust me. Been there, done that.

kamsmom

first learn to accept the things that you can't change. You can't be upset about things you don't have any control over. You will drive yourself crazy doing that. You also have to move on and try not to dwell on the past. I know it sounds stupid but it worked for me.

Engage Me

How long were you married? Take the # of years and divide it by 4 and that's how long it will take for you to get over it?
example: 20 yrs divide by 4= 5. It will take you 5 yrs to get over the marriage and at that time you can remarry.

cheers :)

Simone T

Im sorry =(. I will hurt for awhile but eventually day by day it will get easier. I had to allow myself to mourn the relationship a bit. Then it became easier to move past the hurt and pain. Good Luck..it will take some time especially since you still love her.

kellzy

it's gonna be hard at first, then you'll meet someone that will take mind off of your ex enough for u to function.

abc

it's only been this week.....it will take longer than a week.......relax....

Annie

It just takes time...... you need to first let yourself feel all the emotions and the ups and downs..... and then you need to let yourself get to know yourself.... reintoduce yourself to who you are in side..... get to know the new you before you make anymoves..... just relax and let it flow my friend..... there is no instruction book on the hows and whens of this sort of thing...... we greive, mourn, get mad, sad, all the emotions just need to flow throw ya and then one day you will wake up and it will all be behind ya.... you will not be the same, but a new and improved you....... the main thing is to take what you have learned and use it wisely in the future....... God bless

opjames

It will take time. It's not easy, but it will get better.

Angie

I'm sorry you are hurting. Emotional pain is relative to each person, and so no one can tell you how long it will hurt, or what you need to do to move on, we have to struggle to find it for ourselves. My best advice, however, is not to shut yourself in and just keep the same monotonous routine, get up, go to work, come home, go to bed. Grab a friend and go to a movie, or a drink.
Good luck.

lilfishyswimmer

one way that you could move on is to start dating again.

hcj25

Its really hard but with it only being a week its still pretty fresh all i can say is time will ease the pain just try to keep yourself busy to keep your mind off things good luck

Platinum T

Sweetheart, let me tell you i've been hurt plenty of times and the only way to get over it is to get back out there and show her that she didn't hurt you at all cuz trust me we women knows when a good man has been hurt. She will regret what she did to you when she finds out that nobody is going to treat her like you did.

grams2faith

I'm sorry you are hurting, but this will pass in time. The amount of time is up to you. It took me a long while before I was able to be completely over my ex. Some of the things you used to do will change with you as time allows. Everything will change and new things will venture along your path. Then you will realize that your ex was just a smaller part of your life's tapestry. The hurt will subside and you will rest easy again one day. Until then try to stay busy and take care of your wounded heart. It is ok to hurt and ok to cry...that's how we learn and grow.

angelfire22

Just know that she wasn' t the one for you and try to be optimistic. Focus on work and your social life, and you'll soon forget about the negative feelings asociated with your divorce.

krazykat4u

It will take awhile to get over the hurt. Make sure to take things slow and let yourself heal before moving on because moving things too quickly will only cause more pain to yourself or to someone else!!

CaseyK

Time, time and time. I really hated some of the things I used to like when I was married after the divorce but then, I meet some one who just flat out told me, if I liked doing those things why do I have to hate them now just because I am divorced? The other person changed and left. You don't have to. After 2 years I am starting to enjoy somethings I thought i would always hate after my divorce. Good Luck

lovebug23

Ask God To Mend Your Broken Heart,So That You Can Move On . To Find The Person He Made Just For You, And He Can Do It.Hope You Feel Better:)

crimsonskies12474

You know what I did? I got a new dog, I endulged in those "little things" that I always loved but he found annoying (for example: if she hated you watching sports, call the cable company & subscribe to the biggest sports channel package they have!!), go and rent those movies from Blockbuster that you thought were awesome but she rolled her eyes at because she "just didn't get it", get yourself an account on Myspace and look up old friends from school, go out and buy all those little things at Wal Mart that you wanted but you were afraid she'd nag you about because they "weren't necessary" (example: buy that razor that costs $2 more! Buy REAL butter instead of margarine! Get that wacky pair of silk boxers, and run around in just them at your place on your day off!), stay up all night and answer other people's questions on Yahoo Answers because trust me you'll find some doozies that will highly amuse you on here, find a great on line game site to get obsessed with..

The key is concentrating on what makes you happy, and to getting in tune with the things that you deprived yourself of for her sake. Trust me, it takes some getting used to. But before you know it, you'll be saying, "Wow.. I really missed me.."

tmackamack

be careful things at this point can spiral out of control ...take time to remember who you are and the fact that there was or is something about you that is special or she wouldnt have picked yu in the first place... 2 distane yourself frome things you both shared ...ie friends what nots places ect... and finally date ... dont wait there is really no need .. just make sure the new person knows that your on the rebound and dont dwell on it tell them and let it go dont talk about it unless they want to but not too much even then that chapters closed

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I'm sorry you had to go through a divorce. But the only way to move on is only when you, and only you have decided to move on. No one is in control of how you feel, so it will take the time you need yourself to heal. Some of the suggestions to move on is to fill your time with as much activities as you can do in one day everyday. Read a book, take a vacation, get a pet, learn a new language, whatever outrageous things you fancy. The hurt will always be there, but hopefully the new activities can keep your mind off of all that has happened.

luckystar

it really depend on the people involved. when a door closed
regardless of theoutcome it hard but as time go on the
heart will heal and things will get better for you. just take
one day at a time. life will go on. it just take time.

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