How many chances should I give my cheating wife?

Dr. Doom

Fooled me once, shame on you.
Fooled me twice, shame on me.

You can rest assured that if you permit it to go on, she will happily continue to do so.

She violated your agreement not to have contact. She clearly isn't interested in saving the relationship and is willing to risk losing you to remain in contact with him. What else do you need to make a decision about this?

janinenc2002

I think you gave her all the chances she deserves. It's hard to move past cheating and trust that person again, and the only way it will really happen is if both people are working towards it. She is obviously not interested in giving up this man. If you feel you must give her one more chance, tell her it is her last and that if she can't live up to her end of the bargain, you will be asking her to leave permanently.

BECKER

after the first time,,,gone!!

scott_v1963

At least one more chance...(I haven't boinked her yet.

amace020

Grow a pair.

tiltintam

Let her go & find a woman that deserves to be your wife. So sorry to hear about this.Wishin' you the best of luck in finding a new wife. Don't keep putting yourself through the heart ache.

3DDD

Tell her you are taking her on a trip and carry her by the army base and dump her off. Zero tolerance.

gozedown

Dude you married a s l u t . She's never going to change so leave her now

keithyas

Give her the boot....

girl

Leave her

rogdogg187

NONE. ARE U PU$$Y WHIPPED?

hisandhers

It's time to move on. She is obviously not going to put your marriage first. Even if she tries to tell you that "nothing is going on, we're just talking" kick her to the curb! The problem is that she already cheated, lied to you repeatedly, and does not care how this continued contact is affecting you. CYA!!! If you have proof of what she has been up to, KEEP IT! You will need it when you file, because chances are it will hurt her pride and she will fight you. She screwed up, but a person like that is very capable of trying to screw you financially and any other way as well (especially if she still wants you around). I tell you this because I have seen it, and sorry to say that a woman who can manipulate her husband, can manipulate at least one other person into feeling sorry for her. Remember that if she still wants to "work on the marriage" she is lying. She just needs you around for convenience, not love. You have to take care of yourself. Can you honestly be happy and trust her again anyways?

Don't cha?

Divorce her lying, cheating @ss and find a good woman. Then get therapy and find out what you did to make her do that to you.

river_runs

later with her

nighthawk

I guess it depends on what you want to do in your heart. She has proved repeatedly that she isn't sincere in her promises to you both in her marriage vows and in staying away from this person after the affair. Do you want to invest your time and life in a person that you can't trust? To me, that is worse than being alone, but that is my opinion and choice.

You need to decide what is right for you. If being with her is worth subjecting yourself to this dishonor and disrespect, try to get her to consoling and work things out. Hopefully, the counselor can sort out your individual needs, desires, and commitments to resolve the issues each of you have. Also, they may help you make the decision to stay or leave, which is the most prominent concern in my mind.

I wish you peace and happiness.

zartsmom

Well, since you've asked her to cut off contact, and she has promised to do so but has not, I would suggest you tell her that since she clearly has feelings for this guy, and since she clearly does not respect your feelings enough to break off contact with him, you are going to leave on September 1. That gives her some time to make up her mind what she wants to do, and it gives you some time to find a new place and get used to the idea that you are doing what you have to do. She apparently doesn't think you'll leave. Show her she's wrong. Give her a date certain, and then follow through.

Meanwhile, don't deplete your joint bank accounts or anything, but do protect yourself. Open a new bank account in your name only and pay whatever household bills you have to pay out of that - it doesn't matter whether she knows about it now or not, if you are going to divorce, she'll find out about it during the proceedings, but at least it is something she doesn't have access to during the next few months. If she does believe you'll actually leave, you could find your joint checking account drained on August 30. To the extent possible, pay off and close joint credit cards, and pay close attention to the mail - check all active cards to make sure she's not taking cash advances or otherwise overspending. Go to Experian.com and make a notation on your credit report to keep anyone from getting credit in your name without your knowledge. Protect your future while you're trying to figure out what to do with your present.

Good luck.

ideratherbefishin

LOSER....read the handwriting on the wall. Your wife is a good for nothing ho....time to move on...unless you like tasting where other men have been before you.

sweethonesty

I think she needs help. You mentioned that she kept on promising not to do it again everytime you caught her, well, it is not normal. Ask some help from a psychologist for her. If she doesn't like the idea, ask a help from a marriage counselor. If she still doesn't like the idea or if it won't work, then you better decide whether to leave her or not. If I were you, after doing all possible recourse, I'm gonna give her one LAST chance and if she did it again, I'll leave her.

JULIE

dump her she obioviouly wants him

GoldenGirl

You need to leave your wife. Sorry but she doesn't respect you or value your feelings and the relationship. This isn't how marriage is suppose to go "Hey I cheated you forgive me, Oh baby I cheated again sorry baby". You need to see the picture clear for what it is she rather be with other men.

â™¥My 2 Centsâ™¥

well you have a bad love situation and its not going anywhere and the only way to go from here is out the doot, you may not want to hear it, but what you are doing by staying there is only hurting you now and for in the future with your next relationship, if you REALLY want her, the best test to give her is to move out and show her that you can move on and be happy or atleast appear that way with somone infront of her, she may get so jealous she will releaize what she lost and ask for you back if not than it really is over

klynnd1981

once after that she is not serious about your marriage anymore

Phaylynn

Next time you catch her, pack your bags and walk out. And don't talk to her on the phone. Give her at least a week without you and then if you still want to give her one last chance then go back. It might do wonders for her if she really thinks she lost you. If she does it again contact a lawyer and divorce her ***.

shanilrocks

mail him 2 bullets and ask him to choose 1.For her...break the ho

Belle

You really answered your own question. "Each time" How many times does it take?

DUMP HER BUTT!! She isn't gonna stop.

micky3966

It's time to move on! Seriously.

B1979

Depends on how much you can take. I would invite her ex-boyfriend over for a threesome. Tell your wife he can nail her as long as your there.

googlywotsit

Everyone deserves a second chance-any more than that and they are prone to use you like a doormat...sorry bud, but it sounds like she's wiping her feet on you.
Disconnect from the internet for a start! And don't give her the freedom she's used to-she lost that right after you found out for the second time she was going behind your back! Take her mobile from her too-people did actually live without them not long ago.
If she can't live with that for a while, consider marriage counselling or divorce, perhaps?

good luck. You don't HAVE to be treated like a fool.

mimismom

give her an altimatum it is either him or you

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