How many years should you be in a relationship, before you decide to get married?

brwneyedgrl

theres no set time limit, u just have to make sure your making right choices in your life.. that ur not rushing in on something with immature thoughts or unrealistic ideas of what u think marriage is , or who u are marrying.. if u go into a marriage with a mature additude.. and not just because u think thats the next course to take, then theres no set time limit.. usually the longer ur with someone the more u get to know the person, the better off u are.. but theres been successful marriages that have known each other a short period of time, and there have been bad marriages that failed that were together for years.. so it just depends on the people, the commitment and making smart choices in who ur marrying and its always a leap of faith because there are no guarantees..

Zelina W

Here is what my opinion is...

Before marrying someone- you need to do the following things.

Spend all 4 seasons with them. People are different in the winter (depression) than they are in the summer.

See them sick
See them drunk (if you drink)
See their coping skills with stressful situations
See how they treat their parents and family
See how they deal with jealousy
See them in times of money troubles
and see how they deal with death.

These are all the things that will come up in life- that break up a marriage.

I personally believe at LEAST a year!!

jellybeanchick

I think it depends on how old you are.

If you are very young, like still college age or even younger, you should probably wait at least a few years. People change a lot at that age, and you don't want to get married then find out that your spouse is a completely different person a couple years later.

On the other hand, people who are older may only need to date for a year or even less before getting married. By then, they have hopefully had a lot of experience dating (or even a previous marriage), and HOPEFULLY they have learned from those experiences what they are looking for in a partner. Additionally, older women who want kids have a ticking biological clock, and it may not be reasonable for them to wait 5+ years to get married.

Ultimately, it varies from person to person. You should date as long as it takes to get to know the person and figure out whether or not you want to spend the rest of your life with them.

Smark

Studies have shown that the "seven year itch" is really more like a 4th year one. So, I'm thinking getting married at like 4.5 would be a good idea, so you can not only sort of renew your feelings, but you will be past the worst of it (hopefully). And if you don't make it past that, then you can be sure that a marriage wouldn't have saved you.

Courtney K

It shouldn't be about how long it should be about how much you love them and how ready you both feel. But don't move too quickly.

Bree13

atleast 4 i think so something close

nikki (:

A couple.

Of years.

Vinny M

i was with my wife 6 years before we got married but any amount is right if its right for you

ÃŸ@ÃŸÂ¥ D0LL

3-5, when ur truly in love

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5O-nMN7nApE

p.s. make sure u have lived together b4 u actually get married

:)

Hannah N

its diffrent for every one but i think about 3-4

Dodilicious

3 years ..

Ash

The decision to get married should be based on love and commitment. It shouldn't follow any given time period.

John Holmes

6 months

Marriage is a marvelous institution that no family should be without

Fergy

Here you go now. Pay attention. My folks were married for 44 years before my dear Mother died and they knew each other only 6 weeks before they were married....Now then, I know of a couple who dated for 4 years and then married and they divorced a year later. So as far as I can figure there is no set time on dating before marrying one another. Follow me?

scissorsforyou

enjoy th relationship , dont ruin it by getting married

TECHNOLEBNENEHABiBTi

3-5

Falcon_01

It depends. If you know you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, that's when. I asked my wife to marry me on our first date. We've had our share of ups and downs since, but we've been married over 5 years. :-) Marriage is about commitment, and not looking at giving up as an option when you hit a rough spot. When you both agree to always try to work things out (with the exception of abuse or adultery/ that sort of stuff), you set a precedence on doing so, and wind up happier as a result. If you're both "equally yoked" and well-balanced people, it can really help... when in doubt, pray on it. :-)

anosey1

I believe it really depends on where you are both at in life. If you are young and in college, marrage talk should come after.
However, I think after about a year, you should know where you stand with this person and if the relationship can progress to marriage.

It depends on your age. If you start dating in HS then Id say be together for 7 to 10 years. So say you started dating at 17 then consider marriage at 27 (10 years).
However if you are late 20s or older I would say wait no longer than 5 years with a man. If he isnt talking about marriage by 5 years then DUMP HIM because he never will marry you. Longer than 5 years is ridiculious for adults to wait!

davidovian

as long as need be, surely not less then 1 year.

letterstoheather

It depends upon the people and situation.

Years don't matter, but discussion about the future, finances, having children or not, how you are going to live, individual responsibilities, etc needs to take place before saying "i do".

And we also need to realize the person we are getting isn't going to change into someone different after we get married. So, if they are a slob, or a drunk or cheater, they won't change. Same for someone who is caring and responsible.

DanLynn27

My fiance and I will have been together 3 years; we were both job hunting and finishing up school. The norm seems 3-5 nowadays.

mskemp2B

I don't think theres a right or wrong answer to how long, It depends on the relationship. You don't want to marry someone you "hardly" know. I def suggest you live together first. That will give you an idea, of how things may go.

Kris

it could be anywhere from 1 month to 20 years. :)

Japanluvr

1-3 i think is good but my sister was a littlle over 11 years. Just whenever you feel comfortable.

K Mahesh

Duration is depends on both's love and understanding.

OJ Simpson

5, any earlier and you'll explode

Jenjen

well it depends when you start your relationship.
I'm in one right now and it's been a year but I'm only a senior in high school. Lets just say this one lasts then I'll probably date him for 9 years. So I just think it all depends on when you want to get married.

Amanda W

There is no time span on love. Get married when the both of you feel it's right, and not a moment sooner.

amare

It depends on the couple. Sometimes if people have been friends for years before they enter a relationship they get married quickly. Some people are not ready for a committment and need to wait longer periods to get married. There is no set time; each couple is different.

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