How much time should I give my cheating wife?

Caitlyn

She can't have both of you at the same time. I know that you love her but you need to stand up for yourself. Is it worth it to love somebody who doesn't love you anymore? She might tell you that she loves the both of you and that is why she is not sure which one to choose. If I were you I would give her an ultimatum. Pick you or the other guy NOW. If she picks the other guy then be happy about it. You'll feel miserable for a while and you might doubt your decision. But sooner or later, as long as you be strong, you will get over it. If she picks you, you have to be sure that you can trust her not to cheat on you ever again. Because if you don't trust her then there is no point of accepting her back. It is good that you love her, BUT, love is a 2 way street. If you love somebody who doesn't love you then you need to move on and find somebody who does.

vtx.1800retro

i'd give her 60 seconds to make up her mind.
If shes still undecided, i'd decide for her, by throwing her out on her **** and burning her clothes on the front lawn.

Cheryl B

Try NO. If she's cheating and ends it, it won't be long before she goes on to another. No man or woman should put up with a cheating mate. If you aren't good enough to be faithful to, then she isn't worth the heartache. Dump her.

~life sucks~

no, do you want to be her 2nd choice until she figures out what she wants. You tell her choose now or you'll choose for her and SHE's out the door.

Flamingo

Um, there's no nice way to put this. Stop being a doormat. Have you ever heard the expression "You can't have your cake and eat it too."? You are allowing your wife to do just that. Demand it stop at once and that she attend couple's counseling with you.

beckinvegas

Can't believe you gave her this long. Kick her to the curb! She does not respect you!

getmymackon

Hell are you crazy?? Give her a few more months?? I'd give her the door.

~~*Paradise Dreams*~~

Dump her cheating butt, you are better then that, you deserve a woman that is going to be true to you. Or just get a younger, hotter mistress and see what SHE thinks!

erin b

you are being a doormat, you need to man up and kick her to the curb. how do you respect yourself letting someone treat you like that.?

Sukotash

you already gave her 13 years, she blew it. bye bye.
you want to stay married while she 'makes up her mind' ?? are you out of yours?

Hollynfaith

Is this question in regards to how long you should give her to pack her bags? I hope so honey, because this just isn't right. I don't care what the situation is, there is no need for you to have to endure this while she makes up her mind. I think her mind was made up when she decided to get involved with someone else. You didn't sign up for this, you don't deserve to be on stand still if her fling doesn't work out. Give her an ultimatum today.

simimike b

you need to dump her now my wife did the same thing to me and i left her im all good now.

Anna_Phylactic

You are allowing her use you.
There are plenty of women out there who are faithful, and want to be married to a faithful man.
Maybe you should find one of those girls.

Tbone

As far as time, I would give her 3 years in an electric chair.

kba1a

Cut your losses, cut her loose and get on with your life. I would hire a P.I. to get evidence for the court. There have been cases where she cheats and still takes you to the cleaners. Sorry for your situation, I do hope it gets better for you.

Chyna =)

Give her the boot

~Josie~

You're 3 months behind time - you should have kicked her *** to the curb when you found out in May! There's no excuse for a lousy cheat! I've been married for 13 yrs too, never cheated and never cheated on, but I can tell you that if it ever did happen, see ya, bye bye, nite nite! I'd be GONE!

HappyBunny

None

mark j

are you serious Clark?

not another day leave her selfish *** now, she does not deserve a good man like you.

olympia

You love her to much - this is not healthy - let her go

Butterfly

You should break it off immediately. divorce her as soon as possible. why are you dealing with this situation? where is your self esteem? u know about it and u allow it, she knows that u know and she doesnt care about it. she obviously doesnt love u cuz she is cheating on u and she doesnt even care that u know about her cheating. have some self esteem and leave her.

short_mommy_20

Not to be rude which i'm not, your wife sounds as if she really isn't sure what she wants.. It sounds like she's keepin you as a back up just incase the second guy doesnt work out. It's not right that she's playing you like that especially since your emotions are getting played with. Do you have children at all? If so it's not healthy for them either. I wouldn't give her anymore time to play you like this. You deserve better and deserve someone who wont cheat on you or play you like that. I hope things work out for you. If you need more help just instant message me. Good Luck! Be safe.

purple flower

yeah you love her, but does she loves you, apparently not, even for the last two years. what are you still doing there? if she isnt sure about a divorce then she should cut it off with the affair but if she cant you really cant give her another few more months.

BigKev 2 (level 5)

I'd give her one second & tell her to piss off.

So she's not sure if she wants a divorce or not. What a hide - she seems to be weighing up her options as to whom she'll best to be with financially.

How did you find out? Did she tell you? Do you think she'll stop playing around now that she's started?

Bite the bullet & give her the flick - you'll be far better off in the long run. There's plenty more fish in the sea.

Mike

I don't know, how long does it take to cheat?

Darby

You are a better person than me. She broke her wedding vows, she disrespected (understatement) you. Seems like she's got the best of both worlds--the security of a home and husband and the freedom to run around like she's single without any need to exercise self control. So what if she decides to leave you in a few months so she can be with this guy full time. If you want to live this way, then by all mean, go ahead. Hopefully, she's not bringing HIV or herpes home to share with you.

GarciaCarmen

none at all fu** her and move on she is and its better to leave her before she leaves you for that other guy.

Scratchy_Joe

your stupid

That's why she cheated on you....get some passion man

Z3RO Infinite

look i know this from seeing it in my family u will TRY to forgive her but no matter how hard u try to understand u will always have some resentment for her cheating on u and eventually ur gonna cheat on her then shes gonna get back at u by cheating again and so on and so on so the best thing is to get a divorce or if u plan on giving her another chance don't tell ur family about her cheating on u because they will always think about that when ur with her and them

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